To ask this personal question?.....

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To ask how many people you've slept with?

I had DS young and have only slept with 1 other person other than DP.
A friend made a light hearted comment about do I not feel like I've missed out, and I feel bad to say it resonated with me.

AIBU to feel sad that 2 might be my lifetime number??

I can’t remember really, been married for over 30 years. It was about 7 or 8 before that

36. Regret a great deal of them.

Ocre.

7 for me. One was a woman.

7 1/2 as have also had a kinky on-line thing

DH has had generously into three numbers

Actually full sex - 3
Other 'sleeping with' - 2, plus DH and I together with a woman at a naughty party

Despite the latter, I'm not that wild keen about sex so I honestly don't mind and have no curiosity about sleeping with anyone else.

I'm in my early 40s and lost my virginity shortly after leaving uni, which as totally my own choice as I had no interest in having sex before then.

At least 50. I had fun - no regrets.

5

About 10, some I regret. And the best sex I've ever had is with my now husband. A high number doesn't mean it is or was good. Once you find your match that's the number for you. I wish it was one but hey ho.

A lot (some good, some ill advised) but tbh I feel our failure as a species is how much time we still dedicate to sex (having it, wanting to have it, making ourselves desirable so we can have it, watching it). You'd have thought with our intelligence we'd have moved on by now. Goes to show how little free will we have really (i.e that we're mainly driven by primeval and now largely irrelevant instincts).

8

Just 1. Met dh at 18. Cant say I’ve ever thought about it much and definitely don’t think I’m missing out on anything things are fine in that area of our life but I am understand why people with a different outlook may think they’d missed out somehow

4

I don't think there's any need to feel as if you've missed out as long as you've enjoyed the sex you've had and are having!

Not sure it's about the numbers at all. It would be quite possible to have one sexual partner but for it to be the most fulfilling sexual relationship for you, or to have 100 sexual partners and be unsatisfied if they weren't right for you.

I had amazing mindblowing sex with #1 and #6 of the eight people I've slept with. Another two of the eight... meh, kind of wish I hadn't slept with them at all to be honest. And the other four were pretty good. But, as you can see, I could probably have stopped at 1 and still been happy with my sex life!

I'm only two myself and happy with that. I dont actually feel I've missed out because I'm quite shy and found it difficult to become involved like that.

Around 40 something men. Handful of women.
No regrets.
Had a great time being single!

Probably 150 -200.

Tart anyone?

I don't regret any of them but to me random shags (3 out of 6) didn't add anything at all and the only sex that I thought added anything was in relationships.

LadyandGent I love tarts!!!

8

1. I was engaged to someone when I was 24, he was my first, then we split up and I've only ever been with my DH since then. I'm happy with that.

1. I was a late starter and kind of settled for the first one because I was sick of waiting for the right person. Met my DH a couple of years later and he’s been the only one since. I wish I’d either waited and only ever been with DH, or started sooner and had a bit more experience before I met him. I say “I wish” but I don’t really care that much. Number 1 means absolutely nothing after 9 years with DH, and the past doesn’t change what we have now. No regrets anymore.

@OrcinusOrca Abuse doesn't count, you had no choice in that. I'm so sorry

3 including DH

Stopped counting years ago, seemed crass. Probably upwards of 50.

Probably around 100. I don't keep a score.

DH and I are liberal and non judgemental. I have no regrets

1. One was a one night thing in uni that I regret. One was a boyf. One is DH.