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DD has a real issue with people eating

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Splattermania · 29/01/2019 09:45

DD (13) seems to get infuriated by people eating. She constantly comments on the amount of food people eat and uses words such as “greedy” and “pigging out”. If we go to a restaurant she sits there watching other people winding herself up about what she sees as greed and gluttony. She’s had many arguments with DH (not her dad) about the amount of biscuits he eats in one sitting saying it’s “disgusting” and “pure greed”. She seems obsessed. I’ve obviously asked her about it and she ignores the question and instead asks why me and her grandma used to give her grandad and dad “mountains” of food when she was little so I don’t know if it harps back to that??
Last night we were eating dinner and she started making pig noises and when challenged mimicked us by pretending to shovel food in her mouth whilst making snorting and grunting noises. It caused a big argument which ended in her storming out shouting that there is no need for greed. In every other way she’s lovely, polite, doesn’t get into trouble at school etc but becomes a monster around food. She’s a normal weight and doesn’t appear to have an eating disorder btw. Is it work a trip to GP or is she just playing up??

OP posts:
countrybunny · 29/01/2019 20:16

Are you overweight? If so I think she's worried about your lifestyle and you not being around anymore and this is how she's projecting it

artisanscotcheggs · 29/01/2019 20:16

Lots of frothing going on here. OP has only commented twice...

COULD IT BE

DUN DUN DUUUUUUUUUN?

A FAT TROLL?

SteelRiver · 29/01/2019 20:19

I don't care how overweight the OP and her husband are, no-one has the right to comment on other people's food or eating, and I've also been shocked at some of the judgey comments in this thread.

The child has gone way beyond what is acceptable and must be punished. She must learn tact and manners or life is going to be very hard for her in the future. This appalling behaviour must be stopped now and the reasons behind it explored with a professional.

Suzysuzuki · 29/01/2019 20:21

I'd say misophonia too, level 5. If mine had started earlier in life I probably would have reacted like your daughter. It's horrible, I sit at level 4 and can control myself to not reach the next level. I do have to leave the table sometimes and listening and watching eating can put me off my food (misokinesia) but I'd also explore eating disorders, as PP have said, it may be the start.

iamyourequal · 29/01/2019 20:24

@artisan, perhaps OP is a troll. She is certainly pretty rude herself:
Splattermania All these comments saying I’ve not been back ... I’m at work!! Do you literally sit here glued to the site refreshing every few seconds all day??

Thats pretty rude. If you are going to start a thread asking for advice and have dozens of people contribute their opinion to try and help you, then yes, it would be decent to start the thread when you actually have time to reply and respond to people.

user1473878824 · 29/01/2019 20:29

“I would have found it very, very hard indeed not to get up and slap her hard around the face. That was absolutely disgusting, disrespectful, contemptuous behaviour on her part and I hope you are going to punish her very, very hard for it. Who the fuck does she think she is? Hmm

“My god she sounds like a horrible little bitch”

What is wrong with you?

Doman · 29/01/2019 20:31

I have Misophonia. It is triggered by noise, not the sight of people eating. So what I call 'slurpy chomping' bothers me, but so does the hum of a games console that has been left on, or repetitive bleeping.

It sounds like this is more a sign of disordered eating. I'm a sample of one, but I could happily watch someone eat a 'mountain of food' as long as they did it quietly!

I agree with PPs that you sit her down in a good moment and try to find out why she is bothered by it. And your GP might be able to help.

Suzysuzuki · 29/01/2019 20:45

@Doman my misophonia is worsened with visual triggers as described in this article so the OPs daughter could have reached her limit on watching and eating.
www.misophonia.com/misokinesia-describes-having-visual-misophonia-triggers/

RCohle · 29/01/2019 20:46

To be honest if the responses to my first mumsnet thread included that my DD was a "horrible judgmental little bitch", that "I would have found it very, very hard indeed not to get up and slap her hard round the face" and that I was probably a "FAT TROLL" anyway, I probably wouldn't have hurried back.

glutenfreepretzel · 30/01/2019 11:40

She has the first signs of an eating disorder. Get her to see an appropriate psychologist asap. I grew up with a sibling with anorexia, you don't want this to escalate. It will literally destroy your family.

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