To be irritated by people adjusting my DDs name

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My DD is called Megan. We call her Megan at home.
Other people seem to think it’s ok to change it to other versions:
Meg
Meggy
Megs
Her name is Megan and that is what we call her at home.
Aibu to think people should just call her by the name her parents use & not make names up?! It really bloody irritates me

There is absolutely nothing you can do about this.

You will spend many wasted hours getting irritated by this.

DS’s name is longish. He has numerous names from friends and rellies, none of which are my choice or to my liking.

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My brother has a name with lots of shortenings. His workmates know him by the full form, school friends use a nickname (one of those random names that boys call each other) and in the family we call him a diminutive of his full name. So phonecalls from his friends always involved him being called more than one name! It was the 80s though so no-one got their knickers in a twist. Less weird for family and friends who know all the names than for workmates who only know one name.

I have 3 DC, all of whom have short first names that can't be shortened. All of them get called lengthened rhymning versions of their names, think 'Mary-Fairy' type names . Mainly by their GMs. I don't mind, I think it's nice for GPs to have 'their' petname. Random adults calling a new baby by a short form are annoying though.

I'm a Penelope and I've never introduced myself as anything other than that. My mother insists that this is, in fact, my only name. I'm [email protected] and Penelope F. Slanted on my business cards and LinkedIn and all other work related things. Penelope Slanted on my doorbell and for all other personal things that need to be in writing.

I don't think I've spoken to a single person who hasn't called me "Penny" in the last 15 years or so, though. Except perhaps by my bank manager if the amount has been sufficiently high.

It's really alright. It's a mark of endearment and familiarity, surely?

You can't possibly control what people will call your child for the rest of her life. If it bothers her she's free to correct them herself once she's old enough.

This is something you are never going to be able to control.
Let it go.

Time to chill, OP. Both mine have one-syllable names and guess what? People who love them have given them all sorts of variations on their names all of which involve lengthening br two extra syllables or more! I appreciate these nicknames as they show affection, as PPs have explained.

I go by my full name, Elizabeth. Can't stand Liz, but can tolerate most other shortenings (I've had to, so many people can't compute a four syllable name...)

My 20mo son has a simple two syllable name with a common short form I don't care for (that is actually as long as his full name - think Robert/Robbie, though that's not it). We usually use the full form, but I also use a couple of other nicknames for it that I don't dislike as much to try and stop the one I don't care for as much from sticking (it probably will; if it does, I can deal)

Then why did you call her Megan ? Every name gets shortened unless it’s something like Tom. And even that gets lengthened to Tommy 😂. Just chill, you’ll get used to it, it’s a kind of endearment.

Haha, wait til she’s a bit older and started getting ‘Smeg’ and ‘Smegma’.

I deliberately picked a name for my daughter that couldn't be shortened, she still ended up with a nickname. Best not to worry about it and just make sure you always use her full name.

As others have said you if you don't like Meg Meggy or Megs. You should have sat and thought about whether Megan was the right choice.
People will always adjust names.

Noknownfather. Have you ever thought of going into acting. Your post is beyond dramatic over a shortening of names, and I'm.going to say it. What was with the flowers again over a name, bit Ott, wasn't it

You are fighting a losing battle. There’s nothing to say you have to shorten her name but you cannot stop others, only she can do that is she doesn’t like the shortened names, but that’s her decision, not yours.

There are many names we liked, but I knew that people would shorten them, or pronounce them differently to how I like, so we didn’t use those names. I’m surprised you didn’t realise that meg and meggy would be used

We specifically chose a name for our son with shortened names that we liked for your very reason. My name was shortened and my mum hated it but I'm never called by my full name now and I'm 31!

Take up a hobby

If it burgers you OP, nip it in the bud now before she becomes Megaluf or Megawatt.

Did you name neverget shortened or lengthened? Ie Blackie, blackers etc.

Surely in the real world you knew that could happen? You can insist that teachers use the full name, and ask other people, but childhood friends usually develop their own nicknames.

I have a Megan who will be 12 this year. She gets every nickname under the sun from friends and family, I quite like it as it’s a sign of affection and she suits every single one of them. She gets Meg, Meggy, Megarna, Megatron, Meggymoo, Meglet, Moo, Megs, Mog. I think you really need to chill and accept that people will give her nicknames.

It's a bit churlish to try and control what people call your kids.

I knew a couple who named their daughter Kristyna instead of Christina, apparently in an attempt to stop people shortening it to Chris or Tina. Ridiculous!

Don’t be that person.

Also, what the hell did you think would happen?? Pellle always shorten names.

My childhood friend had a little sister called Victoria. If we were out her house and playing with her sister her mum used to go batshit if we shortened it to Vicky or Vic. Have you tried shouting ‘vic-tor-ri-a’ in the middle of a game...? Way too long.

I remember meeting a friend of a friend years ago, who told me their toddler's name which was the same full length name as my DS. They asked me if my DS went under the full name or the shortened version - e.g. Sam or Samuel. I told them he had the full name of birth certificate but we use the short version (except when he was being naughty!). They responded that their DS would always have the full length name. I just smiled and thought "good luck with that when he starts school!". I often wonder what he answers to now - he'll be a teenager

Ds is called the shortened version of a name, and that shorter version is the name on his birth certificate. Some people always call him by the lengthened version, which is fine....apart from the fact he ignores them, as he doesn't recognise it as his name!!

My Mum chose names for all three of us that she thought couldn't be shortened. How wrong she was. My name is actually one syllable/four letters and people frequently lengthen it. Drives me nuts. That's not my name! My brothers have 2 syllable names with no popular diminutives but they still got called by the first 2 or 3 letter of their names. Think Balonz shortened to just Ba.

You cannot control other people OP, not your DD and not her friends, teachers etc. If your DD prefers not to be addressed by a nickname she will have to speak up for herself, if she doesn’t mind you will have to learn to accept it. What you prefer is irrelevant to her independent life and relationships with other people.

My parents were strict and formal and I was always addressed by my given name. I was thrilled when I was eventually given an affectionate nickname by my circle of friends. I’m nearly 60 now and only my mum and professional contacts use my formal name. To me it emphasises how distant our relationship is.

My ds is Patrick. He is always Patrick or a family nickname at home, but is one of about 5 or 6 different versions everywhere else. He doesn’t appear to be scarred in any way. There was one shortening we asked people not to use because it upset FIL. But apart from that- it’s a bit of a free for all!

I think you're being ridiculous OP but I suspect over time you will soften on this and understand it yourself.

My name is four syllables and I regularly get people saying it's a lovely name (my parents chose well and it's a popular one whenever it comes up on the baby names board here!) but it still gets shortened and neither I or they ever minded. It's life.

I agree, you need to chill a bit,

I have a Lucy. She's a teenager now and over the years she responds to.....

Luce
Loo
Lou Lou
Looby Lou
Loobster
Lucky

It just happens. I'm just happy she has friends who are comfortable enough with her to call her a pet name and she's happy enough with it.

It really shouldn't be something to get irritated by.