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AIBU to think some posters on here lie?

216 replies

mystar · 09/02/2019 23:54

This leads on from the drinking thread. Yes, when my daughter was a baby I barely drank but she’s now 12 so I don’t think twice about smashing a bottle of wine on a Friday or Saturday night.

Obviously if she was ill it would be a different story.

When she was at junior school her pack up regularly included Pom bears or the the Aldi equivalent. And, every now and again we have dinner which consists of freezer tapas or a beige platter (chips/goujons etc). We even sometimes have said platter in front of the tv.

I also swear inadvertently in front of her and I don’t use my recycling bins properly.

Sometimes when I read things on here I think I must be the worst mother in the world. AIBU to think I am normal? Are there others out there like me?

OP posts:
topcat2014 · 10/02/2019 18:51

Just had chicken kievs with hash browns and baked beans for tea, so can I join the beige club?

NotSorry · 10/02/2019 18:56

yes people on here lie - there is a prolific poster who I used to work for in real life - still has same user name - she was a pathological liar then and still is - I have no idea why

Smotheroffive · 10/02/2019 18:57

What is the beige club? I remember seeing it somewhere in a tvdrama the beige talk.

And then of course there are the trolls! I do wonder about many threads that do really say so much and expect responses, then OP doesn't come back, and they are left hanging, so seem pointless!

LadyOfTheFlowers · 10/02/2019 19:10

We've just had toad in the hole. All 5 sproggers present wolfed it down. With mash. So all beige. But homemade. Grin

On a different tangent -am I a bad parent for allowing my kids to go on school trips on a double decker bus/coach on the motorway?
The 'danger' of the journey doesn't enter my head. Am I odd?! Confused

topcat2014 · 10/02/2019 19:13

@ladyoftheflowers I expect the coach would have seatbelts. Statistically safe.

LadyOfTheFlowers · 10/02/2019 19:19

@topcat2014 Glad you agree. It's the topic of another thread and it's made me think about people lying on all kinds of tangents. Like do people really object to schools etc for them trying to take their kids on trips on double deckers etc. These must be lies too? Aside from the lunchboxes and all the rest of it. Do people really worry about even these tiny things? It makes me feel I don't worry enough about my kids?! They see the doctor about once every 5 years. The first one was the only one who ever got weighed as a baby each week and I let them sleep on their tummies and demand fed if that's what got me the best rest/sleep/best performance as a mother. It just seems like I don't worry enough and am not precious enough

Smotheroffive · 10/02/2019 21:50

You just more secure and confident in the worlds ability to keep you all safe. I dont this k everyone has such a strong g sense of it as you though, doesnt make them liars! Harsh much!

I have worried when mine have done intercontinental coach trips through mountainous regions. There has been a lot in the press about substandard tyres on coach (widespread), no need to be name-callingn others precious

Pk37 · 10/02/2019 22:18

We always have dinner in front of the tv, my dd stays up later than most kids her age, I let her have a sip of my gin and tonic if she asks and I couldn’t give a flying fuck what anyone else thinks.
I do think there is a lot of BS on here

Pernickity1 · 11/02/2019 21:07

I don’t think people lie as frequently as some seem to think.

A friend of my sister was convinced my sister was lying when she said my DC have never had junk food /drank anything except milk or water and they have very limited screen time. Apparently she simply did not believe this (to be fair I’ve been a gluttonous mess when I was younger so I wouldn’t blame her for being somewhat sceptical!) she thinks I must be lying and that “everyone” feeds their toddlers chicken nuggets and squash on occasion.

I’m a lazy mother in many other ways but not when it comes to these certain things. I think people chose to believe everyone is like them so that they can feel validated/ feel better about their choices and it’s self-preservation when they say that anyone who deviates from this must be lying.

Wedgiecar58 · 11/02/2019 21:21

I don’t use my recycling bins properly.

Shame on you, this isn’t acceptable. Stop being lazy!

Butteredghost · 11/02/2019 21:50

I don’t think people lie as frequently as some seem to think

I agree, I think as pp said some people can't imagine others live differently. I have thought about this when I've seen a posts where people are accused of lying because they've said they do something and "that's something no one would do". And I do that thing and never thought it was unusual, and in fact everyone I know does it.

Smotheroffive · 12/02/2019 00:12

Tsk tsk do your recycling properly don't contaminate it! Outbloodyrageous

blackteasplease · 12/02/2019 00:16

I hoped everyone was lying on the drinking thread too!

corythatwas · 12/02/2019 01:36

Why do you hope that, blackteas? Why would it matter to you if some people have a drink in the evening and some other people do something else?

MariaNovella · 12/02/2019 01:44

Some posters lie quite outrageously. There are some serious fantasists whose lives are a very long way off resembling what they say they are like on here.

FenellaMaxwell · 12/02/2019 03:48

Also, it doesn’t always mean people are happy with their choices, just because you see them as virtue signalling. When I say I don’t drink, I’m not making it up, or saying it to make you feel bad, and I would fucking LOVE to be able to sink a few large glasses of wine, believe me, but I have to get up at 5:30 for work, and have a toddler who doesn’t sleep through the night, so I just can’t do it. L

burntdinner · 12/02/2019 04:08

I don't lie either here or in real life
I do regularly name change though so nothing is too outing

burntdinner · 12/02/2019 04:29

I don't drink very often , I just don't enjoy it , never have
I very rarely swear and neither does DP
His recycling is good ( say 9/10 ) my recycling is improving ( up from 1/10 to 7/10 ) I like litter picking but don't often bother to do any
My eating habits are awful mostly due to big portions and I like cooking , I'm starting to make DP look like a Buddha , I reached that stage myself long ago
One of my downfalls is coffee
I don't do enough exercise except for walking around a supermarket
I've become very lazy and have to get cross with myself to get motivated even on doing things I like doing
I don't lie either here or in real life

I post regularly but change my user name frequently so nothing is too outing

Dodgylooking · 12/02/2019 04:34

Last week i drank a bottle of wine in bed once DD was asleep and......... i smoke

Bellasorellaa · 12/02/2019 04:37

A lot of people drink but no I don’t drink a whole bottle on The weekend unless I’m out

People on here all the time talk about tinned hoops, sausage and mash and frozen pies being food of the gods so why do you believe your frozen food is so bad?

And I don’t not use my recycling properly because it isn’t rocket science

Why would people lie?

BitOutOfPractice · 12/02/2019 04:43

Why would people lie?

To make themselves look / feel better than they are.

People lie all the time about big things on here. Up to and including losing a child. So it's not beyond the imagination to think that they will lie about recycling is it?

Monty27 · 12/02/2019 04:44

I think some people on here are in an imaginary bubble. Some even think they are perfect.
So whaddya know?
A pile of droll posts that undermine the ethos that Mumsnet was built upon.
There's media for you.. again. And perhaps a victim of their own success.
Shame

SparkiePolastri · 12/02/2019 05:23

It's no different from any social media, really.

People like to put their best foot forward - present the 'highlights reel', as it were. Not the mundane, day-to-day dross.

Most - well, many - people want others to think the best of them.

I do agree that some threads attract people who feel particularly strongly about an issue (drinking while looking after children, say. Hell, drinking, full stop), while regular people will just give the thread a big ol' swerve.

brookshelley · 12/02/2019 05:59

I've always thought there is a lot of lying on thread asking if it's OK to have one drink while pregnant, because the only time anyone ever admits to having done it is a glass of Moet at a wedding or a Chateauneuf de Pape while on holiday in France. No one ever says they drank beer or a can of M&S slimline G&T.

Santaclarita · 12/02/2019 06:11

Of course they lie. It's amazing how many people on here have jobs that earn 500k, own massive houses, do lots of activities and yet still have the time to spend most of the day on here... Grin not that I am suspicious or anything.

People like to have the perfect life now. You can thank instagram for that. And Facebook, twitter etc. They want to be better than others. But you can pretty much tell the ones who are struggling. It's the ones bragging too often. It's the ones using filters to look better, or to be 'funny'. I feel more sorry for them really, and wonder how long it is until they crack. Sad