Pretending that I did it ...

[Glitterzzz]

So.. I am no chef but I can bake.. my OH asked me for a carrot cake sometime soon.. usually I would be happy to run round the supermarket get the ingredients and stand in the kitchen to turn out a half decent baked delight some hours later

But

I’m tired. It’s half term. I’m run crazy with two children with additional needs, no school or nursery breaks and trying to keep the house and I’m on a diet myself ... so I cheated.

I contacted a cake maker ordered the cake and was gutted to see how professional it looked when I collected it today considering how much u paid for it... in the need to make it seem I baked it lovingly for him I brought it home and have roughed it up a little... ( smudges in the Cream cheese frosting, a dent here a dent there and whizzed up some pecans and walnuts and whacked them on top...

Unfortunately the real baker had gone to the effort of making little sugar paste carrot decorations which she seems to have apples with a orange substance so I removed them and will just say I attempted a decoration that failed...

Does this cake look home made but not too fancy/ professional? Why do I even care ? 😂😂 I guess I love him and wanted to give him something he wanted and of course all the thanks of how lovely it is and how hard I must have worked

The nuttiest of threads - please could someone post one of the easy carrot cake recipes mentioned as I'm craving some now! 🥕

I did something very similar on a first date with my now DP.

Still weird but probably pretty common in a brand new relationship, but very different to being desperate to impress a husband of four years. :o

Baby bear 🐻

Wow some really nasty replies here. It's slightly odd of op but obviously we'll intentioned. I don't get the people who always have to insist op is a terrible person who needs to be tripled all over and made to feel terrible. Says more about the people commenting than op.

And yes I do think this is the kind of thing they'll probably look back on as a funny story.

This thread is just mad why would anyone bother to lie about this and make such an effort of subterfuge.
If he wants to be surprised with a nice cake then surely he’d be just as happy with you saying i didn’t have time to make a cake but I’ve found this great baker doesn’t it look brilliant.
He must know how busy you are at home and how much strain you’re under why would he care if you didn’t spend hours cooking it yourself?

Yeah I think many people will look back on this thread and laugh but not for the reasons the OP thinks, rather at her expense and the weirdness of it all rather than the apparent 90s romcom comedy some think it is.

There is a bakery in my town that specialises in making things look 'rustic' and just a little imperfect so that their customers can pass their goods off as their own... it certianly does their business no harm! Mostly I think it is upper class ladies trying to impress their friends at brunches. I think what you've done is very common.
As for your question - I do actually think it looks a little too profesh to be a real cake - should be a bit battered, by the time you get it off the cake board should be good to go!

Weird. I expect this thread will end up in the press too so your partner will know soon enough op.

You sound unhinged. You actually faked washing up?? And you're telling other posters to get a grip

Sorry but I hate people lying to me, and I just don't understand how you can look him in the eye and pretend you did this yourself. It unnerves me when people can lie so easily. Don't give a shit what it's about.

As for those that think that a chef husband is going to notice - trust me - chefs are SO GRATEFUL that anyone else did the cooking they are not the slightest bit interested in the recipe. They are not going to ask for it, they honestly don't care, they are just so happy to have the cake and eat it without thoning baout the ingredients or if the customers like it or the presentation or anything

@BertrandRussell
Missing the point- but I have a fail safe carrot cake recipe that takes 10 minutes max to get in the oven

Please share! I promise not to sell the cake professionally, it'll be just for my family to eat

There are 2 nuts missing from that cake. Haven’t even read the thread cos it bothers me so much I can’t move past it 😀

There was a thread the other day about utterly delusional OPs.

I feel this OP deserves an honorable mention. 😆

I wouldn’t lie about it.

Is your self worth so wrapped up in your (non) baking skills that you need this cake to be from you?

“Didn’t have time to bake one, but I got this lovely looking cake from a really well thought of cake maker. Let’s try a slice now shall we?”

Hold off on the deceit SWAT team there folks, it's a stupid lie and I don't get it myself but she's not living a double life or cheating on her husband with the local Rugby team.

It's bonkers, but it's not the worst thing anyone has ever done to their OHs, she bought a cake, she wants the credit because her DH will feel good about thinking she slaved over something just because he asked. She'll feel special, he'll feel special. It's not the end of the world.

People will look back on this thread as being classic aibu. The op posts something a little odd and loads of people who have issues in their own life spend hours trying to put her down.

You people have serious issues and OP is right you do need to get a grip. If my DH had done this I'd be. Bit surprised but think it was ultimately cute and silly. I would definitely look back and laugh. Some of you need to unclench.

@bertrand pls can. Have your 10min carrot cake recipe? I only just learnt to bake. Thanks

You will be fine but YABU to have canned Tuna in the background ... it’s cat food.
Unless you have a cat.

Reminds me of the time my brother volunteered me to make a birthday cake for my mums 70th. Fine-but it would have to be big enough for 45 people....
I bought a large cake from Costco and got the kids to decorate it with writing icing and sugar flowers. Didn’t actually say I’d made it but everyone assumed I had.

This is mad! Just tell him you couldn't be arsed so bought one.

There are some who say they've cheated for a cake sale at school (a bit more understandable) and very few posters who say they would do the same.
By far the majority are saying this is not usual behaviour in a relationship. It might appear to be a minor white lie but It would really undermine the trust and raise questions about the dynamics in your relationship and your seeking approval from your husband.

OP I am totally with you. I would definitely do this. And when I read your post I knew there would be loads of Mumsnet weirdos fixating on the 'lying'. As far as I'm concerned kindness and good intentions are sometimes more important than truth.

Maybe it’s the one thing hat the op needs to look like she’s pulling her weight on. If he’s an ex chef maybe he wouldn’t forgive or understand how she can’t bake a simple cake.

Yes it looks home made, just hope he falls for it 😂

I find it a bit weird all the posters insisting everyone should find it sweet and funny and if not they need to look at their own lives tbh. I just think it's a bit strange to want your DH to be impressed with your baking skills. Lying to the pta is one thing but really the gesture is "I don't give a shot about your outdated expectations" rather than an act of love?

@FullOfJellyBeans looking at the ratio of replies I think the majority of people will look back laughing at her expense at the weirdness of it all rather than finding it funny like you do, but hey let's stay subscribed and see what happens 😉