Could you and your partner leave your 7 week old baby for a week?

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To go to an exotic resort on the other side of the world...partly business, partly holiday and leave your baby with another family member?

That's all there is too it. I'm not going into anymore details. Just wondering peoples opinions.

And no this is not me. I have my opinion on it....which is absolutely not.

No I couldn't.

I could never have left any of mine at that age. I couldn’t judge others for it though as I am not living their life. We’ve taken ours abroad on holiday with us at 7 weeks and thoroughly enjoyed it though. DH went away with work leaving me with a 4 year old, toddler and newborn. Many of the school mums were shocked not so much by DH being separated from the baby, more him leaving me on my own to cope. It was fine though.

I went back to work at 12 months working nights so they were with their Dad. They have just never been left overnight without either of us. DC12&10 have been on school, cubs/scouts camps and sleepovers. DD7 is dying to have her first sleepover. We’d be very happy to have a couple of nights away just the 2 of us but although local DGPs will babysit they don’t want the kids overnight. So we will just wait until they are old enough to leave at home or the timing of trips work that all 3 are away at the same time.

I couldn’t but I remember reading about a couple who went on holiday to Maldives and got killed in an accident and their one year old was orphaned in the uk.
I know that could technically happen anywhere it just left a mark on me to never leave dd without at least one of me or dh. Dh has taken her away without me and I have been alone while dh worked abroad etc but I’d never want both of us to be away at the same time.

Saying that not my dc so I wouldn’t worry what anyone else chooses to do. Maybe they’re right, take the break if they’re offered it!

On the face of it, based on my own situation, no I wouldn’t. However, don’t know full story and I’m not in their shoes. I could see some instances where I might, particularly as it’s described as part work. For example, if were an awards trip for my husband through work so all expenses paid and there being an awards ceremony (and baby not breastfed, being looked after by my mother or extra special trained nanny type arrangement), then I might.

I would say, I took my then 8 week old baby and 4 year old DD overseas to visit my family for 10 days. Travelled by myself with them no problem. Travelling w a 7 week old if EBF isn’t a big deal so why couldn’t baby go to?

For those saying no I wouldn’t judge. Really??!!

I’d judge the hell out of them. The needs of a 7 week old baby far outweigh the needs of the parents to go on holiday/accompany partner on a business trip. Unless it’s a life or death situation it’s a completely selfish thing to do IMO.

No, I could have never, ever done that.

I wouldn’t, but DH left me and our three week old DS for a week after he was born as he had to go away for work and there was no getting out of it. In contrast, DS is 14 months and my first night away from him is next week.

I also think if you’re not breastfeeding then it’s totally different. I have a friend who went away for a week and left her 8 week old with her mum/sister, but she bottle fed and she, her mum and sister all live on the same street and are in and out of each other’s houses all the time. Her son practically had three primary carers and has a really strong attachment to his aunt and granny. He was already spending a couple of nights a week sleeping at one or the other of their houses.

Under those circumstances I really don’t think it’s doing anyone any harm.

Seriously?! No, no and no. Appalled the question is being asked frankly.

Oh and I WOULD judge. Some people need a reality check.

No. I left my first son at three years old, with my parents for two nights. Two more children after that, oldest 21 now, and never left them again, ever. (bloody hell, I need a life). A tiny baby though? Absolutely not.

I should clarify, I have large age gaps! I made it sound like I can’t be away from my 21 yr old 😁. My youngest is only 8!

No. Not just because I would hate it and because of breastfeeding but also because they are still so vulnerable at that age... What if they got ill, what about SIDS? You'd never ever forgive yourself if something happened whilst you were away.

If it was a work thing and important, I'd let dh go though and he wouldn't be that bothered about leaving the baby, he'd miss the older kids more.

Eminybob
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The poster didn’t say babies not conceived by ivf are less over or valuable. So I don’t see anything judgmental in that post. Having been through ivf I would also be confused at parents, who left a tiny baby to go off on holiday. You seem to be brushing it off as not that big a deal. For some women it is. It was about as horrendous as my recent hysterectomy (8 inch midline scar above belly button and ensuing immediate menopause).

Ivf ruined my health and I am genuinely surprised a woman would go through all that only to leave an 8 week old baby. I’ve just had a massive incisional failure with very large incarcerated hernia and was given emergency surgery last week. That would be round 2 ivf for me.

And as for going away and leaving a 7 week old for a week. Bloody hell. No I wouldn’t have done this. I was EBF at the time. She’s 10 now and I’m dreading the 4 night school trip!

No way. It puts bonding st risk and wouldn’t be in the next interests of the baby. So no way unless extreme circumstances

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Someone I used to know left her one month old baby with her mother, and went away with her dh for a month.

I couldn't understand how anyone could do it, but she was from a different (Mediterranean) culture and it wasn't seen as anything unusual.

No way in hell. I know someone who is leaving her 2 toddlers to go to America on holiday for 2 weeks with her husband though. Her youngest isn't even 1. Yes I judge. They are so young they won't understand where she has gone. I couldn't enjoy myself worrying they would be upset etc.

No way. Would not have enjoyed the holiday.

Nope. My dp won an incentive trip through work last year to an all expenses paid 5* resort in Indonesia, all the other people on it were our friends it would have been incredible but our baby would have been about 8 weeks so we turned it down. Gutting and we got no 'compensation' for it, the space went to someone who hadn't earned it instead but we couldn't have missed that time.

I couldn't, they are tiny at that age. Mine is 9 months and I'm still not ready to consider being too far away from her.

I know someone who left their 3 week old for a week long holiday abroad. Left the tiny newborn with grandparents. I still think she's a bad mum and hasn't bonded with either of her children (did something similar with the second).

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I’m confused at any parent wanting to leave thier tiny baby to go on holiday, IVF or otherwise. Genuinely don’t see the difference between a baby conceived via IVF or naturally. Not being goady, I just don’t see the relevance here.

Absolutely not, and yes I would judge anyone who left their newborn to go away for a week unless it was an unavoidable trip for a funeral etc. Yes parents need a break etc but not a week away from a tiny baby!

From the baby's point of view, it would be fine. All it's needs met, happy, fed and would never remember being away from mum and dad.

From a mom's point of view, hell no. Not being able to jump in my car and get to said baby quickly, if needed, is what would prevent it.

If it were at a luxury Cornish Cottage, overlooking the sea, if needed, I could be home in 3 hours. I could if I wanted to, go any time, night or day. That's what would prevent me going, feeling trapped away.

I would say no as it's far too early for a week away and this is from someone who left their 12 hour newborn so we could go and watch the football. This was only for a few hours though.