To find my child's lack of crawling upsetting?

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My son is nearly 12 months old and is still commando crawling. He started doing this about 3 months ago and still hasn't started crawling properly.

On Sunday he did start crawling differently but by using one knee and one foot!

I feel like he's falling behind other babies his age and I'm getting worried! Am I being ridiculous? It's my first child so I tend to worry about every little thing.

2 out of my 3 didn’t crawl! But I remember feeling the same as you with my first. All babies are different; enjoy him

Some babies only commando crawl. It sounds like he might go straight to walking. Some babies who are super-efficient at crawling are actually quite late walkers as they can manage just fine crawling, thank you very much!

Does he pull himself up on things?

Some never do a typical crawl at all. He may just do the commando crawl until he walks.

He does pull himself up and I have no other development worries, in fact his language comprehension seems pretty good.

I just want him to crawl!

My husband and I never crawled apparently and went straight to walking but I was walking by now.

I'm probably just impatient and should slow down.

My little boy didn’t crawl properly until after he was one. He was actually starting to walk before he crawled! I was told by my hv that more and more babies aren’t crawling now, they think it’s to do with safe sleep guidelines. We put them down on their backs to sleep, so they don’t develop the strength to crawl the same way they used to.

She also told me that crawling is actually more difficult for them to learn than walking.

Don’t worry, he’ll get it!

He is perfectly normal, dont worry about it. There are always going to be other kids who do things first or seemjngly better, but they all develop at their own pace.

My DD barely crawled at all. She's now a competitive gymnast! I remember how much you want them to do things in the early days, but he's well within the normal range so just try to be patient.

DD2 bum-shuffled for months. Some DC never crawl.

DD didn't roll over till 11 months, crawl till 13 months or walk till 18 months. DS bumshuffled at 11 months, never crawled, and walked at 16 months. They're both perfectly normal!

Try not to worry, they're all different and get to things in their own way. Comparing doesn't help!

I hate all the comparing. And I get texts from other nct mums asking 'how's the crawling going' and it grates on me.

Comparison is the thief of joy.

DS comando crawled for a couple of weeks . Then he got on his knees and walked around upright on his knees for about 4 months ( he walked at 16 months). Luckily it was winter and he had a padded all body suit that protected his knees in the park!!.

I know what you mean op though. Almost no other child I saw did this so I was worried. I did see one other baby doing it coming out of a baby music class and it made me really happy to know DS was not the only one!!
He walked fine in the end though.

My DD never even attempted any type of crawl whatsoever. Nothing. Not a thing. She'd just point at stuff and wait to be carried over . No amount of encouraging made the slightest difference. Then one day she just started standing up and tottering around. Now she's 10 and very sporty and bright I can confidently say the lack of crawling wasn't anything to worry about. So, relax, it's all okay.

Many babies use bottom shuffling rather than crawling to get around before the walking stage. At 12 months, you’re only just into the range for starting to walk, and can relax and wait another few months yet. You can encourage him to pull himself upright holding onto furniture etc if you like, but he’ll get there himself eventually.
Once he is running around causing havoc, you’ll wish you were back to the old days of immobility!

I am friends with several ladies and we all had our babies at a similar time. All of them developed at different times. One of the oldest is only just walking and he is about 19 months.

I did read up that babies will either be more physical or mentally able. My dd is certainly physical but some of her friends are speaking loads of words.

Don't worry and just keep encouraging.

I can't remember the comedian but there is a sketch where he says you don't see a fully grown adult pulling themselves alpng the floor into a meeting and speaking gobbeldy gook! (Although some meetings I go to this is correct )

My son didn't crawl ever at all (not once) he just stood up and walked about 11 months. Even after he could walk he couldn't crawl!

DD rolled about a lot then commando crawled and then just decided to stand up. She really didn't bother with the crawling until after she walked (she is nearly 6 and crawls around a lot now, kids eh?!)

If he is pulling himself up then I wouldn't worry. He is still very little so try and just relax. If you have any worries take him to the HV.

Don’t let the NCT group get you down, every child is different and he sounds like he’s flying in other areas. Just enjoy his milestones in his own time 😊 (my little one loves crawling in bizarre ways too-currently styling a Mowgli walk with straight legs 🤷🏼‍♀️)

My son only commando crawled. He's 3 now and suffered no negative consequences, he started walking at 14 months and is really fast on his feet now. No need to worry about it, I know it's hard but try not to compare him to others.

Neither of mine crawled, both bum shuffled then DS finally walked at 17 months and DD at 13 months. Mum’s at playgroup always used to laugh and say ‘oh isn’t it funny?’ But was just normal for mine.

Don’t stress, once they start moving properly it’s a nightmare!!! Nothing is same.

Oh and also, the girls who work in my daughters nursery said that less babies are crawling now, a lot more shuffle. Not sure why but poster further up suggested that it’s to do with safe sleeping guidelines.

I found it better to socialise with mum's of children of different ages. There was less comparison going on. My DN never crawled only bum shuffled then walked. I don't believe it's actually a necessary step, a lot of children seem to skip it.

We have a smuggy mcsmuggison mum in our nct group whose child is walking before 1 despite not being able to roll until she was 10 months old.

She's now suddenly taking an interest in how my child is crawling... urgh. Nct is a blessing and a curse.

I didn't crawl at all, I bum shuffled until I was 2 and then started walking.

@MigGril I 100% agree with you. I'm always happier in mixed age baby groups.

Ds didn't crawl until 13 months. Walking at 18 months. Nothing wrong with him at all. Saved a fortune on shoes! Plus lovely to have the extra time if him staying where he was put. Bonus of him walking later is that his comprehension of danger and his abilities was better and he very rarely fell over and banged himself.

I had a non crawling family member who literally just sat on her bum until she was ready to stand and walk. She is perfectly fit and healthy.