To not go to friends wedding tomorrow...I'm the bridesmaid

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I had a baby 3 months ago and she isn't sleeping on a night at all.
I'm lucky if I get 2 hours sleep.
I'm exhausted to a point I feel sick.
My friends wedding tomorrow and I'm bridesmaid but I know tonight I will be lucky to get even 3 hours sleep so I'm going to be in no fit state.
I feel so sick and exhausted with tiredness.
Aibu to tell her I can't go?
The wedding is at 1pm but she wants me over at 9am for makeup and hair.
I don't know what to do

You should go. Most children don't start to sleep through until 2 or 3 years. You can't just not do anything for years because of it.
It's your best friends weddjng and you've made a commitment to her

Award for not rtft goes to Jessie94

Go at crack o sparrers and have a kip at brides house while waiting for your turn at makeup and just say you feel ill... Dysentery or something deadly viral they might send you home! meantime

Cancel the cheque and go.

Well done OP

I think it would be very risky to your friendship not to go. Get someone to babysit for a few hours so you can get some sleep and in the morning have a shower and a large coffee or whatever wakes you up (I can't drink coffee so I feel your pain). Even an extra hour or 2 of sleep can make a massive difference to how you feel. I think you'll regret it if you don't go. Go last on the hair and make up if you can. Give the bride a call, she might know someone who will be able to help with the baby for a bit.

Well done for going despite the exhaustion and anxiety, and I hope it was a lovely day.

Being a single mum to a baby is hell. Add in a sleepless baby, and you have hell squared. You do need help. Have you heard of Homestart? It could give you some much-needed respite, it's free, and you can self-refer. You bloody deserve it!

READ THE THREAD

READ THE THREAD

READ THE THREAD

READ THE THREAD

SHE WENT

SHE WENT

SHE WENT

SHE WENT

IF YOU ARE TOO BUSY TO READ THE THREAD, YOUR WORDS ARE NOT USEFUL. YOU ARE NOT SO BRILLIANT AND SO IMPORTANT THAT THE WORLD WOULD BE DENIED WITHOUT YOUR THOUGHTS, IF THOSE THOUGHTS AREN'T INFORMED BY READING THE FUCKING THREAD.

THE CHEQUE HAS BEEN CANCELLED. IT IS AN EX CHEQUE. IT HAS CEASED TO BE.

Littlenic wins the prize

Hope you all enjoy the day in the end... Big hugs and positive thoughts to you op

OP well done ! Am so pleased for you and your friend l hope you had the most wonderful day

perfectstorm

Hope you had a lovely time as bm today

Well done for going

Sleep deprevation is a killer

Sorry you have no partner to help

please ask in laws or friends to help abs give you some sleep - whether catching up daytime or then staying a night and you sleeping while they feed

I’m a maternity nurse and happy to send you a routine to follow which will help baby get into good sleeping habits and you to get some sleep over the next few months

Totally agree with you, a very sensitive and thoughtful take on the situation. OP must be having a really awful time of it to contemplate pulling out.

OP Well done, you should feel proud of yourself! 💐

Seriously the amount of idiots on here not reading anything past the original post is ridiculous.

Hope you're having a good time op!

Hope you had a great time 🌺✅

Big well done OP! Can't wait for an update to hear about what a (hopefully) lovely time you had. You should be very proud of yourself

Let us know how it went, OP.
FWIW, I hope you're home tucked up in bed now!

Dear OP. I just want to send you my love and say you are doing a bloody amazing job I’m glad you went to the wedding.

I suffered from sleep deprivation with my son, and also anxiety and PND. Everything was a struggle and it made me do and think things that were completely out of character. People who haven’t experienced it can’t understand. (Clearly evidenced from all the awful, judgemental, mean-spirited replies )

Have you spoken to anyone about the sleep? I hope you do and someone can help you.

Maybe find a nice supportive online parenting community too, sure there’s one somewhere

I agree with an earlier post that you need to speak to your friend. It is very last minute but i understand completely how you feel.

I was very tired in those early weeks myself.

If she’s a good friend then she will understand. I personally don’t think anyone who hasn’t had a baby understands but hopefully she will.

I didn’t get ready with my bridesmaids on my wedding day so to be fair you should just be able to get ready at home and just turn up for the ceremony and see how long you last.

If your friend doesn’t let you do that under the circumstances and she’s defriends you then she’s no friend in the first place.

Good luck and I hope you get some sleep. Thinking of you x

Yeah you have to go, hard I know but you'll get through it.

How did it go? Hope you made it through. Just a thought, but are there any threads on MN for local parents to help each other out a bit? If not, maybe make one ? Must be others in this difficult position

You would be letting your friend down badly. Are you a single parent? Can nobody else take the night feeds for you? You knew this wedding was in your diary.
Can you suggest you do you own hair and make-up and meet there at 12?

Sorry late to the party and I have seen that you went!

I hope you went for yourself and not some of the comments on here. I also hope you had a good time and are feeling better 😊

greenpop21 read the thread! Or at least the last page.