About this holiday situation?

[HolidayQ]

NC for this.

Im on holiday at the moment, After a stressful few months I decided I really needed a break for abit. I asked my friends but noone was able to come. I mentioned it to a friend I met through work and although we are not very close we do speak over whatsapp and we meet up occasionally, she was totally up for it and wanted to book right away.

Anyway I have been here 4 days now and she has barely spoken a word. She does not initiate any conversation. If I dont talk then she will not talk at all, and then she barely responds if I say anything. When she does respond its simply with “yes” “no” or “hmm.” Ive tried to speak to her but she sometimes doesnt respond at all. Ive asked her if everything is ok or if there is anything she wants to talk about but she just says no.

Its so bad that ive got friendly with other people here and tried to include her and they have asked me if she speaks english! If they ask her something she will not respond, so they will ask me to ask her and eventually she will but again its one word answers. Sometimes she will just laugh in response.

I havent seen her interact with anyone else here either, no other holiday makers and no staff so I dont think its personal to me.

Also she has only showered once since being here and without sounding rude wibu to address this with her as she is starting to smell as is the room?

[Juanbablo]

I hope you made it back ok!!

[MyKingdomForACaramel]

Oh come on @HolidayQ please come back!

[Meagain19]

Following for an update

[Bookworm4]

There's no I updates because OP has been kidnapped and locked in a remote cabin so friend can stare at her all day !!!
with an occasional laugh at her.

[cheeseypizza]

Oh I want an update too.

[GiveMeAllTheGin8]

Are you alive

[Elliss2018]

Come back and update op!

[DeaflySilence]

Ooops, have just noticed the holiday is well and truly over.

[DeaflySilence]

"She wont even initiate going to dinner or breakfast she will just sit there staring at me when it gets to that time."

Can you be a bit more direct? Firmer?

Tell her it's her turn to choose where and when to go for dinner. When she 'just laughs', firmly say
"No, I'm not joking. I've done all 'the work' so far, in terms of choosing when we'll eat, where we'll eat, what we'll do. I not only don't know if any of it is pleasing you or to your taste, but it is also a strain, because it seems to be a one way street. So this evening will you please make all the choices?"

If she then sits for 15, 20 minutes, without saying anything, ask her
"What time will we be going out to eat, and where are we going?"

If she still doesn't answer, ask her
"Is there some reason you won't answer me, and won't join in? It is really upsetting me, so I would like to understand."

[Dieu]

God, she sounds a bundle of laughs Even if homesick or whatever (and even then, she's a grown adult who wasn't forced to go), you'd put a bloody face on it for the sake of the other person. Very odd behaviour indeed.

[KR30]

Desperately needing to know if you confronted her and she chopped off your fingers so you couldn't tell us whats happened!

[Mummyoflittledragon]

I did see the date, thought the op had come back to update. Oh well......

[Deathraystare]

What a shame! I hope your holiday isn't totally spoilt! I used to have the opposite. I would go on holiday with the world's angriest woman. I think it was to cover up anxiety but was very very draining. Due to poor health she no longer travels so I do not need to come up with an excuse!

[DarlingNikita]

Anyone else gutted there was no confrontation?

I'm gutted that we've had no updates/conclusion.

I should get a life.

[spanishwife]

Anyone else gutted there was no confrontation?

[Butterflycookie]

Come back op!

[SleepWarrior]

Seriously weird behaviour on her part. What a shame for you OP - bet you needed another holiday to recover from that one!

[Slightlyjaded]

@HolidayQ I know this is quite old now, but just wondering if you ever got to the bottom of the strange behaviour?

[ChesterGreySideboard]

I think the scary staring friend has eaten the OP.

[Springiscomingsoon]

Read loads of this and realised it's an old thread.
Now worried about the OP.....!

[DarlingNikita]

I know you've asked her if there's a problem, but maybe be more blunt and directional, albeit in a mild tone of voice. 'You are not speaking to me or to anyone. Can you please explain why? I'd like to understand.'

When it's time to go to breakfast etc, just get yourself ready, say breezily 'Breakfast!' and head on down. She can follow or not.

[Springwalk]

I am not sure why you booked a holiday with someone you don't know. It was brave.
She may have accepted because she has problems socialising, otherwise why go on holiday with someone from work you barely know. Maybe she thought it would be good for her.

I would def give her the benefit of the doubt, I don't think it is you, I think she may have reasons for being this way, and maybe does not know you well enough or is too embarrassed to share them with you. One more day and you will be home. Be kind. She probably isn't being this way intentionally.

[HollowTalk]

Oh I'd forgotten this thread! Come back, @HolidayQ and tell us what happened.

[RaininSummer]

This sounds horrendous. It actually reminds me of my last lodger who had Asperger's syndrome. No speaking at all, no washing until reminded and then not great and weird food habits.

[Ozzybobgoblin]

Oh please come back and update op