To go grey?

[sandytoes84]

Mid 30s and I just feel too young to be this grey! Currently as soon as the roots appear and my mother starts looking back at me in the mirror I quickly dye it.

But it would be so liberating to ditch the dye and let it go natural...I see women with lovely long grey hair but am I too young/ not cool or brave enough to pull it off? Will I look much older than I am? (I have otherwise dark hair and dark brows, so the greys really show!)

Has anyone taken the plunge?!

Blonde till I dye

I'm not quite ready, but there are quite a few women at my work my age (40s) who've fully embraced it. Some look better than others. Some look great. Some no doubt don't give a shit.

I have started following a few Instagram accounts focused on it, just out of interest.

I have to dye my hair every 3-4 weeks, so it's pretty tedious.

I'm 48 with dark brown dyed hair. I let it grow out about 4 inches last year and it just looked awful.

There are plenty of Instagram pages dedicated to ladies growing it out, it's interesting to see.

I think young people with grey hair look amazing, I just looked really old and drab.

I think the highlighting route is the way I'll go when I take the plunge. My son's GF says to use colour strippers and dye it a lighter brown before starting salon highlights, just seems like a lot of processing. CBA.

Can you not dye grey/silver then grow out rather than go for a buzz cut?

Those on grombre Instagram look great. I think its one of those things as you get used to seeing on different ages the less associate grey =old.

I've mousy hair and have some grey sprinkled through with streak at temples. I wouldn't mind it all going grey but my mum's in her 70's & its still like heavy highlights around her face.

I had a very old teacher with beautiful long grey hair, it was prior to it becoming fashionable to dye grey so harder to imagine what would look like in a non-Granny short, curled style.

I had a look at grombre on Instagram and think most look lovely.

Well, I asked for opinions and o certainly got them! It’s been really interesting to read through these and see how harsh women can be!

As I mentioned in original post I’m mid-30s. I reckon I’m about 15% grey so I’m going to grow it out a bit and see how it looks. Maybe get a hairdresser to help with highlights during the process. I actually don’t care about looking a little older - it’ll orobably benefit me at work (myself an a couple of colleagues were recently addressed in a professional email woth’hi girls’, might stop that!)

If I’d known it was such a radical ‘fuck you’ id have done it ages ago!

I thought I’d hate going grey but as a dark blonde what it’s doing is turning my hair ash blonde and people are convinced I’ve high lighted my hair!! I like it. (Age 44)

I think it can look nice, but for the majority it's very ageing and draining.

My sister has gone grey. She has a short, trendy crop but the grey hair puts 10 years on her.

I bet it doesn't.

Nah, hell will freeze over before I let my hair go grey. Maybe when I am 60, but not now. (Mid 40's here.)

Each to their own, but I agree it is very ageing.

OK if you're an OAP. Otherwise. No.

JMO, but I don't understand why someone in their 30's (or even 40's) would want to 'embrace the grey.'

Sorry I just don't get it.

@EdWinchester

I think it can look nice, but for the majority it's very ageing and draining.

Have to agree.

thighofrelief I was mid brown once upon a time and dyed it light golden brown. But never blonde. To grow it out I dyed the roots at my parting only a lighter brown for a few months then stopped dyeing it altogether. There’s still a little colour left in the ends after a year, my hair grows very slowly. You can’t see the back in the photo but it’s a mix of mid brown/grey.

I was inspired by a very supportive thread on style and beauty, ‘hair shave to go grey.’ I really don’t suit a short crop, though.

@Lovingbenidorm sorry for late reply, but I've only just had a notification for this thread.

I can't sit up for very long, because I end up in a lot of pain, so sitting on a chair for the length of time it would take to dye my hair, has put me off.
I also have a great deal of difficulty washing my hair, again, leading to pain, and I'd need to wash it twice to dye it.

Well, I have no choice but to 'embrace' it at 37 since I'm allergic to all hair dyes and most shampoos and conditioners. I look fucking awesome.

I'm 57 and am really annoyed that I seem to have inherited my mother's and grandmother's hair, rather than my father's. I was born when my parents were in their 40s and only knew my father with silver hair. My mother wasn't fully white when she died at 86. I keep looking at my roots and telling them to go white quicker. I know so many women with awesome white and grey hair when I'm left with drab mouse, after being copper when young. I want to have amazing colours without bleaching like my friends who just decide to have a pink fringe for a couple of weeks. My hair is waist-length and in good condition and cut but I don't want to start bleaching while it just doesn't show any other dyes - purple couldn't even be seen.

Grey would be so much better than this drab shite! And what's wrong with looking your age? I see far too many bad dye jobs making older women looking even older as it doesn't match the face.

Oh, and I would be perfectly delighted if someone told me that they loved my hair as a compliment. I haven't got to my age without being able to filter compliments from sleeze. I've had several remarks about my awesome wardrobe of t-shirts in supermarkets and my large selection of Doc Martens in various colours is much remarked on at work. I've also heard older men whinging that they're envious of another bloke's head of amazing white hair.

I guess I've been lucky as I'm a lot older than you. I've got some grey, I still have lots of dark hair. I actually think that leaving it makes me look me younger.
If I start dying it, then people will think I'm a lot greyer than I am and think I'm older my actual age.
Also, I can't be doing with the constant faff of roots.

I dont understand why some people are so judgemental about grey hair, which is a natural occurrance for some people

Why is it ok for males to have grey hair, but not females ?

If more of us were happy to embrace our greyness then maybe this attitude would change. Men only look more distinguished with grey hair because society says it is so.
If society said that women were more beautiful with grey hair and more likely to get promotion or whatever, then we'd all be dying our hair grey in our 20s. It's just about accepted norms and unless we challange this nothing will change.

Perhaps we should have a MN go grey for 2020 campaign.👵👴

Oh, and the emoji's I actually chose were a woman with an attractive grey bob and a man with a neat grey cut.
The substituted ones of a grey granny bun and a bald man don't really work.

And that's ok. I love my grey hair.

This thread has made me laugh so much.

Mono your hair is lovely.

My grey just grows in the front middle so it looks ridiculous if I leave it.

Love your name JaneJefer

Thanks Hairy