To give dd a bottle of Prosecco

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DD is 15 tmrw and has a friend coming round tonight to celebrate before we go away for a few days tomorrow.

She's asked for a bottle of Prosecco for them to share, to celebrate.

Would you let her?

Have not RTFT

But for my 15th birthday I drank the vast majority of a 2l bottle of white lightening and passed out on a park bench. I think if I'd been taught how to be responsible about it I might not have done that!
There was another time at 16 I took a bit of each spirit from the bottle and put it in a water bottle... Absolutely floored me, I'd not idea about the strengths or how evil mixing drinks can be! Or about measures full stop.

Half a bottle of prosecco would make me feel tipsy- it's the bubbles I swear, so I'd probably not be ok with that, but I'd find a compromise somewhere (as pp have said maybe the mini bottles)

Why not do some kind of watered-down drink? A wine spritzer?

Or mocktails?

Oops, saw you already gave them some, my bad! I think it's fine though.

What about a spritzer? To be honest, a lot of 15 year olds drink and it has been that way for years. She may well celebrate with a bottle of vodka in the park instead and be asking guys to go and buy it for her. Think a glass of wine with food at home is more preferable.

I wouldn't give them a bottle between two though and let em have a glass/couple of spritzers each and only if the other parents is ok with it.

When I was (very) young a some neighbours of ours were strict Christians, and I mean STRICT. They would not allow alcohol in the house. At the age of 14 their youngest son was an alcoholic.

One of the other influences was my parents, they both tied one on quite regularly. I remember one Christmas (I was 14) when my mother was so proud of herself for managing to cook Christmas lunch while she was drunk (they started drinking at 9 in the morning at Christmas!!!!). Needless to say she did not cook Christmas lunch, I did, and my brother always said I was lying when I told them I cooked it (that is another story though), so she always believed she managed it.

Due to that experience I allowed my kids watered down wine with Sunday lunch from about 10 or 11, they were allowed to drink properly, within limitations, from about the age of 16. Consequently, when they were of legal drinking age they knew what effect alcohol had and knew when to stop. Yes, they had good sessions when they were early 20s, but that lasted a couple of years, now my daughter barely drinks at all and my son has a few beers of a weekend.

I hardly drink at all, a glass of wine with Sunday lunch ands that is it.

I still think it is best for "kids" to experience drink in a controlled environment rather than their first experience being going out on the lash with mates and ending up lying in the middle of the road somewhere.

Hi woth kir Royal or Bellini - fuzzy & low alcohol content

As others have suggested, I’d probably say a Buck’s Fizz or perhaps a glass of asti? Quite sweet and low alcohol (I shamefully still drink it on occasion and I’m mid 30s )

From about 13 I used to get a cranberry and vodka when we had a take away on the weekends with my mum. A bottle of secco isn't going to hurt. I've always drank in moderation though, mum drummed that into me, being pissed isn't fun and it ruins the night and the morning after .

I haven't read the full thread, but assuming the OP was genuine- I think you're a jerk.

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Yes, you'd quite like my life. University educated and living a very nice lifestyle thank you very much.

I also said yes when my then 13 yr old ds asked to smoke a cigarette. He couldn't get over the shock when he jokingly asked and I agreed. He coughed and spluttered and has never had another and swears blind he won't ever smoke. it wasn't just the trying of the cigarette though. It was the discussion that went with it too that has made him so antismoking.

Drinking he has done responsibly so far too. He trusts that what I am saying is valid and there is no need to rebel. My other kids are similar and as I said previously are the ones looking after their friends who have over indulged.

Maybe the education started earlier than the teens to develop the relationship and trust we have - I don't know, but I want my kids to make decisions because they want to do the best thing and because they know their limits. Not because they have to, then go overboard when left to their own devices.

But then everyone knows their own teens. Perhaps my approach wouldn't work for them all.

I would think a bottle of Prosecco to celebrate a birthday would be fine, if it was an 18th birthday.
What is so special about a 15th birthday, that you feel it is okay for 2 children to consume 4.5 - 5 units of alcohol each?
They are both too young to start celebrating anything with alcohol!

Yep no problem with that. Much rather they were at home where I can keep an eye on them. I like to teach responsible drinking, although I'm lucky in that my teen doesn't like the taste.

3 mini bottles = 1 standard bottle

A small glass would be ok I should think. Especially if you’re there. Make drinking part of a celebration it makes alcohol part of life’s pleasures rather than forbidden fruit!

omg i am sat here thinking how a bottle between 2 is nothing! Eeeek. But they are 15 so perhaps a small glass or 2 each?

We were allowed bucks fizz to celebrate from a younger age than that & the odd beer.

Two outcomes:
They get drunk, hate it, and dont drink.
They get drunk, like it, and ask for more.

You should consider your own situation and how your DD is different.
Also if she has a addictive personality, then no.

She's 15, it's prosecco, it's kinda down to you, legally, but morally, it's also down to you.

I was allowed like two glasses of Babycham at that age.

My youngest and I have been talking about gambling recently. I've said how I could easily become addicted to it as It's fun. Which it is. I've then gone on to say that I don't do it, or if I have occasionally indulged in the past, then it's not for more than I'm prepared to lose. We talked about stakes having to increase to cover loses, which is then also lost and so on.
I've not told him not to gamble. I've said be careful if you do and pointed out how things easily escalate and what could happen. Now I have to trust him to make the right decisions.

A similar approach to alcohol. It's not banned. Just discussed.

I would get a bottle and share it with everyone in the house, enjoy a little cheers together.

It seems a fairly reasonable request and a sensible attitude towards alcohol.
At that age (and younger) I was buying glens vodka and drinking it to get drunk in the park with friends.
Would much prefer my children to be asking for Prosecco

I had a sleepover with a few friends for my 16th and my mum got us all one of those bigger wkd type drinks (checked with parents first). My mum let me and my sister have small amounts at celebrations since we were 15 ish and to be honest,it never done us any harm. I rarely drink now as I don't see it as a big deal and didn't at 18 either as it wasn't a novelty. My sister couldn't drink at 18 due to medical issues but makes up for it now... but never to the point where she is out of her face.

I think a small amount for celebrations is a good idea as it takes the novelty off alcohol. I wouldn't give half a full bottle each though, maybe a small one as others have suggested

It's like a different world out there!

This country has such a massive problem with alcohol.

Definitely not. I didn't like dry wine at that age, the sweeter the better. I had a Blossom Hill Cherry Spritzer at the weekend which was nice and 5.5% abv. There are lots of drinks like this on the market. If it must be prosecco, mix with fresh orange, and only a glass each.

Ifyouknowme

And I think you're a jerk for your really unhelpful and judgemental comment

A bottle of wine is generally 750ml (75cl) and a large pub measure glass is 250ml. So three large glasses. Prosecco glasses are usually smaller so yes possibly 6.
're the original subject, yes I would allow a glass or two each. It tastes nasty anyway so they probably wouldn't finish a whole bottle between them.
I allow my 14 year old son the odd bottle of beer on special occasions. As children we were allowed to drink at special dinners etc from a young age, obviously topped up with more/less lemonade depending on age

Going to go against the grain here - yes. Most children are already drinking at 15 (though many on here wouldn't dare admit their little darlings might be out of sight!) and sharing prosecco with friends is a good way of introducing her to alcohol in a safe situation.

You know your daughter and her maturity, but I say much better this than vodka in some house party with no supervision and lots of peer pressure!