To go grey?

[sandytoes84]

Mid 30s and I just feel too young to be this grey! Currently as soon as the roots appear and my mother starts looking back at me in the mirror I quickly dye it.

But it would be so liberating to ditch the dye and let it go natural...I see women with lovely long grey hair but am I too young/ not cool or brave enough to pull it off? Will I look much older than I am? (I have otherwise dark hair and dark brows, so the greys really show!)

Has anyone taken the plunge?!

And don't tell me to calm down. Nobody gets away with patronising me.

i very much like a good head of well maintained grey hair. unfortunately it tends to suit people who are really on top of their game in terms of clothing etc. maybe safe to go with the crowd.

@bluelady

nobody gets away with patronising me

PMSL. What are you going to do about it? Serious question.

I'm letting mine go grey, I'm mid 30ies. I like it and don't want to keep dying. I find that it looks good as long as my haircut is neat, if I let it get unruly then it looks a bit scruffy.

Just because you don't know anyone who went grey in their 20's or 30's doesn't mean nobody has ever did it newname.
I know at least 5 or 6 off the top of my head.
You dont like it. We've got the message.
I saw a beautiful head of grey curls when out shopping earlier.

I am 43 and I have one grey hair, which have been there for years. I have light brown hair and I pick the grey one out. My father is 67 and still has his dark brown hair, some greys there though. His father didn't go grey until even older. My mum is 72 and still colours her grey hair to brown. She does look much younger in brown hair. I hope I have my father's genes but if not I will colour my hair when I go grey.

Here you are, it's actually a lot more grey but hard to see in pics.

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I agree with you rattus perhaps the key to elegant grey hair is to be elegant. Sadly that has never been in my skillset. I think blondes and gingers fade better than darks.

But it's about learning new make up and I think peoples faces seem to change colour too or perhaps that's in relation to their hair.

It's the grey eyebrow hairs that really piss me off.

@cocolepew

Yeah you're right I DON'T like it and I think it ages women badly, and no I HAVE never seen any woman in her 20's or 30's show her natural grey.

This may come as a shock to some, but I am entitled to my views and opinions, whether people like it or not. I am also entitled to post on this thread as much as I want to, without people saying 'yeah we get it you don't like it.' And it is completely unacceptable for people to call me call me misogynistic, and threaten me, just coz they don't like my opinions! Horrible behaviour, and very immature.

Crack on then.

How kind of you to give me your permission.

Yeah it's ME who is the problem.

@slcol

That looks OK, but would look better with the grey dyed (IMO.)

I have no idea what the hell is wrong with you @bluelady, but quit bullying me please.

I suggest you take an hour away from the internet to calm down.

I am not engaging with you anymore on this thread.

Thank the lord for that. I'm most grateful.

slcol you look awesome! I'll swap heads with you, it's a blind buy though and you have to decide now.

That looks OK, but would look better with the grey dyed (IMO.)

I disagree. Dyed hair would have a flat colour without the variation in natural hair.

And how many people are grey in their 20s and 30s anyway, there might be the odd grey hair for most people. At work it's only once people get into their 40s that there is a noticeable amount of grey in the men and the bad dye jobs start appearing in the women.

I think grey looks really good, especially if you are younger. All depends on what you are used to. I'm in my 40's and have dark hair so the grey really shows up.

On the plus side it's much easier to dye now but steer clear of bright reds if your hair is very light.

I use vegetable based semi-permanent dye which works for me. It fades in time but I just top it up with the same tub as it keeps and I just use a bit here and there.

The problem with dying your whole head is that the roots will show if there is a big difference in shade so you might want to try something similar to your normal hair colour.

A hair dresser is your best bet though if you're unsure.

Good luck.

beautiful hair, beautiful face, @slcol. Really cute cut on you.

I don't dye mine. Blonde, early fifties. The grey has blended well with my natural colour and I get lots of compliments. I do find it takes more work to keep it looking smooth than it used to, though it's still in good condition. I was once told by someone with very platinum hair that I ought to dye it, but tbh I thought hers looked bloody awful, all dried out and brassy. I kept that thought to myself.

Unrealistic expectations placed on women's appearance that aren't expected of men? Of course that's mysoginy.