how would you feel if a man did this?

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Would you be offended or flattered if a man wolf whistled at you?

SparkiePolastri, I do have standards, you should see my husband!

However, I also don't have a giant stick up my ass, and I try not to take things like this so seriously. Lighten up.

I’d be thrilled. Never happens though.

This happens a lot. The feeling flattered thing ... Makes me want to rip the Whistler's asophagus out and hit the flatteree over the bonce with it.

What age do teh last two posters think that men shoudl start this up?

When I was young it started at about 12 or 13.

Girls who don't enjoy random men doing >whatever> have a "giant stick up tehir ass"???

the last two were lanes and rhino when I pressed go!

To all of those saying it's simply a sign of appreciation and there's nothing more to it than that, why is it that it's almost always men wolf whistling at women, and almost never the reverse? If I see a hot man on the street I might try to sneak a peak on the sly, but it would never occur to me to whistle at him, much less say '"Nice package babe!"or anything similarly idiotic.

So it's not simply about 'appreciation'. It's about men reminding women that the public realm is never truly theirs and that as women, they are there to be looked at.

"I have always just given 'em a big old smile and flirted back. It's never bothered me"

What even when you were 14
And there were lots of them on a site or similar
And there was no-one else around?
You'd go up and start chatting?

Like fuck you did.

Not sure I'd even notice. Don't pay attention to other people when out, usually thinking too much about random stuff.

I would think ‘Oh do fuck off dear’ and roll my eyes, as some have already said, it’s more about them than me. I have no interest in gaining the approval of someone who would catcall or wolf whistle at a woman in the street.

Do gay men sexually harrass schoolboys on the street and loads of people say well that's normal nothing to see.

No they don't!

Yes I wonder why women and gay men don't harass boys.

Hate it, makes my skin crawl. Or - used to. Whether the culture's genuinely changed or I'm just no longer the target demographic, I am happily never whistled at these days.

The think is, it only happened to me when I was a child, and when I was heavily pregnant/had a newborn. Which says to me that it is not about sexual attraction (I looked much better in my late 20s than I did on no sleep with a newborn, and I would hope no adult man found me sexually attractive aged 11). It is about intimidation, and they pick on people who look vulnerable because they don’t think they will answer back. It is disgusting.

My DH went through a phase of looking out for other men doing it and challenging them (after I came back particularly upset one day when somebody had followed me up the road with DS in a pram, a couple of weeks post-CS, hissing all the ways they wanted to have sex with me, safe in the knowledge I couldn’t run away (post-CS) or punch him (baby with me).

DH noticed that if he just made eye contact and shook his head, these guys looked hugely embarrassed and scuttled off. They are doing it because they think they can get away with it, the minute somebody calls them out on it they completely fold. DH is not remotely physically intimidating, it is just the knowledge they’ve been caught doing it. Of course they know it is wrong.

Essentially you have insulted the women on the thread who have said they don't like it (ie the majority).

Why do you get so angry when others have a different opinion to you?

Why do you insult women who have said it makes them feel upset of fearful or angry? That they are uptight or whatever you are saying.

Should I tell my DD to flirt right back lest people think she has a giant stick up her arse?

I.had just read the David Mitchell thread and then spent a little too long trying to work out what a ' man wolf's might be and then how they actually whistle. Time for an early night I think!!!

' man wolf' sorry!!

I would wish my wits were quick enough to shout 'fuck your white male entitlement!'
But I'm always to surprised when they do it and then there gone just as quick

My God, NothingOnTellyAgain, you really don't know how to read, do you? The stick up the ass comment was a response to the pp so included a comic depicting a fat man whistling at a pretty woman. The poster dragged me into it, so I responded. Then, I have you, who btw, used the word fuck first arguing the point what about 14 year old? Blah blah. Which of course, the OP nor I was talking about.

Not to mention, I never said I liked it. I said it didn't bother me, so stop putting words in my mouth.

In regards to the personal insults, frankly, I can care less what you think about me.
Incidentally, you sound sanctimonious and self righteous.

I would love it!

Omg, I just read your second post Telly.

I'm done here. You can think whatever you like. You can't debate with crazy, so I'm leaving this thread. Cheers!

Here's an equivalent I hear of recently. What do you think about this, those who say people should just laugh or be flattered.

Girls at school coming out of the swimming pool changing room ready for swimming. Boys from another school watching them coming out and one of them shouting a 'score' for each girl. Next week, a different boy shouting a one word assessment of each girl as she came out.

It's not very different really and I can't imagine anyone would want their 13 year old DD to go through that or think it was a bit of a laugh.

Would any of those 13 year old boys have done the shouting if they were alone - no, it was all about showing off in front of their mates and using the girls' embarrassment to boost their own egos.

Disgusting!

And you'll be glad to know it was reported to the other school and the boys were spoken to amd put in detention because of it. And rightly so. Although no doubt some of them laughed and said it was the girls being 'uptight'.

It definitely wouldn't offend me in the slightest but i wouldn't be flattered either.

My middle daughter (16) is a mechanic and gets this often - peril of her occupation.

Her most recent response was would you like me to tighten your nuts sir? whilst brandishing a large wrench. Funny enough he declined and swiftly apologised.

It isn't flattering, it's just grotty.