To be irritated by people adjusting my DDs name

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My DD is called Megan. We call her Megan at home.
Other people seem to think it’s ok to change it to other versions:
Meg
Meggy
Megs
Her name is Megan and that is what we call her at home.
Aibu to think people should just call her by the name her parents use & not make names up?! It really bloody irritates me

Could be worse. My Dad's name is Bethany. Her friends have shortened it to Fanny. Meg is quite nice in comparison. Anyway it's your Dd's choice not yours.

ludothedog

My Dad's name is Bethany

This really is a modern world isn't it?

I can never understand this I shorten everyone's names and deliberately chose names that sound nice shortened. It makes me feel weird and uncomfortable when people full-name me. The only people who don't shorten my name are those who I don't know very well.

If I ever call my kids by the names on their birth certificates they know they’re in trouble. I call them all sorts. They’re currently answering to Mary and Scooby (not even close to their given names but nicknames derived from nicknames derived from nicknames!) I think you’re being a bit precious.

Wrongdissection
We do the whole nickname from a nickname from a nickname thing too!
I currently Have a Scoobs and a Squash !!! My Mum calls my oldest something completely different that she just made up herself

I think I mentioned it before but I have a terrible tendency to lengthen/shorten/make up names. Its a habit that is common to my group of friends.
The kids in my class love it and are often very offended if they havent been given a new moniker !
I called one of the kids Rebecca last week (not sure where it came from we dont even have one in the class ) she now has the nickname Rebecca ??

My parents get so annoyed if anyone shortens my name (double barrelled name). They get a stern "her name is ....-.....). It's never bothered me and I prefer to be called by the shorter version, and I am when my parents are not around

My 8 year old dd has lots of friends with double barrelled first names. At nursery their parents used to always make a big thing of it whenever anyone used their first name. Now most of them go as the first name only. How many Amelias can you have in one class? 😂 There are 10 Amelias in DD's class, and 7 Lilys! Thank God I called her anything but Amelia or Lily!

I will always associate the names Amelia and Lily with my childhood friends grandparents, and that's going back a few years. I'm not getting the Amelia- Rose, Amelia-lily, Amelia-rae, Lily-Rose, Lily-Mae, Lily- whatever old fashioned name you can think of....trend.

So far nobody has shortened DD's name...but there's time. I'm sure they will use the first 3 letters
And add a z at the teenage years and once school is done she will be back using the name she was given. It's no biggie 🤷‍♀️

@LoniceraJaponica, calm down Loni

My son is Oliver but is known by everyone as Olly

If the person being called by the diminutive/nickname has asked to be called that, then fine. But you can't just call someone by a nickname because you like it
I had a relative called Elspeth, and always introduced herself as such, but people, on first meeting her would shorten it to 'Else' which she hated.

@ludothedog

My Dad's name is Bethany...

@KlutzyDraconequus

This really is a modern world isn't it?

Ha ha ha ha ha!!! Made me LOL that did!!!

(I know the OP prob meant DD, not dad , but LOL!)

OP is not being unreasonable to be annoyed (about her kid's name being shortened,) but there is shag-all she can do about it.

If that's your worst irritation, then you really are blessed. Stop being so uptight.

My DS1 has a very unusual name (given to him by birth mum) and he just loves the normalisation of nicknames or it being shortened.

I have a relative called Amy. Chosen because it couldn't be shortened. Her school friends called her Ames or even just A.

One of my DDs is called Florence. We call her Florence or Florrie at home but at nursery it seems to be Flossie. I’m not keen but she likes it so that’s the main thing!

Does she mind? It’s her name after all.

I know what you mean at day care the teachers call my child "Meals" instead of Amelia 🙄

you haven't experienced the full list of variants yet - prepare yourself for

Smegs
Smeggles
Meggymoo
Mig
Midge
Mugs
Emm (plus whatever her surname.middle name is, so it could be Emem, Eminem - with the internal logic of Shady for that one - EmBee, EmCee, or EmBAH, etc)

And mispronunciations, such as Meegarn, etc.

Or she could do what a lot of girls do as they reach their teens and decide they want a completely different nickname, such as Bunny, Kitten, Harley (if Harley Quinn is back in fashion by then) or use her middle name/something based upon her surname.

Just chill. She'll always know her birth name, whatever she ends up being known as to other people.

(Caveat: I was given a name which is spelled differently if it's pronounced the way my father - Scots - said it. So, if my name's spelled 'correctly', it's not my name when spoken, if it's pronounced 'correctly', it's not my name when written down - as soon as I was old enough, I stopped using the fucking thing and went for a diminutive. Which then got lengthened by some. I don't care, as long as nobody uses my registered name, as I don't recognise that as meaning me.)

Reminds me of my school friend called Sue. If I rang and asked to speak to Sue there would be silence on the other end until I asked for Susan! It just seemed so strange saying Susan as no-one in school ever called her it.

How old is she? What does she want

My daughter is always called her full name by us, her friends often use the short version (which her dad hates ) - she did at around 12 when a teacher called her the shortened version point out she chooses who can call her by that version and her name is full version.

I asked her if she wanted us to use short form and she doesn't - she likes the full thing off us as 'it'd be weird otherwise' - by her facebook she's the short version 90% of the time (but uses the full version as ehr user name)

A rose by any other name would smell as sweet

Ha! My dd has three letters in her name and people still shorten it there’s an odd compulsion to lengthen it as well.

I don’t really care, she will go by whatever she likes when she’s old enough to have a preference and that’s fine by me. I gave her a name, I don’t own it. I just hope she likes it tbh, it wasn’t a name on our short list but when she arrived it just suited her that’s who she was. I have a long name with many nn and I liked the idea of her having the same but there you go.

I can never understand this I shorten everyone's names

Even when they don’t want you to, @shitonthebloodything?

I feel weird and uncomfortable when people full-name me too (it’s like I’m in trouble! ), but I’ll always call people by the name they want.

My DD has a long name something like Petranella, everyone calls her Petra. We have a nickname that we have called her since she was a baby and it's completely unrelated to her name. I think people can't be bothered with the long name, even we can't anymore!

My BIL is Joseph and my MIL always wanted it to be shortened to Jos, he didn't want the unusual abbreviation so went to school and called himself Joe!

Oh relax!
I have a 1 syllable name that cannot be shortened yet my friends add ‘y’ on the end actually lengthening it. Absolute madness but I know it’s meant as a term of endearment. Roll with it!!

Calling her by a clear diminutive of her actual name, eg Meg, is just people being friendly, and could be a term of endearment. So yes, chill for goodness sake.

As others have said, if you have a 1 syllable name, people will add bits to it. It's just a way people have of expressing they are being friendly.

Yes, and so it goes on....and on.....
First time on mumsnet, last time probably too.
What a bunch of clowns.
I liked your post ‘though.