To ask this personal question?.....

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To ask how many people you've slept with?

I had DS young and have only slept with 1 other person other than DP.
A friend made a light hearted comment about do I not feel like I've missed out, and I feel bad to say it resonated with me.

AIBU to feel sad that 2 might be my lifetime number??

1, sometimes I wish I had slept with more but did meet dh very young at 15, In the periods we haven't been together I was too scared to sleep with anyone else 😂

1 - my DH. Met when I was 18 and he was my first. No regrets whatsoever.
Most of the girls in my secondary school had lost their virginity by the time they left or just after through some meaningless drunken fumble and I was determined I wouldn't 'give mine away' like that (I know that sounds quite old-fashioned and not that there is anything wrong with what my school friends did, I just didn't want to be the same). My DH knew I was a virgin and went out of his way to be kind, considerate and loving when we did sleep together for the first time. I remember every minute of our first time and I would not change it. 17 years later and he is still considerate and loving. I do not feel like I missed out at all.

7 from age of 18 to 23 when I met husband.
Once to get it over and done with at 18, two more one night stands (though one I believe was thanks to a spiked drink so was essentially rape. The fucker! Karma got him. He's 6ft under now) three were longish term boyfriends and the last was my husband of 15 years now.

Over 30 and enjoyed (most of) it and was very careful. I found out what I liked in bed this way and I have no shame! Wish I’d slept with a woman in hindsight just to try it

14 (so far) unless I've missed one or two.

Only 2 my ex bf & my husband, I personally feel a bit pathetic, I’m stuck in a sexless marriage now & I’m not even 40, I would never cheat but I do regret what I’m missing out on 😕

13, I think. I do regret someone of them, because a lot of them were wastes of my time.

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Had sex with?? Just the one.

1 lol

@bozlem80 why be in a sexless marriage?? You seem pretty sad about it.

Why is it important to you to rate your sexual experience against a diverse bunch of individuals you've never met ?
Odd question. You will get every answer from 0 to 100+. Some are happy with every partner, some partners are remembered or forgotten, some people are happy/ sad with their lot! I'm intrigued by your question now !😁

About 20. In hindsight, having changed my ideas, only about 5 of these were worth it.

14000 but I haven't got my specs on.( or my pants it seems)

I spent my single years trying to test out as many men as possible. I had lots of good times (and some shit moments), but I’ve certainly had far more fun, pleasurable sex with my DH of 10 years than the whole bunch of earlier sexual encounters.

Do you feel fulfilled with your current partner? If you do, I really wouldn’t worry about trying anyone else!

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12 I think, but I haven’t counted in a while and don’t really want to relive some of them so I won’t count now!

Approx 19, and tbh I regret most of them! Met DP when I was 23 so majority of those were young and foolish flings or crap one night stands! Even my first was regrettable.

About 30? As you can see, such a wide range of numbers here and not one of these numbers matters a jot in real life. If you can say hand on heart that your husband makes you feel happy sexually then you aren’t missing out on anything. It’s not worth losing him to try out somebody who may not.

1 I met my dh at age 17 doesn’t bother me in the slightest, not do I feel like I’ve missed out

4 ‘regularly’ one at a time and 3 were my husbands
2 ons in my 20s

Like someone said earlier, more than the Queen and less than Hugh Hefner.
Regret a couple but mostly enjoyed myself.
Best sex of my life is with my partner of 20 years. A couple of kids later and it's not as frequent as I'd like but if he was the only man I ever slept with, it would have still been amazing. If you are happy and fulfilled, it really doesn't matter.

1. First one when I was 22 and we lived together for 3 years. I had had boyfriends before him but never slept with them.

Met DH when I was 26 and we have been married 39 years.

Don't feel any regret that the number is not higher. I could not have sex with anyone I wasn't in love with

I'm 32. Been with my husband since we were both 16 and only ever slept with him. I've head mind blowing sex and just ok sex... It just happens to have been with the same person

probably 30-40 maybe a bit more, stopped counting ages ago, single again so still going up! Not regretted many, the few I have are collateral damage! Love the fun and freedom to do what I want, when I want.

If you are in a happy, relationship and having good/fun sex then I see no reason that you are missing out, if you are having boring, monotonous and that's the way it's going to stay then I'd say may be you were missing out. That said maybe the benefits of your relationship out weigh this.