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No one acknowledged my 60th birthday

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Radley60 · 24/02/2019 17:04

I'm new to this so I hope I'm posting in the right place but I just needed someone to vent to I guess. I just had my 60th birthday. I was looking forward to having a nice day but my family never even acknowledged me. No happy birthday, no gifts, no meal nothing, zilch, zero. I know most people would just say "you're 60 get over it" but I can't stop the tears coming. I just feel so unwanted. My daughter lives abroad so I eagerly checked my email but there was nothing from her. My husband left for work that morning and that was that and my son although he was home, said nothing to me. I stupidly waited all day until my husband came home thinking they would maybe order a meal in for us but no nothing. I was so angry at first, then that changed to tears. I'm on crutches at the moment because of a knee injury so it's not like I could even go out just to get away. I always make sure Christmas and birthdays are celebrated and they never wake up on the morning of their birthdays without cards and gifts and we always go out for a meal. I knew going out was a no go for me this year but I feel like they simply see me as the hired help and not worth bothering with. I'm sorry if I'm rambling and I know it's only a birthday but the lack of any love and affection is really hurting me.

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Neverplayleapfrogwithaunicorn · 24/02/2019 19:53

Pemblwydd Hapus I ti!
How sad of them not to acknowledge it at all!
I would make them very aware by 9pm if they don’t make amends by then!

UtterlyDesperate · 24/02/2019 19:53

Happy Birthday, @Radley60 GinWineFlowers

borntobequiet · 24/02/2019 19:54

Happy Birthday OP.
When you’re off the crutches, go on holiday. My view is that once you’re 60, you owe it to yourself to be happy, regardless of anyone else.
www.friendshiptravel.com/singles-holidays-over-60.html

Fiveletters · 24/02/2019 19:58

Happy birthday!
I don’t think there are many circumstances where it is acceptable to not wish your mum/wife a happy birthday.
Their behaviour is appalling.

InDreamland · 24/02/2019 20:07

I read your original post and update and felt disgusted and disappointed for you. This is terribly sad. I really hope you've been whisked away now for a surprise meal or something. I know I'd be devastated if my family didn't acknowledge my birthday, especially when I go all out for theirs every year. If they haven't surprised you with a lovely celebration definitely go treat yourself to something amazing on your husband's credit card and the kid's inheritance.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!! 🎁🎂

kaytee87 · 24/02/2019 20:08

That's really bad. No wonder you're hurt.

Happy birthday!

DoingTheBestICan · 24/02/2019 20:09

Penblwydd Hapus OP, hope you enjoy the rest of your day better than you have so far.

Redwinestillfine · 24/02/2019 20:17

Happy birthday! I hope they have a surprise party planned and ignoring your birthday was a misguided attempt at covering tracks. If not phone a friend and go out.

Bonkersblond · 24/02/2019 20:19

Happy Birthday 🎂💐🍹

blitzen · 24/02/2019 20:24

Awful behaviour from your family, OP. Wishing you a very happy milestone birthday from me, although I appreciate it has been ruined. Once the crutches have gone I hope you treat yourself to something lovely. Make 61 one to remember for the right reasons xx

WitchDancer · 24/02/2019 20:26

Happy Birthday!

MumW · 24/02/2019 20:27

I'd be utterly beyond pissed off too.
My family can be a bit thoughtless when it comes to birthdays but there is always cards and garage forecourt flowers.

Wish I could make you Cake as no birthday is complete without one. At least have a virtual 🎂 one. 🥂🍾🎉Flowers

dayswithaY · 24/02/2019 20:27

This happened to me once (not my 60th). Ever since then I've planned my own celebration. Whatever I feel like doing - day out, dinner or weekend trip etc I just plan it all and then tell my family and friends that's what's happening. That way I'm never disappointed and I get to choose what I want to do. Happy birthday, you'll have a better one next year.

BlueThesaurusRex · 24/02/2019 20:30

Happy Birthday Radley! Flowers

Fingers crossed for the surprise party update, either way, looking forward to the I booked myself a spa weekend update Grin

everythingisbetterafteranap · 24/02/2019 20:31

Wish I knew how to do a fancy drawing using text, in the absence of that I wish you a wonderful birthday

🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟🎊🎊🎊🎉🎉🎉🎈🎈

Oysterbabe · 24/02/2019 20:44

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Etino · 24/02/2019 20:47

Happy Birthday Radley!
Flowers

MudCity · 24/02/2019 20:50

Happy 60th Birthday from me Radley! 🍰🍾🎉🎁 💐

MarieIVanArkleStinks · 24/02/2019 20:50

Oh, OP. Situations like this are really bloody hurtful. My DH's 'mother' forgot a birthday of his as a child. (FFS, who does that)? It's probably as a result of this that he insists on marking the occasion in some way; takes the day off work, goes with DC and me for a special meal; sometimes we've even gone away. And for him this is actually quite out of character as he's never been one for making things all about him. (I pretty much ignore my own birthday and we're usually quite like-minded about these things). All made perfect sense when I eventually heard his explanation.

OP I'm a stranger to you and I don't want to sound patronizing. But I'd like to be able to reach through cyberspace and give you a massive hug! Many belated greetings for your milestone birthday.

Snowflakes1122 · 24/02/2019 20:53

Happy birthday!!

It’s lovely to see so many wonderful mumsnetters come together and show you people care Flowers

WhoKnewBeefStew · 24/02/2019 20:53

Happy 60th birthday Radley Flowers

LegoPiecesEverywhere · 24/02/2019 21:00

Happy Birthday!

Fletchasaurus · 24/02/2019 21:55

Happy 60th birthday! Wishing you love Flowers Wine

MummyofTw0 · 24/02/2019 22:45

That's horrendous!!!!

I'd probably make a point of forgetting all of theirs too

Weirdlookingbricks · 24/02/2019 22:56

Happy birthday!

What a bunch of utter bastards though! I'd be doing a big fat nothing for their birthdays in future and getting myself an expensive treat out of family funds.
In the meantime FlowersCakeWine