Newborn and custard

[MrsXx4]

Mainly posting here for traffic because I really don’t think I am being at all unreasonable!! I am fuming! I left my 5 week old baby in my husbands ‘capable’ hands for 2 minutes while I went to hang some washing up and when I came downstairs husband was feeding him custard (an M&S microwave custard - not baby food) from his finger! Letting baby suck it from his finger!

I am so angry but do I also need to worry about baby? Husband has got angry saying I have over reacted in being so mad! Baby was sleeping on me a second ago as I took him off of husband but now he has taken him off me and baby is screaming!!

I would be calling 111

What are they going to do--take him into custardy?

Boom.....TISH!

I have only read the first page, but honestly, have people no common sense these days?
No he should not have fed baby (a tiny bit) of custard, but really, the hysterical replies beggar belief.
Call 111? Are you completely serious? Are people so out of their instincts and sense that they are unable to make a sensible judgement call without speaking to 'a few expert'?
I also note that no one picked up on the fact the OP had taken the baby from its dad, and only that the dad had taken it back.
Absolute madness.

How did our kids born in the 70s survive? First solids at 12 weeks, often earlier if they were hungry, and laid down on their tummies.

Um, did you really just go there with the 'laid down on their tummies' thing?

I agree with Bluelady, we were told quite emphatically that babies must NOT be laid on their backs, front was the thing. My DD hated it, poor love, but I followed advice because it was the best thing for her, according to the experts. Ha!

@Kokeshi123

I agree with Bluelady, we were told quite emphatically that babies must NOT be laid on their backs, front was the thing. My DD hated it, poor love, but I followed advice because it was the best thing for her, according to the experts. Ha!

I'm not disagreeing that that was the advice back then or that people were doing what they thought was best for their kids.

I take issue with the oh so flippant 'how did our kids survive in the 70s when we laid them on their fronts' when it's well known that the rate of SIDS dropped hugely when the advice on this changed. Lots of children did die back then.

We know they did. You're missing the point AGAIN, which is that advice changes. People follow current advice and do the best they can. Yesterday's good practice becomes tomorrow's anathema. And has done since "baby experts" started advising parents.

How did our kids born in the 70s survive? First solids at 12 weeks, often earlier if they were hungry, and laid down on their tummies.

What a stupid, thoughtless post. A lot of babies laid down on their tummies didn't survive, they died of SIDS. As for the solids at 12 weeks it would have led, statistically to adults who are, on average, slightly less healthy than if they had been purely breastfed until 6 months.

I could say how did all us adults of the 50's survive smoking loads of unfiltered cigarettes every day?

And all of these expert mums on this thread who are, absolutely convinced the current way is the definitive correct way are in for a rude awakening when they are grandmothes!

OP your DH shouldn’t have done this but baby will be fine. It’s not ideal baby food obviously but custard is basically just sweetened milk!

I can’t believe the poster who suggested calling 111. What an absurd and hysterical overreaction.

My point entirely @cathf.

And all of these expert mums on this thread who are, absolutely convinced the current way is the definitive correct way are in for a rude awakening when they are grandmothes!

Exactly! How many threads do you see on here where new mums moan about how their parents/inlaws behave?! Do these people really think they won't be subject to the same moans when they're grandparents?

I don't think they do, adaline, as they are so dogmatic that today's way is the ONLY way.
As I said upthread, instinct, judgement and common sense seem to be very lacking these days too. If every tiny bit of advice is not followed unthinking and slavishly, then the world is going to end.
Or a five week old baby will be ruined for ever because they had a taste of custard.
Madness it is.

This is crazy.. it was a tiny bit of custard , not a shot of whiskey!
Ds was given a tiny bit of fresh cream when he was roughly the same age , I wasn’t happy about it but he didn’t suffer any adverse affects and I most definitely didn’t call a doctor..

We know they did. You're missing the point AGAIN, which is that advice changes. People follow current advice and do the best they can. Yesterday's good practice becomes tomorrow's anathema. And has done since "baby experts" started advising parents.

If you 'know they did' why would you make such flippant comments about 'how did our kids in the 70s survive'?

I'm not missing the point, I know that was the advice then, and I'm sure there will be things that we do now that people will look back on and be like It wasn't that bit of your post I was referring to.

@adaline no one with half a brain thinks that today's guidelines are absolutely correct and will never change. That would be to totally misunderstand what science is and how it works. It's our current best knowledge. In the future our knowledge may improve and guidelines change. What you probably shouldn't do is to try and predict what that might be, or to decide that they will inevitably revert to previous knowledge.

Practically the first thing my mum said to me on learning about my first pregnancy was to say that all her baby knowledge was over 30 years old, and to bear that in mind if ever asking for advice. Which is probably similar to what I would say to my children if they ever have children of their own!

Because I'm a flippant old bag who doesn't take life too seriously. Happy now?

Because I'm a flippant old bag who doesn't take life too seriously. Happy now?

OK, just so we are clear on that

Your husband is a moron. I’d be fucking fuming!

Why Ethel? Why not be sensible and proportionate?

I am just laughing that this thread is still going.

Everyone stand down! Custardgate is surely over!

Just imagine if it had been a mil who had given the baby the custard.This would have been a very different thread!

MILs know nothing. Only women who have been mothers for a few weeks are experts (apparently)

Guidelines won't be changing as much as they have changed. Basically once you have done sound scientific research on baby's physiology there are only little changes to make as technology improves.
No one would think we would go back to not wearing car seat belts or encouraging smoking cigarettes. I don't know why early weaning has so much strong support, perhaps due to disinformation and undermining of breastfeeding?
Before 6 months, the wall of the baby's gut is not closed which means that cells (immunite system cells from the mother's breastmilk for example) can pass directly into the baby's blood. This is why it is dangerous to give babies other foods than breastmilk or artificial milk that has been especially elaborated for babies in clean containers. Nothing to do with developing countries, everything to do with the baby's needs and physiology.

immune system not immunite

If it really is DANGEROUS (as in, life-threatening, a real danger) to give babies food, why is it not more widely known?
The guidelines are given for six months to start weaning, but surely if it was DANGEROUS, weaning before then would be strictly forbidden. The way alcohol is to under-18s.
Or is it not really dangerous at all, just not recommended?