To ask whether you felt the rush of love?

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When your DC was born?

It's something I've struggled with as part of my pnd, but I've not been able to discuss it with anyone,in case they think i don't love my son...

I do, he's the most important part of my life. But when he was born and put on my chest, i just felt detached from him. I didn't get that rush of love that people talk about. 32 hours later, i just thought "thank F* that's over".

Am i just cold? Aibu to ask for your experiences??

I did for child #1, (long, draining induced delivery) then panicked when I didn’t for child #2 (emergency c-section). #3 and #4 were both induced but quicker, and I didn’t for them either. I worried about it for a while, but now it’s been filed under “things that, with hindsight, no longer seem important.”

Lots of people don’t feel it, especially if it was a traumatic delivery. I had two traumatic deliveries where either the baby wasn’t handed to me straight away or was whisked away quickly and doctors rushed in from all angles. I didn’t have the opportunity to feel any rush of love . With my last two deliveries I felt it but they were straight forward and trauma free.

Congratulations @Grimbles

Felt it when I met my dn, in hospital 1 day old, for the first time. Really strange, over whelming and brought a happy tear to my eye.

With my ds? Absolutely nothing. Felt scared as I knew I was capable of the feeling from before so why didn't I feel it with my own child, I never told anyone until years later and then found out its pretty common.

too exhausted to feel any rush of love with first... I thought exactly same as you. I did what I was expected to do to care for baby over first few days and the love slowly grew over time. I was a bit down but no PND. I'm not overly keen on baby stage... much prefer toddlers and up... and we are very close, have great relationship et now

I don't think your alone. This first gush of love thing is hyped up beyond belief.
When my first was born, the only gush I felt was worry to be honest. I was terrified of the responsibility I now had ....I had to keep this baby alive and well....that was very overwhelming and took away from any feeling if love I might have.
I settled into motherhood over the next few weeks and by week 6 I relaxed .
I always felt I'd do anything for my baby but the worry was enormous.
Love my dc' s to bits but the first few weeks after my first was born were the toughest few weeks of my life.

Yes - but it came on gradually I think because I felt it in a huge rush at about 6 weeks when a very big dog darted at the pram and I stepped in the way without thinking!

With DC2 it was instant and I felt much more bonded from the first.

Hormones are funny things. Sorry to hear you have PND, but you’re doing the right thing know dealing with it