Could you and your partner leave your 7 week old baby for a week?

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To go to an exotic resort on the other side of the world...partly business, partly holiday and leave your baby with another family member?

That's all there is too it. I'm not going into anymore details. Just wondering peoples opinions.

And no this is not me. I have my opinion on it....which is absolutely not.

Yes I would, my baby won’t remember not care, and it would have done me and dh the world of good.

I can’t rhink of anything worse.

Baby needs to be close to form positive attachments.

@Bryjam I have NOT said this is happening now as it isn't. The baby was 7 weeks at the time the couple went away. It was a 'I once had a friend who did this' sort of chat. So it could of been years ago! And probably was as my other friend asked her if the mum had gone on to have more children (she already had 3) and my friend had no idea, she doesn't know her anymore. It was just brought up in a general discussion.

NOOOOOOO

No way. I’d certainly judge!

No chance. Wouldn’t do it to my 15 month old either.

Apparently I was left with my granny when I was only a few months old while my parents went away for a week. I have no recollection of this obviously so I don't see what the harm is. I guarantee they would have enjoyed their holiday much more than having to look after me, I don't think I was scarred for life and I don't begrudge them!
My grandparents looked after me a lot as a child and I don't begrudge that either, they were brilliant so what's the harm. I don't see the problem with relatives looking after your baby. It's not like your putting your baby in a kennel for a week

No, the longest I've ever left my two is 3 nights and that was only very recently for a surprise trip to Barcelona for my 40th birthday. They're 2 and 8. I've left them for 2 nights a couple of times (for work). I couldn't have bared being away from them so young, not least because I ebf.

@HavelockVetinari people seem to think this is happening now, it isn't. I don't know how long ago it was. I don't think it was anything pnd related. It was to promote her business but she got too use it as a holiday too I think.

Unless it is your baby or the parents are expecting you to look after it then I would say don’t get involved, everyone has their own reasons for how they live their lives.

Technically I left my 2 day old baby for 15 nights (she was a neonate and there are no beds on NICU)

As long as both parents are on board and the baby is cared for i don't see an issue.
My DH went away for a week when DS was 8 weeks. He hated being away from us both although I would have welcomed a few days away when he got back!

I have NOT said this is happening now as it isn't. The baby was 7 weeks at the time the couple went away. It was a 'I once had a friend who did this' sort of chat. So it could of been years ago! And probably was as my other friend asked

Ok. Apologies I obviously did not know that.

No. I couldn't. Some people think one good carer is as good as another when it comes to new babies but I think it takes the baby away from their primary source of comfort and familiarity for far too long and I don't think that is fair or kind.

I'd have done it. My mum was a far better mum than I was.

No - I’m not sure why you’d want to tbh.

@Bryjam no problem. I should of probably stated it's not something happening now. I just wanted to post as little details as possible as it's not an attack on the parents of the child.

Out of everyone in the conversation, I was the only one who thought it was unreasonable. Though I was the only one currently with a baby. 2 had much older children and one had no children. They all thought it was fine. I didn't and wanted to know others thoughts on it

When I think back on how heartbroken I've been when relationships have ended, and I've misses my partner and would have done anything to see them again, and the pain has been physical and hellish, it makes me wonder how a young baby feels at that age being left for days for a holiday. I wonder how anyone does that. Yes, baby may be absolutely fine, but I'm pretty sure it misses it's parents and feels miserable, especially the mother, whom at 7 weeks the baby believes himself to be physically attached to.

Yep, I travel a lot for work and DP was their primary carer after the first couple of months. It was probably more at about 10 weeks rather than 7 but there is no lasting damage to either of them.

No

I would judge anyone who did this, it’s completely unnecessary and selfish. The poor baby wouldn’t know what was happening and would think they’d been abandoned.

My DH mentioned leaving our 6-week-old with my parents for one night. I said I wasn't ready and maybe in a few months. The thought of even being 20-minutes away is a horrible thought right now. I would miss him terribly if I was in a different country for a week.

Definitely not I remember panicking when I went to get my hair cut when my DD was about two months . Personally I believe the first three months the baby is going through the fourth trimester and should remain as close to parents as much as possible. I EBF so my DD was virtually attached to me at that age.

At 7 weeks? No fucking way.

If its a mix of business and holiday it may be the only chance they could have of affording it? Not an ideal time but maybe better than leaving a clingy toddler.