To find my child's lack of crawling upsetting?

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My son is nearly 12 months old and is still commando crawling. He started doing this about 3 months ago and still hasn't started crawling properly.

On Sunday he did start crawling differently but by using one knee and one foot!

I feel like he's falling behind other babies his age and I'm getting worried! Am I being ridiculous? It's my first child so I tend to worry about every little thing.

My daughter didn't crawl until past her first birthday. Please don't worry.

I would find the other mums with their ‘advanced’ children insufferable though messaging you for updates! Some people are just awful. I’ve even seen parents getting competitive about how many teeth children have or have lost. It really doesn’t matter and indicates nothing.

DS1 never crawled! He went from sitting to walking at about 13 months! He now does every sport under the sun, including running, and never stops moving! He's also quite bright - so I don't think you need to worry at all!! They r all different!! :)

My youngest did the one knee one foot thing. He learned to walk over the course of about three days at age 1. I wouldn’t worry too much.

Some people are just awful. I’ve even seen parents getting competitive about how many teeth children have or have lost.

Yes, the woman who texted me for a sitting update was genuinely a bit off with me because DS was the first of the group to cut a tooth! In a world of baby milestones which, as people have said, are meaningless in the long term, when the baby gets teeth has to get first prize for most inconsequential...

DD2 did the commando crawl. & She didn't walk until she was 18 months old.

I've lost count of "well meaning people" who gave unasked for advice & also smugly went on about how quickly their child crawled/walked. I'm good enough at telling them to shut up tho, as I can't stand competitive parenting they can piss off with that.

DD2 stood up and walked at 18 months.

Oh comparison is the worst isn't it. My dd commando crawled (I called it the half dead zombie drag ) until she was almost 14 months. Then she crawled properly and started walking at 18 months! I was amazed!

I did have a very hard time trying not to compare at groups, especially because they all seemed to be walking by 12 months! I felt very left behind and that I was doing something wrong. She wouldn't even pull herself up on things either!

It is frustrating and I don't really have any advise other than please try not to worry, they all get there in their own time x

One of my boys never crawled, never even rolled over. Then one day at 15 months just got up and walked. Perfectly normal 2 year old now.

My first didn't crawl til 14 months, she was talking in sentences before she crawled but all I could focus on was the fact she wouldn't move 😳
She's nearly 9 now and moves just fine!
My second also didn't crawl until his first birthday, in fact he did very little at all! He's just turned 6 and now I often wish he'd stay still!! 😩

He'll get there in his own time, don't compare him to others ☺️

My DC only ever commando crawled. Never did a "normal" crawl. I ignored the comments from my nct group. Half of them were smug mcsmuggins as pp said. Half of them thought it was quirky and adorable.

If I'm really brutally honest I actually felt immensely proud .. and quite smug that my DC was different from the rest!!

Don't worry! They all walk!

Some posters here have been quite rude to the OP, who was merely asking a question. Slow motor skills CAN sometimes be a sign that something is wrong--as it happens, crawling differently/skipping crawling is not one of the things that is a problem, but it's fine for the OP to ask about this. How can you know about things like this unless you ask?

"Celebrating milestones and not worrying about timing and not comparing with others" is fine up to a point, but there is also such a thing as going too far in this direction. I am reminded of that bloody actress Mayim Bialik, who boasted in her (stupid) parenting book that she was such an ultra-chilled "they-will-do-it-in-their-own-sweet-time" mother that she just sat back and watched her son not being able to roll over till he was a year old, and eating no solid foods till he was over a year old. No, lady, if that is your baby then what you do is, you go to the consultant well before that and find out if there is a developmental problem. Intervening earlier is better for the baby if there is something amiss.

So it is fine to ask questions and rule out problems before deciding not to worry.

My dd wouldn't roll onto her tummy.If she was put face down she nearly ate the carpet.She didn't crawl but pulled herself to standing and cruised around that chairs.When she started walking she suddenly found a use for turning into her front.She was doing this at about 13 months.They all get there in the end and will carry on doing things at different speeds through school.