Parents who don't get their children to give up seats!

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Went to the doctors this morning and had a long wait.it was extremely busy as it usually is on a Saturday morning. And I was extremely shocked at the amount of parents that don't make their children give up there seats so others can sit down. An elderly gentleman positioned hisself at the end of a row of seats when right next to him was a child of maybe 4/5 and her mother the other side of her. She didn't even move the child onto her lap and offer the elderly gentleman the seat. A lady that was sitting close by stood up and gave him her chair. Another parent did the exact same thing when a pregnant lady with her toddler came in. She didn't move her child to let the pregnant lady sit down. So I stood up and offered my chair.

This isn't the first time I've encountered this. You see it all the time. Where's is people common courtesy! Maybe it's because I was raised to give up my seat to my elders I just don't understand this rudeness.

@WombatChocolate

Yes, and I did say in my post that “I” would get up and give the frail/pregnant/ill person my seat before making my child get up.

I am always aware of people around me in situations like this and while on public transport as I really can’t stand ignorance.

If there was someone who needed a seat more than me, I would move. If there were 2 people who needed the seats more than me and my child did, them we both would stand and offer the seats. What is it teaching a child if you tell them to get up from their seat to give it to “the old lady” or “the pregnant woman” while you continue to sit there on your arse? Why is it acceptable to do that just because you are senior to them?

I'm currently pregnant and couldn't have my children on my lap even.if I wanted to ! My oldest 6 will stand to let someone sit down and so willmy daughter 4 but I'm not going to make them of they are sat quietly and happy. It's generally a quick turnaround in the doctors so not a massive wait time anyway unless running behind

I agree lovewine. I’m 33 pregnant just now too and still would get up to give someone a seat before making my child stand. I would also never expect a child to move from a seat to let me sit down and would never judge them or the parent for not giving me their seat as I’m perfectly capable of standing. Even if they offered, I wouldn’t take the seat.

The thing is, you don't know their situation. I have chronic leg pain which means I can't stand for long but look perfectly healthy. Having my child sit on my lap would render me incapable of walking home. My two year old is big for his age, he looks 3 or 4 but it's easier to keep him still and we'll behaved if he can sit next to me.

Yes, in principle, everyone should stand for those less able to, but you can't judge people's abilities by looking at them.

I think I've cracked the cause of child obesity! What about adult obesity? Why can't adults use their legs too?

I think everyone should make an attempt to give up their seat for someone who's need is greater - elderly/injured/pregnant/sick. I don't believe kids have less rights than their elders. OP I think you did the right thing giving up your seat to someone else who needed it - your assertion that a child should get up for an able bodied 20 year old is nonsense.

Aren’t you lucky that your children are fit and healthy enough to be able to stand!

Actually ds16 was born with talipes in both feet and up until last year was having corrective surgery. Dd17 was born with gastrochisis and is having problems now that are being sorted. So no not all of my kids are fit and healthy 🤔

My son,even after surgery and in plaster,on crutches was still standing and offering he's seat to others. Holding the door open for mothers that were struggling with their prams when everyone else was sitting watching the ladies struggle. Manners, politeness and common courtesy are good traits to have!
@Sirzy something you lacking obviously.

“My son,even after surgery and in plaster,on crutches was still standing and offering he's seat to others.”

And what would you have thought if these “others” took your sons seat and left him standing there, in crutches?

Sounds like you’re glory hunting on the back of your children’s politeness.

Have a gold star for being such a great mum hun.

alright OP, enjoy a nice from me.

Was he aye?

Not glory hunting just proving a point that my son wasn't able bodied for some time, but yet still showed compassion to others.
And they did take the seat because he was persistent he was fine standing!

I think it’s extremely selfish to bring children who aren’t sick (so, a sick parent) into a drs surgery, have them exposed to a room full of sick people and have them taking up seats for actual sick people. Same as if it’s the child that’s sick the accompanying (not sick) parent should stand and give up the seat for the actual patients coming in.

It’s like at an anti natal appointment where men take up seats and expect the pregnant women to stand. If you’re not sick in the drs surgery then stand.

Christ what a silly thing to say. Just because you're lucky enough to have someone available to care for your DC when you have to go to the GP doesn't mean everybody does.

Should single parents or people who struggle with childcare just never get ill?

Other people are not better or more deserving than my children. Anyone who thinks I should get them to give up there seats can GTF.

@PCohle what is it with people who don't read the posts on here before commenting?!

I was there with my 4 year old too! No childcare here.

Fabaunt - eh, what???

What if the parent has no childcare? Do they leave the child at home by themselves just so some adult at the doctors surgery can get a seat???!!!

I mean let’s face it - most people in doctors surgeries hardly have a life threatening I’ll ess that stops them from standing for 5 minutes. Most are there with minor ailments fgs!

Yes @Sirzy !! The same with my DS4 I never knew he was able bodied till know. Oh yea so wheelchair= disability is that right? Jesus.

thatsmyspace

Read the comment above PCole’s. The response was to that comment, not yours.

I was responding to Fabaunt's post directly before mine OP, not yours.

(Maybe read the posts on here before commenting )

Thank goodness you’re here OP to tell everyone what a superior parent you are. I knew Saturday was lacking something.

@JacquesHammer not superior at all, I have my flaws. But one thing I do have is good mannered children. I'm not saying they are perfect because by god they are not. But they are courteous to others around them. Isn't good manner and politeness what we all want from our children?

DCs who aren't encouraged to stand or have decent manners grow up to be as entitled and unpleasant as their parents. As proven on this thread.

DCs who aren't encouraged to stand or have decent manners grow up to be as entitled and unpleasant as their parents. As proven on this thread.

I think an able bodied 20 year old who expects a young child to stand up for him or her is the entitled one! I'd never accept a seat from a young child since I'm perfectly capable of standing! If anyone who actually needed a seat was standing I'd jump up in a second and would insist my child did too.

@AuntieCJ 10000000% agree.