how would you feel if a man did this?

[brizzledrizzle]

Would you be offended or flattered if a man wolf whistled at you?

Kinda depends if I was going for the piece of meat look. Nice to think I can still pull it off at 37!

I would feel embarrassed and vulnerable.

It always made my innards close up.

I can’t believe people find it flattering. It’s not about paying you a compliment. It’s about puffing their feathers.

I mean I doubt very much any recipient of a wolf whistle has ever thrown her shopping bags down, run over to wolf whistler whilst unsnapping her bra, fling it in the air and shout “take me now!”

When I was younger, I used to dread walking alone past men loitering around, whether they wolf whistled or not. Doesn't happen now. One of the perks of getting older! 😬😬

A few weeks ago I walked past a van advertising tree services. A very young man leaned out and asked very politely if I needed my bush trimming. I couldn't help but laugh. I told him not at the moment thanks!
I suspect he was the apprentice and had been dared to ask me (I am a grandma) I wasn't offended but wolf whistling etc was common when I was younger and I learnt the art of a good "put down"

www.thedailymash.co.uk/news/society/woman-old-enough-to-be-invisible-to-men-actually-quite-pleased-about-it-20190129181879

I would be a bit pissed off, not offended or flattered.

It's a horrible thing to do and I can't believe some men still think it's acceptable. I have struggled with extremely low self esteem at points in my life and, although I can look back now and see that I was actually perfectly lovely as a teenager and definitely not fat or ugly or any of the things I felt, I just saw myself in a very negative light. So when I used to get wolf whistled it actually felt to me like they were taking the piss and tormenting me, because obviously nobody could ever have found me attractive. On a bad day it could really knock me for six.
Other times when I was going through a period of better confidence levels, it felt threatening and made me immediately aware that I was vulnerable. They never did it when I was with my dad or my 6' 2" brother, only when I was alone or with other very young female friends. That wasn't a coincidence. So I made the link very quickly, as most women do, that this was an action designed to intimidate and exert power. If it was a compliment, it could have been paid when I was with my family or with a group of male friends. But it never was.
As an aside, I used to get wolf whistled/shouted at from white vans almost every day walking back home from the bus stop in my school uniform. As soon as I graduated up to sixth form and wore t shirts and jeans it stopped instantly.

It doesn't bother me either way. I always think 'I wonder if that ever works and attracts a woman'. I mean I have never seen a woman walk up to a guy who whistled at her and give her number to the bloke.

I don't find it offensive, nor am I flattered.

When we were younger (teens) my friend and I were quite pretty. We lived in a village but lorries often came through to go to a nearby works. One day we tool super soakers out and sprayed and whistles through the window! It was summer and they didnt seem to mind

It wouldn't bother me now, it used to as a young thing

Why would I be flattered that some random stranger who thinks they are so important whistles/beeps/calls out to me what do they think their attention is so desired it makes me day

Ffs

I'd be embarrassed. For them. It's the kind of thing people with low intelligence do.

I'll never forget being whistled and jeered at for the first time as a 14 year old, by a bunch of grown men. Yuck.

Honestly I'd probably be flattered but that's because I'm nearing 30 with two kids and it'd make me feel like someone saw me as something other than run ragged mum. I'd not let on to the man though, I'd have an inner smile

Well I'm almost 40 so will be quite flattered
Seriously no But wouldn't bother me either .
When I was 18 I had a office job but it was at a very male environment. I'd walk to work And seriously would get get wolf whistled all the way in . I remember it bothering me at first but just ignored it , totalling inappropriate and wouldn't happen now .

I've never liked it.. especially as it only really happened from age 13 to about 18, gross. I've seen older women on here say they miss being whistled at.

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest.

A few weeks ago I walked past a van advertising tree services. A very young man leaned out and asked very politely if I needed my bush trimming. I couldn't help but laugh. I told him not at the moment thanks!

Wonder if he'd been reading a Jilly Cooper novel.

Even worse is being ordered to smile, hate that.

They're not giving compliments, they're making themselves feel big and powerful for being able to harass and intimidate women without consequence. It's quite obviously never intended to be a compliment when they laugh at your discomfort or turn aggressive if you don't smile or you dare to actually tell them to leave you alone

They're massaging their own egos, not yours

This is exactly right.

I totally agree with **, when they drive past and beep it literally makes you jump out of your skin! Not because you're frightened of them but when a car drives past the back of you with the horn blaring, it literally is a shock. Fucking twats.

My reaction would depend on my mood at the time (this of course, as a concept, is not understandable by these men who probably have a "smile love" mentality/history too - we are not allowed to be sad, stressed, or just generally focusing on weightier matters than whether a bloke fancies us or not):
If I'm busy, pissed off, sub-par (by their standards) - flick a V at them
Feeling good, carefree (rare occurrence!!) - meh.

I think this speaks to the assumption that women, all women, are just desperately waiting to be shown that they are seen as attractive and that you're the man for us at which point we're desperately wanting to enter into a relationship with them. Newsflash guys: We not and we don't.

Your last sentence GraceMarks is interesting when you view that 'woman walking in NYC' video with the gal in boots and jeans? She flip-reverses it on them - and they can't cope with it! One says "Hey baby wanna get married" so says "Oh yeah, yes I'd love to get married" and he literally takes a step back - arsehole. If I experienced that every day on that scale I'd probably end up being had up for assault because I'd properly lose my shit after not too long of a time.

And these (many of them) are the same men ogling and calling out to teenage girls as they walk to and from school, dirty vile creatures.

Ugh no, angry not flattered. I'm quite open to random chat with passing strangers but that's yuck. And usually it's seeing what the reaction is and laughing at you with their mates, so I don't think anyone should feel flattered by it sorry. They noticed you were female, that's about all it says.

I remember complaining to DM about being wolf whistled at whilst a teen and she said to enjoy it while it lasted .

One of the benefits of being forty plus plus plus, I am now invisible to men and it's bloody great.

I would ignore it, i wouldn't be flattered but I wouldn't be offended I have other things to be offended by than some dodgy geezer who thinks he's gods gift.