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To be massively irritated at new lodger

304 replies

Nutmeggy · 09/02/2019 17:17

Hi all
Sat fuming at the moment.

6 weeks ago I got a lodger short term for three months.

All was fine until Friday when she told me by text that her friend was coming to stay for the weekend bringing her 8 year old daughter

Got text Friday evening, by the time I arrived home they were here. Took them 4 hours by coach so not like they live near by.

However I think you have to ask and 2 extra people here all weekend not very relaxing.

Going to.have words with lodger when they have gone tomorrow but seriously who does this?

Massive over reach on part of lodger i think particularly as they are sleeping in lounge

OP posts:
southeastdweller · 10/02/2019 15:44

Yes, I thought the Brighton hotel cost had been a factor. You’re well rid of this CF.

Feel a bit sorry for the child cooped up for three days.

southeastdweller · 10/02/2019 15:44

Sorry - two days.

TaimaandRanyasBestFriend · 10/02/2019 15:46

She's a wally. She needed to tell her friend NO. And there was no excuse for their sleeping in the lounge and taking over. But hey, you are well rid and not at all overreacting.

Original poster
Nutmeggy · 10/02/2019 15:48

Yes I felt sorry for the kid as well who goes to visit and stays in a lounge for 48 hours when there is so much to do!
It wouldn't have been so bad if they had been out and about

OP posts:
Wauden · 10/02/2019 15:49

Thank goodness they have gone and without her making a nasty scene.

Wauden · 10/02/2019 15:51

Yes, I can't understand why a parent wouldn't allow a child to explore Brighton. Cooped up with cfs like that.

Firgoodnesssake · 10/02/2019 16:23

Has your lodger retreated to their room OP and did they clean up after themselves, especially after having made a greasy fry up.
I’d still be raging!

Mummyoflittledragon · 10/02/2019 16:26

If the lodger felt at all bad about the situation, she would have come to you about the friend just pitching. Together you could have let them stay the night on Friday if she pled no funds and sent them packing Saturday morning. I don’t buy the no notice bs.

AWishForWingsThatWork · 10/02/2019 16:57

Lodger should have been falling over herself to clean the lounge and kitchen ... you shouldn't have to do it!

She knew she was going to be tossed after taking over the house for the weekend... CF.

drum12345 · 10/02/2019 17:06

I feel a thread about the CFery of lodgers in general coming on (and the wonderfulness of then too!).

pigsDOfly · 10/02/2019 17:12

Sounds like she almost expected your reaction OP. Glad you've got it all sorted out.

CircleofWillis · 10/02/2019 17:25

What a weird trip. Who travels 4 hours on a bus to sit on a sofa and watch TV when the whole of Brighton is at their feet. I wonder if the friend was running away for the weekend?

NotANotMan · 10/02/2019 17:41

You don't have to give lodgers 28 days notice or even a week. There is no legal minimum period if they rent a room in the house you live in.

DishingOutDone · 10/02/2019 17:45

Did you give a months notice OP? By the time they go the original 3 months will be nearly up anyway!

Patroclus · 10/02/2019 19:22

I have actually done that if I've gone to see somebody who is a really good friend. Feel like a cultureless swine but when I can both feel we cant be bothered and just wanted to see each other I've called off traipsing around spending sily amount to sit laughing at crappy ITV instead.

mmmm25 · 10/02/2019 19:31

@Patroclus
But the visitor brought along her 8 year old daughter - they could have gone out for a walk along the seafront at least.

FredFlinstoneMadeOfBones · 10/02/2019 19:43

What on earth were the even doing in the lounge all weekend? I can't believe they wouldn't even go for a walk along the seafront!

GabsAlot · 10/02/2019 20:02

nah sorry not buying the my friend didnt give me notice crap-who says to someone they know is a lodger we're coming to stay for the weekend

it was easy to blame them after theyd gone

Wauden · 10/02/2019 20:54

Good luck for the rest of the time and keep us updated!

ShowMeTheKittens · 11/02/2019 17:27

I am unsure why you allowed this. I would ask them to go to a b and b. That's nuts.

Oddcat · 11/02/2019 17:33

You learn very quickly with lodgers - lay down the rules before they move in .

I learnt the hard way when I came home from working late to find a full blown party taking place in my lounge , must have been at least 30 people there - I was raging.

Relightmyfire2017 · 11/02/2019 17:46

I think you need to ask your lodger to leave. What s cheek!

Bignosenobum · 11/02/2019 17:56

Why are they still there?
I think you need to rethink being a landlady. Lodgers can be a pain in the arse. Unless you cannot afford to do so.

Impatienceismyvirtue · 11/02/2019 17:57

Relightmyfire2017 RTFT

Bignosenobum · 11/02/2019 17:58

I would tell them no guests allowed for more than one night restricted to one person. This person has to stay in the bedroom of lodger. Not allowed to cook etc..plus surcharge