AIBU to think some posters on here lie?

[mystar]

This leads on from the drinking thread. Yes, when my daughter was a baby I barely drank but she’s now 12 so I don’t think twice about smashing a bottle of wine on a Friday or Saturday night.

Obviously if she was ill it would be a different story.

When she was at junior school her pack up regularly included Pom bears or the the Aldi equivalent. And, every now and again we have dinner which consists of freezer tapas or a beige platter (chips/goujons etc). We even sometimes have said platter in front of the tv.

I also swear inadvertently in front of her and I don’t use my recycling bins properly.

Sometimes when I read things on here I think I must be the worst mother in the world. AIBU to think I am normal? Are there others out there like me?

Of course some people lie.

But also, some people live a different way than you do and actually do the stuff you can’t believe they do.

@Mummylife2018 if I remember rightly the mum had not brought up the the OP but kept her siblings and had refused repayment before deciding she needed the money back for something non essential.

I think if it had been a normal mum daughter relationship most people would give the money back but it definitely wasn’t

Thanks @mystar - this has made me giggle a bit

Tbh, lying on MN has never occurred to me...isn’t the whole point of an anonymous chat forum that it is somewhere you can be your entire, unfiltered —obnoxious— self, cos (drum role....) nobody knows who you are?!?!?

FWIW, I pretty much always cook from scratch (with the exception of Heinz tomato soup and fish fingers), drink even when on childcare duty, inadvertently swear occasionally (although I’m not very sweary on the whole), have absolutely no clue what my dcs eat for lunch (thank god for school meals), change my sheets and towels every week and, worst of all, work full time.

There's lying and there's lying

So there's saying that your child gets straight A's always eats their veg and wouldn't dream of back talking

Probably bollocks

And there's changing small details like the ages of your children, small aspects of your job and saying you live in Essex when you actually live in Dorset

Acceptable lies not to be identified

The hairy handers who come on to start knicker discussion posing as a concerned Mum?

More mentally unstable pervert than someone "lying" ?

I never drink with the kids at home but only because my son goes into anaphylaxis he's 14 now) and it would frighten the shit out of me not to be able to race him to A&E. The rest absolutely is our life.

@PCohle my towel wash cycle is hideous. Think Turin shroud

Yeah all of us. Sometimes on my days off I don't even bother to get dressed. Or up.

some people live a different way than you do

True but (eg) on the earnings thread c. 40% of posters live in a household with earnings over 100k. In real life only 1% of households do so even adjusting for MN’s demographic either the people posting are not representative or some are lying. I’d say it’s a combination of those factors.

@fillybuster you sound like my kind of pal 😊

I don't drink alcohol, I don't care if that is weird.

I don't do long winded texts to tell people " I am having trouble accomodating little Barry on my way to work, and I find it a bit unfair that you seem to be unable to arrange your own childcare, we will have to arrange to dissolve this arrangement soon. I will take Barry till June then you need to look for paid childcare , it doesn;t work for me"

I want to park outside my own bloody house

My DD slept through since birth , that is not a lie. As she was my 2nd , I let her sleep

Wonder if they're the same people who have a combined income of 500K and still struggle to make ends meet.

Yup, lying galore.
Some of the stuff like the teetotalers and the high earners I think you can put down to who decides to comment on the thread. Other stuff is just absolute bollocks.

Personally, I think a lot of the people on the "what did you eat today?" Threads are very honest and sound very normal but there will always be some who declare that they "don't do" breakfast. Or snacks. Or lunch (except on birthdays). And their dinner consists of a HUGE salad.
It takes all sorts, but a lot of it just doesn't sound right.

I've been on MN for 11 years, so I've seen a fair few threads. A good few years ago, there was a thread about a MNers dd who was getting bullied at school - so many posters piled on to the thread full of sympathy for the dd, calling the bully a bitch, queen bee etc. Calls for the Op to contact governors, OFSTED, home educate and all sorts. Of course, the MNers dd was top set, sensitive, studious, always kind....
As it happened, I knew the OP in RL, and things weren't quite as she'd made them out to be - it really was just a case of two 9 year old girls caught up in a squabble, but the OP was determined to get everyone onside - and that's what she got. I actually wouldn't say she was lying, she just presented her own case strongly, and it seemed like nobody dared ask if there was another side to the story.
Since then, I take most threads with a pinch of salt. People post their own side of the story, with their own interpretations, with a view to getting other MNers onside. Lots of people fall for it!

I had assumed many would lie to retain anonymity, as MNers do get outed when sharing details! It doesn't bother me.

I am running a what did you eat today thread and what I post is true afai remember! I don't drink much, some do, I don't eat many ready meals, but I do have some. I don't have yoghurt in and I eat from raw in the main, that's no lie. Also, yeah, I do, have in the last week been having massive salad for dinner (cos I'm a fatso). Can't stand 'diets' though, don't do them, never have.

It takes all sorts and there's certainly all sorts on MN! Like anywhere there are plenty of keepy uppers out there and on here

Also think when posters try to offer advice it would be in their best moment type advice and not necessarily what actually always happens.

I would reverse the pp ^thread and say that ppl make huge assumptions from seeing a few pics on farcebook, assuming that everything was absolutely perfect and rosy instead of being realistic and knowing that those were the highlights of the day/week/month they weren't taking pics when the shit hit the fan

I think it can sound quite judgemental that posters are lying just because everyone has different lives

i'm honest on here. I change bits to anonymise and sometimes my boss morphs into DH when talking about something that is outing (one of them is a public figure for want of a better phrase).

The food threads i am honest about- I cook from scratch (don't make my own burgers or fish fingers or bread and we do use oven chips / baked beans / fresh soup).

does nobody remember the serial exaggerator? Said she was a PhD and ran a Uni library (had had a shelf stacking job in village library) she lived next door to a ye olde village store (a spar) husband was dashing media type (bankrupt umpteen times) it was hilarious but very sad. Nobody would have been bothered about the lying if she'd not used the perfect life to attack others.

People lie on the internet. Standard.

People on MN lie? In other news this week I hear the Pope is catholic.

Actually thinking about it I have seen someone I know IRL lie on MN but realistically it was because she was lying to herself about external perceptions of her life.

I have a friend who I have wondered is on here and I have a feeling I genuinely wouldn't recognise her, despite having known her two decades, either that or she would come on here and get eaten alive on her posting style and not come back.

I'm just myself on here, and my own opinions and thoughts, I just spout them out.
Boringly normal but that's the way I'd rather be!

We all have a mixture of virtues and vices, but some people really cannot bear for anyone to see less than their "best self". They cannot face the fact that they are not perfect, so they edit out all the inconvenient vices and gloss over them. In real life the inconsiderate bastards who have to live with them tend to point out their failings, but on an anonymous forum, when they are happily reporting on their incredibly selfless virtues, no-one will remind them that they are also a serial adulterer who deliberately gets their dog to shit on next door's lawn.

Well well, wow Candid how very candid indeed

Naming no names of course

really does sound that way 'these' and 'they' that do all that . Have you actually found someone but not actually outed them yet

I don’t believe you though OP, you say you only drink occasionally, you only swear inadvertently and you only have beige crap in front of the TV once in a while. I think this is all probably bullshit, but so what?