AIBU to rehome my destructive dog?

[novaclover]

I'm rehoming my dog. When we adopted him as a puppy we had no idea what breed he was or what his temprement would be, and now we're left with a high energy, anxious, destructive dog who since our other dog died can't be left alone for more than an hour. He can escape crates, long walks don't stop his anxiety, he'll happily go to the bathroom inside and he will literally tear doors off of cupboards rather than play with his own toys. We've tried everything but it seems like the only solution will be to make sure he has company 24/7, which is obviously impossible.

The guilt is eating me alive and I feel like a failure because I can't cope anymore. It's been 6 years and today I came home to find all of my baby's toys had been destroyed despite me putting them in a high sided playpen.

AIBU to rehome him?

For those saying 'it's only a dog, nothing like a naughty child'

Well in that case the only way to ensure this dog is not passed from pillar to post and faces a life of uncertainty is to PTS.

Me personally I would be more inclined to do good by the dog and put the effort in and find the time or the money for a behaviourist. If that's not for you maybe you should rethink your suitability as dog owners.

Even a pedigree pup from reputable breeder can turn out to be a bastard!

@BertrandRussell we aren't talking random animal vs random child. We are talking an individuals pet, part of their family life vs a random child.

Nothing psycho about it and quite frankly you are nothing but insulting. I will re-iterate again, to ME, MY pet is WAY MORE important than YOUR child.

This is about persobal feelings and bonds people have. You have ZERO right to say one is right and one os wrong. You can state your opinion of course. But this is NOT fact and you need to learn to distinguish.

I'm not a troll, or a psychopath. I'm a teacher

I'd still save my dog over a stranger.

HTH.

“. I will re-iterate again, to ME, MY pet is WAY MORE important than YOUR child.”

And I will reiterate-that makes you a psychopath.

@BertrandRussell in YOUR opinion. Stop spouting your random opinions as if they are fact. I would save a random animal over people like you quite frankly.

Wow this thread is pleasant not

Those banding the label psychopath about, I presume you have actually looked up that definition and have the qualifications to diagnose name call

I'm not a psychopath. My mother had me tested.

My friend's dog was on anti anxiety medication to deal with separation. Is that an option?

OP how long is your dog alone for? Clearly it needs more company/stimulation than its getting. Have you even tried a walker or doggy daycare?

Honestly, reading between the lines of your post, you don’t want this dog any more, and it seems you’ve made up your mind to rehome him.

Whilst I cannot condone that attitude to a family pet, please ensure it is rehome through a reputable agency - not via gumtree or one of those sites on the internet.

This thread is totally bonkers. Morecheese being called lower than a sewer rat for the sane, normal, majority view that someone who would save a dog over a child is pretty disgusting. Do you genuinely think that you would not be joined severely by society if you choose to save your dog over a baby in a burning fire?
Anyhoo, OP, I hope you’ve learned not to ask a question about dogs in mumsnet because it all can get a bit batshit crazy.

That’s judged severely obviously - not joined severely!

Also all this “I prefer animals to people”...even if you’re vegetarian, you keep unnecessarily for your own pleasure a creature that requires other animals die to feed it. Is that really the action of an animal lover?

People stop arguing over which species you love best!!! 😂😂
We're all different and that's what makes the world so varied and interesting. Don't get angry. Let that shit go....

@Cozytoesandtoast00 but some people seem entirely unable to do that, because they think that anyone who has a different moral or philosophical compass to them is wrong

I thought I was a sociopath, not a psychopath - can I be both? I understand you don't get it and I feel sorry for you.

@Phuquocdreams

Not all animals eat meat obviously. There are some veggies out there

I'm not a vegetarian. My dogs are fed raw. Lovely job.

Why but do you feed them children? If so, that makes you an osteopath. Or something.

“because they think that anyone who has a different moral or philosophical compass to them is wrong hmm”

I don’t think that at all. I do think that some moral and philosophical compasses are wrong. Which is not the same thing at all.

@BertrandRussell, you are free to think that all you want and for that to be your opinion. What is completely narrow minded though is for you to state as facet that any moral compass other than yours is wrong.

“facet that any moral compass other than yours is wrong.”

I am not saying that. I am saying very specifically that a moral compass that puts more value on an animal than a human child is wrong.

Bay, I’m fairly sure dogs, the subject-matter, of this thread, eat meat!
I’m not sure I would say I’m getting angry or het up about people saying they prefer dogs...it’s just bemusement at all those saying would you give up on your CHILD, you MONSTER. Erm, no, but we’re talking about a dog here...

'I am saying very specifically that a moral compass that puts more value on an animal than a human child is wrong.'

@BertrandRussell, erm no that is YOUR opinion. It is NOT a fact. You have also understood peoples point on this thread. It is NOT random dog vs random human. It is an owners pet/family member vs a stranger.

Apologies, ‘because they think that on this issue any moral compass different to theirs is wrong’?

I understand where you’re coming from. I realllllly love my dog, but I imagine if push came to shove I would save a human over him, because I would be aware of the impact that not doing so would have. But I completely get why other people would choose something they love over something they have no emotional bond with. It doesn’t make anyone wrong. You cannot police people's feelings!

Rehome the dog .He is anxious being left by himself and is better off with a family that is mostly at home and gets the attention he is looking for .