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To give dd a bottle of Prosecco

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pasanda · 17/02/2019 18:28

DD is 15 tmrw and has a friend coming round tonight to celebrate before we go away for a few days tomorrow.

She's asked for a bottle of Prosecco for them to share, to celebrate.

Would you let her?

OP posts:
autumndreaming · 17/02/2019 18:36

Not a whole bottle, but maybe a few small glasses each.

M0reGinPlease · 17/02/2019 18:36

Better they're sharing a bottle of prosecco at home, than swigging cheap vodka from the bottle in the park

Bit of a jump there isn't there?!

I'm not saying there isn't a place for supervised and responsible drinking at home- I think that's actually a good thing- but two fifteen year olds sharing a whole bottle of Prosecco? Not a chance.

Original poster
pasanda · 17/02/2019 18:37

Aldi - great name btw!

Schloer (??sp) would definitely not do.... Unfortunately!

It looks like I may have to have a couple of glasses of it myself first!

OP posts:
Bumble1830 · 17/02/2019 18:37

I would, I think they will respect alcohol by allowing them to have a bottle. A bit like not being allowed to do something makes you want to do it more.

AnchorDownDeepBreath · 17/02/2019 18:37

Yes but not a whole bottle. That's too much and they'll drink it because they can, which is not great. A mini bottle (and I might have a spare mini bottle hidden) so they drink it responsibly.

WorraLiberty · 17/02/2019 18:38

I'd give them a glass each

autumndreaming · 17/02/2019 18:39

It also definitely depends on the teens. If they are responsible and wouldn't go crazy, that's different from teens who are desperate to drink it all just because they can.

When I was 16 my friend and I used to have takeaway pizzas, watch box sets and share a bottle of wine. But both our parents were aware and we were in one of our houses, and we were trusted to be responsible which we were.

Isleepinahedgefund · 17/02/2019 18:40

A glass each maybe, definitely not half a bottle each.

snowflakesnow · 17/02/2019 18:40

Op yes you should have a glass or so and maybe dilute theirs a tiny bit with lemonade, they might not notice.

Many 15 year olds have a drink and I think your being responsible by managing it but no right out saying no or they could do it behind your back and end up drunk. A few tipsy giggles is fine.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 17/02/2019 18:41

Half a glass topped with orange juice yes- but no I wouldn’t hand them a bottle.

ShawshanksRedemption · 17/02/2019 18:41

God no, why can't they share a bottle of White Lightning or MD 20/20 like we used to do. Teens today.....Wine

Seriously though, I have a daughter that age and a whole bottle would be a no, but a glass to celebrate, yes.

Gth1234 · 17/02/2019 18:41

I think a bottle shared with you all is a good compromise. Treat her in an adult manner. You don't want her going off doing it in secret. And one glass with a few adult nibbles won't hurt.

Prosecco isn't the worst thing. Alco pops, and fruit ciders are strong and much more easily consumed. She probably won't even enjoy a very dry sparkler if she isn't used to alcohol. A strawberry and lime cider would taste much nicer, I imagine.

gamerwidow · 17/02/2019 18:42

A glass each no problem but splitting a bottle is too much for 15 year olds

SaucyJack · 17/02/2019 18:42

Has she had it before?

Dry wine is a bit of an acquired taste.

Might be better to get something lower-alcohol and sweeter. I remember Asti going down quite nicely in my yoof.

ShabbyAbby · 17/02/2019 18:42

Buck's Fizz sounds much better
Half a bottle of Prosecco I'd be slurring!

Theunreasonableone · 17/02/2019 18:42

Half a glass yes. Half a bottle no way! A couple of glasses would floor me. You also need the other girl’s parents permission

MinisterforCheekyFuckery · 17/02/2019 18:43

A glass each is fine as long as the other girls parents are in agreement. They don't need a whole bottle!

BlueMerchant · 17/02/2019 18:44

Something not quite as strong and a bottle of sparking water to go in with it. You can sell it to them by saying it'll make the bottle last longer.

TheVanguardSix · 17/02/2019 18:45

A small glass each.
A bottle between them is far too much. And join them. Smile

Glitterbugle · 17/02/2019 18:45

Yes I would. My mum used to buy me a bottle for parties at that age.

For those saying no but 1 or two glasses of wine is okay - a half bottle of wine is this. It’s not a load.

If you say no she’ll just not ever tell you when she drinks. All of my friends drank - some told our parents and had sensible conversations about it and some just hid it

AldiProsecco · 17/02/2019 18:45

ok, well Aldi also do a peach or a watermelon bellini (sp?) which is much lower in alcohol content at 4 per cent

flowery · 17/02/2019 18:48

I don’t have a teenager but my niece is 15.

I’d probably let them have half a glass each at that age.

Oliversmumsarmy · 17/02/2019 18:52

Research shows that saying no to underage drinking is the way to get people to drink sensibly.

I am shocked that you would even consider giving 2 children a bottle of alcohol to share between them.

TrainSong · 17/02/2019 18:52

I'd buy a bottle and give them two glasses of buck's fizz each, mainly OJ with a tiny splash of prosecco in each, and make sure DH and I drank the rest so they couldn;t top themselves up. I think tiny amounts of alochol under supervision on special occasions at home is fine.

dragonsfire · 17/02/2019 18:53

Get some Buck’s Fizz instead 😊 check with other parent as they may not approve

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