To dress young daughters the same

[Theorangeorange]

I have two young daughters (2 & 4) and I love dressing them in matching clothes - for reference they both love it too and get excited when they have the same on. I would stop when they don't enjoy it of course.

It's not every day, but for occasions they'll usually have the same on, perhaps in a different colour but matching.

I haven't ever given it a second thought until someone asked me whether I was concerned about them "not developing their own individuality" I wasn't!! Though I'm interested to hear thoughts......

[KatnissMellark]

Pretty naff but if they like it fair enough. I hated it when I was a kid.

[EmpressAdultHumanFemale]

I’m 4 years older than my sister & would have refused to leave the house if we were dressed the same.

[BarbedBloom]

I also really dislike this, sorry. I was dressed the same as my cousin and loathed it. I wanted to be my own person

[GetOnWithLife]

Hated it as a kid! I look at photos at Mums with my sister and I in identical dresses and it still annoys me.

My DDs seem to like doing it though, they had to convince me to buy matching clothes for them.

It’s only ever the same tshirt or maybe pajamas, not whole outfits and for any special occasions they’re dressed differently.

[hellsbellsmelons]

My mum and dad used to dress my sis and me the same - 2 year age gap.
We didn't even really notice to be honest.
And it wasn't all the time either.
I don't really remember when it stopped either.
We have so many pics where we look so cute together.
I have very fond memories of wearing 1 specific dress that my dad had made for us - same colour and everything.
Embroidery anglaise, anyone!?

[Greggers2017]

Awful! Mum used to do it with me and my two sisters and we absolutely hated it. We are completely different people and we needed individuality.
I will never do it to my children. I think it looks tacky.

[pinkhorse]

I think it looks naff and cringe. Why would you do that?

[bigandbumpy]

I'm not a fan of the matching outfits thing. They are two separate people with different identities!

[daisypond]

If they like it, it's OK. But personally I don't think children should be dressed to look "cute" - cute is a negative adjective in my book, in its usual meaning.

[Crunchymum]

My DD (age 4 and 1) have their Birthdays just a few days apart.

I bought them matching cardis to wear for the family party we had

[CountFosco]

It's quite a traditional thing to do, Princess Elizabeth and Margaret were dressed the same for formal occasions back in the day. I have a similar gap and when they were little my Mum asked if I wanted matching outfits for them , I didn't because I thought it was unfair on the younger child who would end up wearing the same outfit for years and years.

They did tend to be co-ordinated (with me a well!) but that wasn't deliberate, when they were small and I was choosing their clothes if I felt like e.g. wearing green then they'd often end up in green, blue, yellow and/or white. Now they are 9&11 I have very little say in what they wear so they often clash!

[Seline]

I hate it when I see this. Looks like clones.

[Nesssie]

I think is cute! My sister and I (20 months between us) wore matching outfits and I thought (and still think) it was really cute.
If they are still enthusiastic about it then its not harming anyone.

[Knittedfairies]

My mum did this to my sister and me until I was about 10 and my sister 7. My sister hated it more than I did, because she got my hand-me-downs so she got to wear the same dress for years.

[KatharinaRosalie]

I don't get the identities and personalities arguments. Unless the 2 and 4-year olds buy their own clothes, it is still your taste that they are reflecting, not their own individuality.

[PeterPiperPickedWrong]

I don’t even like seeing twins dressed the same. They are individuals and shouldn’t be made to look like clones.

[Bussells]

I don’t mean to be unkind but I cringe when I see children dressed the same as one another

[AmIRightOrAMeringue]

Mine are a bit younger than yours and the oldest one loves it (youngest still doesn't know what clothes are) and I do it with the odd t shirt or whatever to make her happy.

I hardly think letting them wear matching is treating them like they are the same person! That's quite a jump. I assume the novelty will wear off when they're in school and are forced to wear the same as everyone

[areyoureallysaying]

My boys were almost always dressed the same at this age, infact if I bought home only one of something the other one would want to know where his was. I have such amazing cute pictures from their early childhood to look back on. I don't care if its naff
When the oldest was about 8 he started wanting different so thats what we did.
It also had the added benefit that if one wandered off I could just say "im looking for a mini/bigger version of this " !!

[BikeRunSki]

DM used to do this. I hated this. There is not a colour or a style in the world that suits both me (chubby, blond) and DSis (willowy, dark).

[Leeds2]

I don't like it at all and tbh, cringe a bit when I see it.

However, they are your DC and if you want to dress them the same, and they are happy with it, then go for it. It is nobody else's business.

[AuntMarch]

I personally don't like it, but if both children enjoy it then why not?

[SileneOliveira]

Twee, twee, twee .Just AWFUL.

Your daughters are individuals, not a matchy matchy pair.

Yuk.

[AmIRightOrAMeringue]

Of course they are two different people but I think at that age, they don't really reflect their personality or identities through their clothes! Parents buy their clothes and even if they give the child some choice it's still directed. my almost 4 year old chooses what to wear but from a selection otherwise it's not practical and she will want to wear a party dress to a farm or shorts when it's snowing etc. To be honest the only thing their clothes 'reflect' about them is where had a sale on at the time they were bought. Do posters think school uniforms suppress their identities and personalities and make them look like clones? Tbh I am not keen on all matching either but don't think it actually matters either way and don't judge especially if the kids have asked for it themselves!

[lonalsland]

My mother did this - we both hated it.