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Original poster

To be massively irritated at new lodger

304 replies

Nutmeggy · 09/02/2019 17:17

Hi all
Sat fuming at the moment.

6 weeks ago I got a lodger short term for three months.

All was fine until Friday when she told me by text that her friend was coming to stay for the weekend bringing her 8 year old daughter

Got text Friday evening, by the time I arrived home they were here. Took them 4 hours by coach so not like they live near by.

However I think you have to ask and 2 extra people here all weekend not very relaxing.

Going to.have words with lodger when they have gone tomorrow but seriously who does this?

Massive over reach on part of lodger i think particularly as they are sleeping in lounge

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Maelstrop · 09/02/2019 20:11

They’re sleeping in the lounge! Present them with a bill!

theworldistoosmall · 09/02/2019 20:12

I would settle down on the sofa and binge watch horrors, but I would have started this last night. They cannot take over your living room. They need to fuck off to the lodgers' room.

NotANotMan · 09/02/2019 20:13

Say no to them sleeping in the lounge FFS

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Nutmeggy · 09/02/2019 20:15

I've put Luther on and they have gone, pretty irritating though and given half a chance they would take over the lounge all evening as they are not going out
I've made it plain to lodger im not happy and Sunday I'm going to give notice

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pigsDOfly · 09/02/2019 20:19

What the hell? So YOUR lounge is going to be inaccessible to you once the 8 year old child has gone to be and in the morning until they decide to get up?

You can't have that.

Obviously, because you sound like a very reasonable person, and probably a bit too nice, you are not going to tell them they can't stay but they cannot come into your home and take over one of the rooms.

Your lodger is massively over stepping a line here. If she wants them to stay they have to sleep in her room.

Bloody cheek.

pigsDOfly · 09/02/2019 20:20

Oh well done OP.

2birds1stone · 09/02/2019 20:21

If you do this again make sure you write in the contract about guests, any guests who stay must be in the lodgers room, with 48 hours notice. Anything outside of this will result in an additional charge of £50 per night (similar rate to a hotel depending on where you are)

I was firm with this when I had lodgers and they were all very good in letting me know about people staying and if it was last minute why (usually a crisis and I wouldn't see someone on the street) however we had s spare room where a air bed could be put down for non bf guests.

Original poster
Nutmeggy · 09/02/2019 20:25

Yes it's a massive piss take

Lodger is renting a room which does not give her the right to take over the lounge with 2 guests and as you say when kid goes to sleep lounge is not useable , not kids fault I know at all

And why the fuck travel 4 hours to Brighton to stay in all weekend eating takeaways !!!

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RebootYourEngine · 09/02/2019 20:25

I hope you are not going to leave them to it. I would be going into the lounge in the most inappropriate outfit, take the TV remote and put on whatever you want to watch.

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Nutmeggy · 09/02/2019 20:26

No I'm watching Luther!!!!

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RebootYourEngine · 09/02/2019 20:27

X post. Good on you OP.

Drum2018 · 09/02/2019 20:32

I wouldn't be accommodating the child going to bed in the lounge. Stay there watching tv until you are ready to go to bed - not when they want to go to bed.

eddielizzard · 09/02/2019 20:33

Well I think CF is your lodger. She's told her friend and kid it's fine for them to sleep in lounge. So the issue is with her I think. Massive piss take.

But now you know what the additional clauses to write in your contract are...

AlexaAmbidextra · 09/02/2019 20:34

And why the fuck travel 4 hours to Brighton to stay in all weekend eating takeaways !!!

Could have been worse. They could have been expecting to go out on the razz while you babysat the kid. 😄

FredFlinstoneMadeOfBones · 09/02/2019 20:36

Definitely give notice this is probably just the tip of the iceberg in terms of CF behaviour.

Original poster
Nutmeggy · 09/02/2019 20:40

Yes agree with you all
Its indicative of inconsiderate behaviour and I can't think friend would have bought kid without lodger telling her it was ok

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GabsAlot · 09/02/2019 20:42

wow cf or what

tbf to the mother she might have been told it was ok by you

stay up late sorry to the child but not your fault they sprung this on you

Mummyoflittledragon · 09/02/2019 20:48

is this the first issue you’ve had with her? You can either give notice or put up with it. You’re half way there. As for tonight, I’d insist they stay in the lodgers room. If the woman doesn’t like it, is there a b&b / hotel locally. They’ve obviously got your house confused with one.

Original poster
Nutmeggy · 09/02/2019 20:48

Tempting to stay up late but not fair on the kid so will go to bed early and give notice when they have gone tomorrow
I agree mother must have been told it was ok you don't just bring an 8 year old with you to your friends lodger room without checking it's ok

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Original poster
Nutmeggy · 09/02/2019 20:48

Yes first issue but don't trust her now and would rather give notice

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JamPasty · 09/02/2019 20:50

Why not tell them kid has to sleep in lodgers room?

Original poster
Nutmeggy · 09/02/2019 20:52

I don't want to have words when kid is here as she is quite sweet

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CircleofWillis · 09/02/2019 20:52

Does your lodger know they are a lodger and not a co-renter with you? There was a thread a year back where the lodger didn’t realise and was claiming equal rights to the flat (painting rooms, buying furniture for living room etc). I think she had lost touch with reality though as she started telling people that SHE owned the flat. There was another where the lodger asked the landlady to go to a hotel over the weekend because her boyfriend was coming!!!

Original poster
Nutmeggy · 09/02/2019 20:54

Ha ha ha
She definitely knows !!!
Just trying it on I think

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Mummyoflittledragon · 09/02/2019 20:58

It doesn’t need to be “having words”. You can just tell her “sleeping in the living room isn’t an option... Please sleep in the room you are renting. “