how would you feel if a man did this?

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Would you be offended or flattered if a man wolf whistled at you?

elfycat a disgusting man made a leery comment about my daughter’s legs the other day and she is 10 too (but the height of a 13 year old). I was pretty horrified to be honest and it made me realise how hard it will be seeing men think of her sexually as she gets into her teenage years. I hated being harassed when I was 14/15. I found it very intimidating. If a man wolf whistled me now I would just ignore him. But I am 45 so that definitely changes things.

I don't think all men mean to intimidate, some are purely admiring. It's all in the manner and tone

I disagree . If it was about admiring them I would be shouting loud comments every time I see a woman in a lovely outfit or with great hair, let alone a handsome young man.

If I did want to admire, for example, a woman’s coat, I would walk up to her and say politely “ Excuse, me , I love your coat, do you mind if I ask where you bought it? “.

That’s admiring. Not shouting “ show us yer tits love “ from a passing vehicle while making obscene gestures.

Honestly, flattered. I know that's not PC but....

It's not the it's 'not PC'.

It's just that - being honest here - it seems so pitiable to be flattered by the attention of some society dreg.

Any man worth his salt wouldn't dream of wolf whistling. Of course, they will look discretely, but they won't whistle, call out, get their mates involved, etc. So the ones who do do it, are the bottom of the barrel.

How is that flattering...??

These days I’d be amused/bewildered but when I was young and a target for that type of thing I found it deeply uncomfortable and sleezy.

It makes me feel very self conscious and in some circumstances a bit frightened. And then resentful at having been made to feel self-conscious and frightened.

That’s horrifying that 10 year olds are getting comments. Seriously sick.
I found it bad enough when lorries used to beep at me (and make me jump out of my skin!) as I walked to college at 16. I suppose at least I was of legal age but I still found it pretty grim as the men were usually my dads age :(

Does anybody really believe it works?

I would keep walking n not even entertain it it's cringe.

Seriously feel sorry for anybody who is flattered by this.

I'd feel self conscious but secretly smile to myself that someone had noticed. But then I'm not one for all this pc stuff. It's taken the f out of fun.

I would ignore it. And maybe feel confused as in "err, was that meant for me?!" It doesn't happen to me often, but I do distinctly remember a time when I was walking down the street, pushing my DD aged 6 months in her pram, when some lad drove past me in a van, he took the time to "compliment" me (whilst hanging out of his window, looking back at me despite driving down a busy street) to tell me I had "a fucking gorgeous arse" along with a lewd facial expression. I just thought it so random! And a bit gross considering I was pushing a pram

It happened to me last summer and I'm no spring chicken.
I was walking home from work and At a busy junction I heard someone whistle.
I didn't take much notice as I genuinely thought that this behaviour didn't stillhappen, least of all to me as I was in work clothing and like I say, I'm not young.
Any how as I drew closer to the car I saw a man with his window down and he was smiling/leering and I realised It was him who had whistled at me.
I carried on walking and he drove past but further up the road he had pulled over and when I drew level with him, he shouted from his car "hello, you are gorgeous!"
I was speechless, carried on walking whilst he sat watching me, then I got worried as I thought he might follow me home. Then I felt angry thinking what is this shit?
How will my dcs cope if I'm getting this crap and why would someone think I'm going to be flattered.
I got home and when I told dp he was livid and said I should have gone over to the creep and punched him. Yeah I understand a man probably would have, but I just froze and felt scared which seems ridiculous.

I'm not sure if I've ever been wolf-whistled at, but when I was about 21 I got called a MILF by a couple of schoolboys (who looked to be around 15-16). I wasn't a mother at the time and didn't know whether to be insulted or flattered.

For me it is neither offensive nor flattering.

I don't like strangers yelling and making stupid noises at me in general. I find it obnoxious.

Not read all the replies, wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

I passed a shop unit with workmen refitting inside. One whistled at me, as I'm quite old I yelled to the workmates that they should take him to Spec Savers. They laughed at him, job done!

It started for me when I was 12. Tells me all I need to know about men who do this.

It's NOT a compliment.

greenpop21 Nope, attractiveness doesn't seem to be a requirement, though obviously I'm sure attractive women & girls get catcalled more often.

It's just men thinking they have the right to your attention, because you're female and the object of their sexual gaze.

"Woman I have noticed you, pay me attention, I don't care if you like it or not"

Fairly inoffensive, to my mind. A step further and making comments would (to me) be unacceptable. I didn’t like being whistled at when young, but not offended. Many worse things.

Wasn't this on the news a few weeks ago? Someone with nothing to do in their life was campaigning for the Govt to pass a law to make it illegal to wolf whistle at a female. Some folk as so precious. Can't even remember how long ago anyone mentioned hearing a wolf whistle.

Those kind of actions are not wolf whistles.

If a man wolf whistled me now I'd send him to Specsavers
But when I was younger I was neither offended or flattered. I was a little confused as to what they were trying to achieve- did they expect women to run back and throw themselves at their feet ???

I don't like it. I am not a dog, and I don't appreciate being wolf whistled (which is pretty much a non verbal 'I'd give you one' from a man) at, my reaction is to ignore, eye roll and internally seethe 'fuck off knob head'.

Slightly off topic but I have a friend whose husband whistles for her when he wants her, ie to make him a cup of tea for example. No joke. He thinks it's hilarious, she rolls her eyes and does as he asks. It's absolutely appalling.