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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

About this holiday situation?

159 replies

HolidayQ · 23/02/2019 16:43

NC for this.

Im on holiday at the moment, After a stressful few months I decided I really needed a break for abit. I asked my friends but noone was able to come. I mentioned it to a friend I met through work and although we are not very close we do speak over whatsapp and we meet up occasionally, she was totally up for it and wanted to book right away.

Anyway I have been here 4 days now and she has barely spoken a word. She does not initiate any conversation. If I dont talk then she will not talk at all, and then she barely responds if I say anything. When she does respond its simply with “yes” “no” or “hmm.” Ive tried to speak to her but she sometimes doesnt respond at all. Ive asked her if everything is ok or if there is anything she wants to talk about but she just says no.

Its so bad that ive got friendly with other people here and tried to include her and they have asked me if she speaks english! If they ask her something she will not respond, so they will ask me to ask her and eventually she will but again its one word answers. Sometimes she will just laugh in response.

I havent seen her interact with anyone else here either, no other holiday makers and no staff so I dont think its personal to me.

Also she has only showered once since being here and without sounding rude wibu to address this with her as she is starting to smell as is the room?

OP posts:
DoctorDread · 28/02/2019 12:42

Omg I've just rtft and now I'm agog! What an utterly odd setup!! I understand the need to not talk op and I'm an extrovert but when I'm on holiday and I don't have to 'perform' I love being able to just chill. My mum doesn't get it and when she comes away with me and the dc she charters on and on to the point I have to kindly say I need some peace and quiet so I get the need to not talk all the time but this is just weird!!!

CripsSandwiches · 28/02/2019 12:52

Wow I do kind of feel sorry for her - there's obviously something a bit wrong with her. I'm an introvert and hate incessant chatter but what she's doing is way beyond the realms of normality. I feel sorry for you too though OP - hardly a nice relaxing holiday!

Needcoffeecoffeecoffee · 11/03/2019 19:34

@HolidayQ
Did you get back OK?how was the flight home?
Hopefully you can plan a nice holiday on your own to really relax!

WhatchaMaCalllit · 12/03/2019 11:40

I'm guessing that you're home by now OP - have you managed to see your colleague in work? How are things between you both - is she acting weird or as if nothing happened at all?

livefornaps · 12/03/2019 12:14

Omfg - what happened!!!

HeavyLocks · 12/03/2019 12:35

I think the Silent Stinker has buried op on the island. She won't be back.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 12/03/2019 12:39

This thread is bonkers. Shamelessly place marking...

Fiveletters · 12/03/2019 12:45

Ooh I’m another one who wants to know what happened when you got back home.

HighestMountains · 12/03/2019 12:47

Another shameless placemark Grin

Ozzybobgoblin · 12/03/2019 12:51

Oh please come back and update op Grin

RaininSummer · 12/03/2019 12:56

This sounds horrendous. It actually reminds me of my last lodger who had Asperger's syndrome. No speaking at all, no washing until reminded and then not great and weird food habits.

HollowTalk · 12/03/2019 13:14

Oh I'd forgotten this thread! Come back, @HolidayQ and tell us what happened.

Springwalk · 12/03/2019 13:15

I am not sure why you booked a holiday with someone you don't know. It was brave.
She may have accepted because she has problems socialising, otherwise why go on holiday with someone from work you barely know. Maybe she thought it would be good for her.

I would def give her the benefit of the doubt, I don't think it is you, I think she may have reasons for being this way, and maybe does not know you well enough or is too embarrassed to share them with you. One more day and you will be home. Be kind. She probably isn't being this way intentionally.

DarlingNikita · 12/03/2019 13:47

I know you've asked her if there's a problem, but maybe be more blunt and directional, albeit in a mild tone of voice. 'You are not speaking to me or to anyone. Can you please explain why? I'd like to understand.'

When it's time to go to breakfast etc, just get yourself ready, say breezily 'Breakfast!' and head on down. She can follow or not.

Springiscomingsoon · 12/03/2019 14:08

Read loads of this and realised it's an old thread.
Now worried about the OP.....!

ChesterGreySideboard · 12/03/2019 14:09

I think the scary staring friend has eaten the OP.

Slightlyjaded · 12/03/2019 14:28

@HolidayQ I know this is quite old now, but just wondering if you ever got to the bottom of the strange behaviour?

SleepWarrior · 12/03/2019 14:29

Seriously weird behaviour on her part. What a shame for you OP - bet you needed another holiday to recover from that one!

Butterflycookie · 12/03/2019 14:52

Come back op!

spanishwife · 12/03/2019 14:59

Anyone else gutted there was no confrontation?

DarlingNikita · 12/03/2019 15:05

Anyone else gutted there was no confrontation?

I'm gutted that we've had no updates/conclusion.

I should get a life.

Deathraystare · 12/03/2019 15:10

What a shame! I hope your holiday isn't totally spoilt! I used to have the opposite. I would go on holiday with the world's angriest woman. I think it was to cover up anxiety but was very very draining. Due to poor health she no longer travels so I do not need to come up with an excuse!

Mummyoflittledragon · 12/03/2019 15:20

I did see the date, thought the op had come back to update. Oh well......

KR30 · 12/03/2019 15:24

Desperately needing to know if you confronted her and she chopped off your fingers so you couldn't tell us whats happened!

Dieu · 12/03/2019 15:36

God, she sounds a bundle of laughs Confused Even if homesick or whatever (and even then, she's a grown adult who wasn't forced to go), you'd put a bloody face on it for the sake of the other person. Very odd behaviour indeed.

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