Parents who don't get their children to give up seats!

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Went to the doctors this morning and had a long wait.it was extremely busy as it usually is on a Saturday morning. And I was extremely shocked at the amount of parents that don't make their children give up there seats so others can sit down. An elderly gentleman positioned hisself at the end of a row of seats when right next to him was a child of maybe 4/5 and her mother the other side of her. She didn't even move the child onto her lap and offer the elderly gentleman the seat. A lady that was sitting close by stood up and gave him her chair. Another parent did the exact same thing when a pregnant lady with her toddler came in. She didn't move her child to let the pregnant lady sit down. So I stood up and offered my chair.

This isn't the first time I've encountered this. You see it all the time. Where's is people common courtesy! Maybe it's because I was raised to give up my seat to my elders I just don't understand this rudeness.

Society is a mess if people don't teach their children how to behave even if they're bored, and if people "don't give a shit" about other people - that's no society at all.

I think I've cracked the cause of child obesity! Parents don't want their children to use their legs anymore they'd rather they sat all the time 😬🙈

Seats in Dr’s surgeries and hospital waiting rooms should be for patients whatever their age. The family outing groups should stand

If it’s a case of who can fit in someone else’s lap, that’s a neat thought. If someone ever gets the balls to whinge to me about my child not moving, I shall grab the nearest boney arsed shorty and plonk them on my mahoosive thighs, either that or find a bigger fatty to plonk myself on.

@Lizzie48 I'm not being rude but when people can't take the time to read my op my patience runs thin. Our Doctors is a open on a Saturday until 1pm just because yours isn't doesn't mean mine isn't.

@Lizzie48 and I don't have to sympathise with another mum just because she had her child with her. I too had my 4 year old with me. Needs must and all that...

@Newdadofgirl same and I've brought my children up to be the same. I'm always told how polite my children are and it makes me proud. Seems that some don't have these values which is a shame.

This is utter nonsense! I have a 7 and an 11 YO and would never have them give up tjeir seat for someone in their 20’s, 30’s, 40’s 50’s or 60’s who is able bodied! If I was on a train, bus or public area with limited seating and there was a frail, pregnant, I’ll looking or disabled person then I would get up and give them my seat, I wouldn’t tell my child to get up!

And btw....I am praised all the time on how polite, we’ll mannered and well behaved my children are and am often told by teachers and family members how much of a credit my kids are to me. Giving up seats doesn’t define a child’s politeness or manners. Stop being so judgemental. Honestly, if you expressed any dissatisfaction to me about my child not giving us their seat for you or any other able bodied person, I’d tell you to fuck off.

Was this lady and her kids taking up all the seat or something? Why have you singled her kids out as the ones who should move out of the whole waiting room?

Fact is, no one goes to the doctors for the fun of it. She may well have been stressed or in pain.

Sounds like lack of seats is the real problem here

@Eliza9917 I agree. We're living in a very me me me society with no thought for others.

Seen this a few times on Mumsnet. So many say no, their child shouldn't give up their seat. They are just as important as anyone else blah, blah.....
This attitude coincides with the increase of children who will give cheek and be obnoxious to teachers or others in the street.
It's about being considerate and thoughtful and respectful.
Someone shouldn't be frail or dying before a child has to give up a seat.
I agree with others that are saying we are raising entitled little brats. I hear school age kids being really shifty to their parents.....because they can.

I have seen gins in some surgeries or hospital waiting rooms saying 'Seats are for patient use' to try and Deal with this and make those who bring the whole family realise that they can't hog lots of seats/deter them from bringing extras except when unavoidable. Yes of course parents sometimes have to take small children with them.....but they are not the patient and surely surgeries for patients should prioritise their patients for seats....and all other patients should be able to appreciate that too.

But you didn't address my point, that this mum must have needed to see the doctor urgently, otherwise surely to goodness she'd have gone there on a weekday while they're in school?

Unless the children are preschoolers, in which case it wouldn't make much difference?

Either way, I'd have sympathy that she's having to take her DC with her to the GP.

Shitty....not shifty....but they are that too

have seen gins in some surgeries or hospital waiting

Sounds like my kind of waiting room

Haha AllyBally - your last comment says something about your politeness and manners, don't you think!! And in reality who is ever going to tell you to do this.....it's not the point is it ....it's not about a rule or someone else telling you to, it's choosing to do it yourself because basic human courtesy and awareness of others makes you realise it's the right thing and therefore you choose it.

What about if it's your Drs appt and the kids are with you, and the people are standing are patients? Do you agree that patients in doctors surgeries should have the seats if they are limited in number and those who are not patients should be willing to stand up?

What happens if there are no children in the waiting room? Do the adults all have to shout out their date of birth and the youngest one stands up?

Whoever is ill should sit down and this includes children.
If one of my kids was ill, i'd stand up to let someone sit down.
Some people are just rude and entitled. It didn't used to be like this.

@Lizzie48 it's a case of taking what you can get at our doctors as there's a 4 week wait for a appointment, Saturday surgery is for emergencies, meaning I was their too for an emergency appointment, but being a parent means you suck it up and if you have to take your kid along than that's what you have to do. My dh is at work. I had to go this morning for a very painful kidney infection. With my kid on my knee. Yes it hurt but I have manners and wouldn't have my child sit on a seat while someone else stood! It's just common sense really to do that.

Sorry, OP, I missed your second post. Fair enough.

Nope children didn't look ill and even if they were, still doesn't mean they need a seat. Can still sit on their parents knee.
@thatsmyspace How ignorant and judgemental of you OP. Many people have disabilities that you can't see, who then go on to be parents. And what's worse is that some of those people have children with disabilities you cant see.

There are families that exist that might look normal and fine at one glance but where both parent & child are disabled and need a seat and it's hard enough without ignorant pigs making judgements about them looking fine and not giving up their seat.

Ooh never mind. Ignore my last comment. I just read a bit further down and saw your last comment.
"They was able bodied children"
How do you know that op?

Yes, I'd have have sat down in the chair with DD2 on my lap and DD1 standing in that situation. I've done it before.

@sweetmarie well they managed to walk in and out there pretty fine. No mention of pain feeling ill extra. And when they called a MRS Cooper to the from then it was pretty obvious that they were able bodied because it was the mothers appointment!

Ect not extra

cool so all I have to do to make ds able bodied is take him to an appointment with me and everything will be sorted! Why didn’t someone tell me that sooner