To ask this personal question?.....

[pppers]

To ask how many people you've slept with?

I had DS young and have only slept with 1 other person other than DP.
A friend made a light hearted comment about do I not feel like I've missed out, and I feel bad to say it resonated with me.

AIBU to feel sad that 2 might be my lifetime number??

one :) I was 16 when i first started dating DP. I get that comment all the time but I can honestly say I am missing out on nothing as have a fabulous boyfriend

@Bozlem80 I’m with you.... I’ve been with 2 & am stuck in a sexless marriage. I love him dearly, will never leave him... but OMG there are times when I’m dying for a shag. I’m only 47 No sex since 2012.

Around 30

Not disclosing number, but will say that the number to me is less important than the proportion of sexually and emotionally satisfying ones.

1. I

I'm 40, single and currently done with men. I'm looking forward to the next couple of years being man and sex free

That's 6 not 61

I did count once and it was 26. Some of those were terrible. Actually most were and the only two, who really tended to my needs sexually were Dh and my first because these guys really cared about me. My ex before dh was a lovely guy but rather self centred in that department. Dh was my 3rd proper bf so all the rest were ons or casual things.

So if I just list a few of my encounters you will understand sex isn’t always better for having had it with many. There was one, who had to hang his clothes up before engaging, fastidious about cleanliness. Really pulled the mood down. Another, who had an erect penis smaller than my dhs flaccid one - Fine if he knew what to do with it I’m sure but he didn’t. Another, who i later realised was living with his gf, who was evidently not there that evening and just wanted a shag, didn’t care abut my needs. Yet another, who had premature ejaculation and it was over in seconds, I mean less than double figure seconds. A couple of guys, who struggled to climax. One had such a big dick that after a couple of hours (I imagine he was on drugs) it became painful albeit very pleasurable at first and so we stopped. All ons. Need I go on??

I was completely needy as a teen, having not been shown unconditional love as a child and when my first bf dumped me I ended up sleeping with so many guys. Had we remained together, i am positive it also would have been one. But it wasn’t to be and now I have a loving husband.

I don’t exactly regret sleeping with all of these guys. But I also don’t think I would have missed out having not done so. As some pps have explained, its far more meaningful when with a partner, who cares.

50+ a lot of men I shouldn’t have given the time day too never mind anything else!

5 and a half.

5 including DH. I honestly regret the 4 before him...

At least 50 but probably less than 100.

Apart from a couple of short-ish relationships before I met my husband when I was weeks away from 50, I was happily single but not celibate most of the time. No regrets apart from one beautiful younger man I said 'No' to, although I remember him with far more affection than any of the yesses.

Just 1. Got together with DH at 17.

Just DH. Don’t feel like I’m missing out.

18 I think.

I couldn't add it up now as I've completely forgotten some - I think I remember this number though from when I added it up 15+ years ago!

The vast majority were regrettable, with hindsight, and from my much younger days. In first year at uni (with NO alcohol involved) I agreed to just go (back to my room) and sleep with someone there and then whilst we were sitting round in a group chatting - no flirting first, didn't even fancy him or particularly like him...it was awful! I look back on that and it is definitely a WTF?!! 15/18 were one night stands or short-lived non serious relationships and none of these were particularly good experiences.

Waaaaaayyyy too many!!

Well in to triple figures and whilst I don't regret them all, I do look back at some and cringe beyond belief!!

But I was single, I played the field safely and never had an sti or anything like that..... just way too much wine!!

That said my sex life is better than ever with my man because there is love and trust there and it's truly the best sex ever as hes so attentive (dont get that on a ONS) so in my opinion, you've not missed much!

It really doesn't matter how many people you've had sex with.

I've had sex with more than ten men. Only three is serious relationships which I would never regret but I regret most of the others because it was just sex for daft reasons and not really enjoyable.
I'd rather I'd just had one sexual partner where the sex was just right.

Not enough to fill hampden but more than 1
Inc well known
Musician
Artist
When were young and my sage advice was oh be careful it’s difficult to get on in music/art world. Fortunately they really didn’t have to heed my caution and are doing fabulously well

And if my mn mil ( you know who you are...) pops up.yes the two brothers too (not at the same time mind)

I’ve lived a sheltered life, 2 one been my husband and the other guy I only slept with him once.

Does that count 😫

Around 50, I think 🙈 I was a free spirit in my younger days as my father would say. Or morally casual, sounds almost classy 😂

Hmmm I stopped counting to be honest. Around 100. I’m happily married now but I had loads of fun finding my DH & I don’t feel as though I missed out in any way!

I kept a list of names until it got to 30 and then stopped. I've sometimes tried to remember and a name or a "I've forgotten their name" or a "Did I ever actually know their name?" will come to mind. Like "Australian who said no glove no love and then we giggled." 50-ish?

The thing is I could happily have lived without the majority of those experiences. There are only one or two I regret, but most of them were just okay, not crazy wonderful or anything like that. I'm not ashamed of my number, nor proud of it. A woman can have a fabulous sex life when she's slept with only a handful of people, or just one partner just as easily as one, like myself, who's round around the bloke to find all the good looking fruit she can find.

Bloke = block. I don't tend to run literal circles around men, but I have run metaphorical ones from time to time.

15. I met DH in my early 20s and am now nearly 30. I have no regrets.

Bothers other people WAY more than it bothers me.