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What would you think of this text?

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Chelseajunior · 02/03/2019 17:19

Background:
Me and dp have been together 11 years, 2 dd's.
Have just found a sent message on his phone to a number I dont know saying 'I'm in car park with Gemma'.

I have never heard of a Gemma.

I've tried calling the number on withheld but switched off.

What's the best way to challenge him on this? He's at the gym and left his phone at home. I need to know what to say when he returns in an hour.

Shall I just come out with it and put him on the spot and say 'who's gemma' as soon as he walks in?

Name changed and sorry for typo's - I'm panicking!

OP posts:
Tequilamockinbird · 02/03/2019 21:55

Whaaat?

Surely the text should read 'It's Gemma, I'm in the car park' if this was true?

Mammatron · 02/03/2019 21:57

My line of thought was... Gemma phones dealer to ask for weed for OP's fella, dealer arranges to drop off then texts to find out exactly where they are (as he doesn't know what the DP looks like) the DP replies to say he's in the car park with Gemma!

Kneehigim · 02/03/2019 22:05

@Mammatron, that would make sense alright!

Kneehigim · 02/03/2019 22:06

Anyway, he sounds like a keeper!

JockTamsonsBairns · 02/03/2019 23:38

@mammatron absolutely no dealer ever comes out at 1.30am to deliver weed. Coke yes, but not weed.

yma123 · 03/03/2019 00:07

@JockTamsonsBairns loool yes they will, clearly you know some crappy dealers

JockTamsonsBairns · 03/03/2019 00:13

Ok, the ones coming out to deliver in the wee small hours of the night for miniscule profit will be very far down the supply chain. I don't generally know those types.

Nellieelephant · 03/03/2019 00:14

*Gemma texts off DP's phone, 'I'm in the carpark with Gemma'.

Clear as mud*

Indeed! OP have you asked your DP wtf he’s talking about?

yma123 · 03/03/2019 00:16

@JockTamsonsBairns yeah but 1:30am is hardly the "wee hours", and if the OP is living in a decent sized city then there would definitely be dealers up and about at that time willing to drop off, and they wouldn't exactly be few and far between?

JockTamsonsBairns · 03/03/2019 00:29

Fair enough. I'm basing my knowledge on what happens in Glasgow - a huge city notorious for its drug scene. Dealing weed is 'small time', there's very little money to be made in it, and it definitely wouldn't be worth coming out to make a delivery of a few joints' worth at half one in the morning. Not worth the money, and not worth the risk.
I fully accept it might be different in other areas though.

Kel801 · 03/03/2019 00:43

I think that looking through his phone is the problem in the relationship not the texts found on it .

Klopptimist · 03/03/2019 00:49

If pusherman grew it himself then there's at least £20 gross profit involved and only increases in multiples thereof. There's the added bonus of impressing Gemma if he thinks she's 'fit af' so there is some plausibility here.

GiantButtonsAreMyFave · 03/03/2019 01:28

I don't get why it's so suss? My husband will go out with old work colleagues once every blue moon, one of them doesn't drink and always drives. I can't remember what her name is? If I found this text on my husbands phone I'd think "oh must have got a lift home with her, probably got separated from the group so was texting someone in the group just to say they were in the carpark".

My first thought wouldn't be 1.30am wild affair in a carpark. Are you generally suspicious of your husband? You must be to take so much from that message.

Kneehigim · 03/03/2019 01:37

Jock, you're not really painting yourself in a good light here! Grin

Completely beside the point, but a couple of months ago, on a whim, I decided that a joint was what I needed. A good night's sleep was what I needed
I realised that I wouldn't have the foggiest notion of how to go about sourcing some. That was a sobering thought! I'm no longer hip with the groove, down with it or with it at all half the time

GunpowderGelatine · 03/03/2019 01:45

This is a weird thread.

You're really honestly ok with your OH, father to your 2 children, meeting random women to buy drugs at silly o'clock and allowing them to text dealers off his phone?

Fuck, women really have been conditioned to have low standards haven't they. If my DH was scoring drugs off a dealer at 1.30am I'd be showing him the door

andypudding · 03/03/2019 01:58

Have to agree with this

*This is a weird thread.

You're really honestly ok with your OH, father to your 2 children, meeting random women to buy drugs at silly o'clock and allowing them to text dealers off his phone?

Fuck, women really have been conditioned to have low standards haven't they. If my DH was scoring drugs off a dealer at 1.30am I'd be showing him the door*

He's not working either, but has cash for drugs. Nice.

esk1mo · 03/03/2019 02:42

oh jock stop embarrassing yourself

if someone sells weed, and that is their source of income, why would they NOT go to a sale? i doubt they go to bed at 9pm sharp.

i say this as a Glaswegian, my city is not NOTORIOUS for its drug scene 😂 more like notorious for irn bru and a football rivalry.

amilosingitor · 03/03/2019 03:07

I'm a paranoid type, but I would be curious if he was on a night out etc why did he text a random number/how did he know that random number, if it's not saved in his phone and he was in the car park with Gemma!! Weird

ScarletBitch · 03/03/2019 03:12

He has no job but money for weed? Sounds delightful

HollyBollyBooBoo · 03/03/2019 03:12

I still don't get who Gemma actually is?!

Parly · 03/03/2019 03:17

Can't help but it reminded me of a morning my husband got a call from some really angry bloke shouting and bawling and demanding to know who he was talking to.

"Who is this?"
Husband - "Hang on... you called my number who are you?"
"Never you fucking mind mate there are missed calls to and from this number and I wanna know just whose phone this is!!
Husband - "Well I'll tell you what, if you say who you think I am or what it is you're revved up about I might be able to help but I am not having some shit-wad call me at this time of day demanding anything out of me"

Long silence

"Oh no hang on.. is that you?"

One of the lads that works for my husband had used his wife's phone when on site the day before and the prick was so highly strung and paranoid it didn't even occur to him to think before dialling the number back.

How super intensely paranoid can someone be and what must life be like for his poor Mrs Sad

As I say can't help but maybe think it over and try clearing your head and not just going nuts with the worst case scenario.

Could be a wrong number, completely crossed wires or it might be something to be concerned over but think it through first. Don't go doing a bell-end "Dave" job and jumping the gun.

jemihap · 03/03/2019 04:27

So doesn't work, has 2 kids yet can afford to smoke, drink, do drugs and go out clubbing.

Nice life.

Nanna50 · 03/03/2019 04:45

@JockTamsonsBairns: absolutely no dealer ever comes out at 1.30am to deliver weed. Coke yes, but not weed.

The dealer may have been inside the club or it could have been deals on wheels, no need for a special trip.

Dimsumlosesum · 03/03/2019 05:59

No job but smokes weed etc. What a loser.

SparkiePolastri · 03/03/2019 06:34

Don't fancy yours much, Chelsea.

Classy. Real classy.

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