To not go to friends wedding tomorrow...I'm the bridesmaid

[sillyandsally]

I had a baby 3 months ago and she isn't sleeping on a night at all.
I'm lucky if I get 2 hours sleep.
I'm exhausted to a point I feel sick.
My friends wedding tomorrow and I'm bridesmaid but I know tonight I will be lucky to get even 3 hours sleep so I'm going to be in no fit state.
I feel so sick and exhausted with tiredness.
Aibu to tell her I can't go?
The wedding is at 1pm but she wants me over at 9am for makeup and hair.
I don't know what to do

That must have been such a difficult time for you minmooch

Glad you're going OP and I hope you enjoy it.

Enjoy your baby free day,it might be the pick me up you need

Ah op im delighted you decided to go.I really hope you have a lovely day

Have a good day OP and keep this PP's very good advice in mind if you're flagging

As for tomorrow and the immediate challenge of being bridesmaid; How about trying to reframe tomorrow in your mind as a day off? Think about the positive aspects; some pampering, no cooking, a bit of physical freedom from baby for a few hours and allow yourself to have that day. You deserve a rest and it could prove to be just what you need in some ways xxx

I'm glad you're going and hope you enjoy it

Hope you have a lovely day OP. Try and have a rest before the ceremony so you will be refreshed.

Well done OP. Enjoy the day and next week think about ways of trying to get some extra support.

You will have more fun than you think and the break away from being a mum and being around people will be more energising than you think.

Hope you have a good day.

Just go. Otherwise it’s the end of your friendship. Hoping you’re there now, in hair and makeup!

The OP has already stated she is going .

Good on you SillySally, have a good day (I'm sure you will once you are at your friends)

@sillyandsally I talked about my son just to empathise with exhaustion. And to show understanding of that panic of not sleeping.

You will get past this stage, your baby will eventually get in to a sleep routine. It's hellish going through it though, especially on your own. You're doing great!

Oops SillyandSally

enjoy the day op, go easy on the prosecco

Sorry to hear you bowed to societal pressure.

Please do not drink alcohol as you will fall asleep pretty much immediately.

Hopefully you can piss off home immediately after the ceremony. Or the photos. Or the bit where everyone goes "yay" as the bride and groom walk into the reception.

Well done OP!

Just think; this time next year you'll be posting on here about the time you were exhausted, and pulled out all the stops for your best friends wedding. You'll be so encouraging to someone who is where you are right now.

Have a lovely, lovely day.

This is great OP, I am rooting for you you'll have a lovely day xx

Don't over do the prosecco; it'll make you more tired in the long run of the day.

Have a lovely time.

Get your husband to take the night shift and suck it up and go to the wedding!!! If one of my bm's flakes the day before my wedding I would end the friendship 100%. We've all had kids and have tired days but that's no excuse. Take a nap between getting ready & the ceremony if you need to.

Have a great day OP . Well done for getting there x

Well done OP-at least today is a grown up day-you get to relax and not think about your baby for a wee while as grandparents have stepped up. Enjoy the day!

@CoralandTeal Have you actually read the thread. Before being so judgemental maybe you should.

Jesus Christ, 20 pages in and people are still telling OP to get her non-existant DP to do the night shift. RTFT people! She's going to the wedding!!

Have a lovely baby free day OP

Hope you have a great day OP, these early days are so hard especially with no support. Enjoy

NotTheFordType is fyoomin! 😂

Have a lovely day with your friend OP