To dress young daughters the same

[Theorangeorange]

I have two young daughters (2 & 4) and I love dressing them in matching clothes - for reference they both love it too and get excited when they have the same on. I would stop when they don't enjoy it of course.

It's not every day, but for occasions they'll usually have the same on, perhaps in a different colour but matching.

I haven't ever given it a second thought until someone asked me whether I was concerned about them "not developing their own individuality" I wasn't!! Though I'm interested to hear thoughts......

I'd say it's fine. I wouldn't do it with identical twins though - causes identity issues, apparently.

As long as they are happy dress them however you want. I have fond memories of being dressed the same as my sisters. There are 8 of us and my mum often made our clothes, so she would get a roll of fabric on offer and we would all have the same outfit! For my eldest sister's wedding she made us lovely matching outfits, looking at the photos now we looked adorable. Who gives a flying fuck what other people think?

Has anyone said it’s naff yet? 🙄 (I too haven’t heard that word in use since the nineties!)

OP, I think it’s very sweet. My sister and I were often dressed matching for formal occasions (20 month gap) and I was the older one. No trauma, resentment or whatever here! But my sister was (is) my best friend. Think it reflects more on other posters’ relationships with their mothers and siblings than anything else.

Oh and I am that awful type of mother who once wore a matching top with my baby!

Enjoy your children, your family, and carry on as you are. Don’t let what others think get to you.

I saw identical twins in a shopping centre recently. Women in their fifties with the same long dark coloured hair, navy fleeces, knee length denim shorts, same backpacks both carried on both shoulders. It looked very odd.

Do what makes you happy, OP. You can't please everyone. Matching clothes are cute. So are none matching clothes.
Just be happy having 2 lovely daughters.

Proper naff

Me and my sister had a few matching dresses and my dd's (6/9) have a few. They love occasionally wearing the same as did me and my sister.

They also wear the same outfit EveryDay.... school uniform

I have 2 girls 4 and 7 and a boy whos 5.

I get their opinions on the clothes i buy and they pick what they wear (well the girls do, ds is disabled ans doesnt have an opinion)

They will often pick matching clothes, as i mostly buy scandi clothes that have the same prints for girls ans boys my eldest will often ask if we can get a tshirt for DS aswell so all 3 match.

It makes them happy and i think they look cute. Also makes them easy to spot in soft play etc

Most of the people posting who hate it objected to it themselves as children.
Mine are 3 years apart and chose to wear the same outfits when they were little, sometimes they were disappointed when we couldn't get the same thing in different sizes.
As they got older they started to choose different clothes and now as teens have very different tastes.
The m as in question to ask is what are they happy with?

I think it's fine in moderation, but a bit weird if done continuously.

I put my boys in semi-matching clothes (e.g. jumpers in a different colour and matching ties) on Christmas day for many years, until they started protesting.

Thanks all!
To those who have told me not to worry about others I appreciate it, but I'm really not worried.

I think that if someone can get worked up, name call and judge because siblings wear similar outfits says much, much more about them than it does about me.

Younger child then has to wear same outfit again two years later...always seemed a bit mean.

@DelurkingAJ Really? Why? They wouldn't in my house

@DelurkingAJ why would they? The only things that get passed down to the younger one in my house is probably something that was expensive/designer.
My girls get new wardrobes every summer and winter 🤔

There was a similar thread on here some time back where the words 'twee' and 'naff' appeared a lot. The general consensus was that people didn't like it although that was not because they were forced to wear matching outfits when younger, just that they didn't like seeing other children wear them. I happened to read a post which was written about me (due to specific details in the post and a quick advanced search confirmed that yes, it was about me) where I was critised for dressing my children, on occasion, in matching clothes. It was a nasty post and really upset me ( really deserves a whole thread) but the ironic thin thing is she also dresses her children in matching clothes . If I want to dress my children in matching clothes I think it's my business, how anyone can spare the head space to get worked up about how other people dress their children is beyond me!!

I see no harm in it- they’re tiny! Anyway you say they like it so definitely no harm. You’ll know pretty quickly when they’re not ok with it I’m sure!

i hated it, and now my mother has all her photos of us dressed like clones up on the wall, so everyone can see, even worse are the clothes, the horror of the 70's up on her wall for all to see

@theoranegorange I have a friend who does this and her children look bloody beautiful. Not at all naff or chavvy! You do you and hopefully your girls can enjoy it for as long as they want to, without other mothers judging them.

There were 4 years between my sister and I. I was a boom baby so clothes were in short supply. I remember my dm buying me a silk smocked dress, like the one Princess Charlotte wears, and I hated them. But I loved the cotton dresses she had made for me. When I was 9 my dm had 2 smocked dresses made for my dsis and I. Big mistake as I refused to wear it. It looked cute on my dsis but she wasn't too keen either. My dm was in hospital for several weeks when my dsis was 9 and my uncle gave us some money to buy clothes with and we bought a cotton poplin dress for her from M&S.

Although I think they look cute I think it's fine while they're small but when they start wanting to dress differently you'll soon know.

Classic example of me assuming we’re all the same...I wouldn’t dream of not using clothing (unless it has holes or is stained) for both DSs and then it’s all passed down for DNeice. Clothing is just clothing here. Don’t get me wrong DS2 gets the odd new thing but it’s not standard.

Bit creepy but each to their own. Me grandparents used to buy me and DSis matching dresses when we were younger (like 4 and 9). We never wore them at the same time though. The odd occasion seems OK. I do think a lot of the PPs are showing their snobbery though, this thread has amused me. It sort of reminds me of my DM's reaction to the words "package holiday"

@goingonabearhunt1 Such snobbery! Perhaps I should have made clear that they're only ever matched in Mini Boden 

@Quickchangefornow Sounds like shitty behaviour; chalk it up to jealously - no other reason why someone would be that invested in what you dress your children in. Like I said earlier it says way more about them!

I don't think I'd worry about them not developing their own identity. I just really wouldn't want to dress two sisters identically. I think it looks daft, esp with the matching frilly socks and big bows you see so often.its like oh, here comes another one..

I always think siblings dressed the same makes them look like they're in some kind of cult.