To think my DH should shower more often

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Myself and DH are both retired so do not have to get up and get ready for work. However, I’m really fed up with my DH personal hygiene routine. He only showers about once every six days and in my opinion this isn’t often enough.
I have nagged him about it so many times but he just doesn’t seem to understand why I am nagging him.
I shower every day and cannot understand anyone who doesn’t shower or have a bath several times a week, even if not every day. I think it is just laziness on his part, as he doesn’t do very much during the day.
I’m at my wit’s end to know what to do to get him to improve on his personal hygiene.

Who's showering after every poo? That pp doesn't ring true. Nobody can do that.

Nobody's showering after every poo. But if you wash every day or even every other day then fine. Every 6 days is quite a build up.

Knob cheese alert!

Oh god, don't!

Fazackerley you told me: Nobody's showering after every poo

Can you provide an explanation to this then said by slippermaiden

Not to provide too much info but how can anyone not shower after a poo

I can, hand on heart, say I have never ever, of all the smells I've smelt, been subjected to the obvious smell of someone's arse poo pongs! The only 'aromas' I have been subjected to is pit stinks, and urine on some very unfortunate people, and vomit off a drunkard.

I'm not saying that means anyone needs to shower less, I'm just saying all this talk of stinks armpits are the only one ive ever really noticed. I do have hyper sensitive smell too! Can smell my period, etc.

Over washing does cause issues, its about balance.

If I were your DH though OP, I would be soaping my bald head each day as part of face washing and teeth-cleaning.

groin gunk though

...but no, no-one needs to shower their entire body because they had a poo. If you are going to get intimate then yes.

you are not wrong ew

Not washing is really really gross and there is NO WAY I could stick sleeping beside, or indeed sharing space (major illness aside) with someone who refused to wash.

I have a very sensitive / powerful sense of smell and mostly wish I didn't.

If I sit beside someone on a train / cafe etc I can smell if they are not fresh and I have certainly noticed the smell of unwashed general bum area from people standing beside me if I am sitting on a train for instance.

I shower every day, occasionally twice a day if going out in the evening after work. I have no skin problems to report. Dh showers every day too. Any less would be just horrible!

There are some right mingers out there - NOT envy!

Oh I missed that. No-one needs to shower after every poo, no.

Does anybody remember the MNetter whose ex thankfully boyfriend wouldn't wipe between his crack, let alone shower properly there because "err touching your bumhole is GAY!" (puke not envy!)

This thread just reminded me of it 😂

When I work in cities I shower before and after as I feel truly grimey. Even the mucus in my nose is filthy.

Used to work in an office and showered every day, now work on (my own) farm and shower every 3 or 4 days. I smell of horses and dogs, not human poo!

The worst case scenario is that a lack of showering and a disregard for normal personal hygiene is potentially a sign of dementia. Some sufferers have it earlier, but most later on. It may be worth looking at some of the other early signs of the illness to either rule out the possibility, or so you can get help early on.

It was one of the early signs that my mum noticed with her husband.

The amount of people here who defend not having a daily thorough wash disgusts me.
No wonder using public transport is bloody unbearable if so many are such bloody mingers that they can't be bothered to wash their sweaty arses.

PSA: If you don't wash daily, YOU STINK. Yes, even if you're sedentary and 'not sweaty'. No exceptions. Your unwashed body is gross. WASH YOURSELF, for heavens' sake, it is basic hygiene. Don't be gross.

PSA: If you don't wash daily, YOU STINK. Yes, even if you're sedentary and 'not sweaty'. No exceptions. Your unwashed body is gross. WASH YOURSELF, for heavens' sake, it is basic hygiene. Don't be gross

Don't be so ridiculous. Have you any idea how many billions of people don't have access to sufficient clean water to drink, never mind wasting 100's of litre every day and destroying the earth's resources with micro pellets and other pollutants?

Keep telling yourself that if it makes you feel better about your lack of hygiene.
The UK is a developed nation, and there is no reason whatsoever why any able-bodied person should not wash.

I'm not massively bothered about people showering or not showering but the idea of working on a farm with horses and only showering every 4 days is MINGING

I have horses and horse piss is a very persistent scent

How on earth do you get horse piss on you?

By bending to groom underneath it whereupon it lets go.

Let me put forward an argument in defence of Damntheman who showers every 3 days. The climate one lives in has a bearing on how much you wash. In a harsh Nordic climate, you are stripping protective skin oils from your skin every time you wash and trust me when out in minus 15, you can tell the difference, your skin goes dry, flaky and painfully sore after some exposure to extreme temperatures without the protection of natural oils. If very cold, people put Vaseline or similar on the face to protect it. Hence it is not unusual to have to wash less frequently in a cold climate, you don’t get sweaty much either as it is cool at best most of the time. When I lived in Russia, it felt ok showering every 2-3 days. But living in England now, in a humid damp climate where you get sticky and clammy soon, I NEED to shower every day and it just feels manky on a second, let alone third day.

Latin America is notoriously hot on personal hygiene, people shower several times a day, same in places like California or Florida. Do you think it is an accident that bidets are a common feature in Spain, but not in Finland?

So get off your high horse, people. Damntheman is reasonable, same as you are as you happen to live in different climate zones.

I've had horses for 10 years (up to 10 at a time, currently 7) - never been pissed on. Now worried I'm doing something wrong....

You always, always get people on these threads claiming that they wash twice a week and don’t smell.

And equally you always, always get people on these threads claiming that they can 'always tell' who has a daily shower and who doesn't. I don't think they realise how stupid they sound - presumably they're unaware that unless they ask each individual about their washing habits in order to correlate, they couldn't possibly tell who showers twice a week and doesn't smell, and who's a bit pongy despite washing twice a day.

I actually am going the same thing with my current/STBX partner, it’s not brushing his teeth though, I’ve now took to sleeping in the spare room because his breath is that bad that when we lie in bed together, I can only turn on my side as it’s that rank, last week he stunk the living room out with it🤢🤢 and I’ve told him and told him, but he doesn’t bother his arss! It’s also why I won’t sleep with him, if his breath is that bad then wtf is downstairs like? He doesn’t shower much either, the strange thing is is that his beautiful smile was one of the things I first liked about him, and now his pearly whites are like minging browns.

It’s a long story why he’s a STBEX, basically I can’t get rid of him until I move house, I’m currently living in temporary accommodation and he is a bit stalkery and I’d rather wait to get my own new place, and then write him a dear John style letter, don’t want to have to get the police involved and I will have too if I get rid now.

I meant that the reason I stopped sleeping with him was his lack of personal hygiene, the last time we slept together was September 2016 and I still can’t get rid of him

Can't imagine why you wouldn't shower daily if you had access to a shower. Grim