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To go back to this house?

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trapped2019 · 27/01/2019 06:33

We're trying to move house.

I hate where I live.

We've sold ours and found somewhere that we thought was perfect.

Got survey done, arranged removals, almost got to exchange etc. Then we went back for another viewing to measure up.

The vendor was starting to remove fixtures and fittings, things were broken and dirty.

We pulled out.

Since then, we have found nothing else. Nothing.

The vendor of that house put it back on the market and sold it last week.

Would it be even worth our time going back to them?

We could complete in a week and I know the vendor has already bought his new place so is paying two mortgages. He could move much more quickly with us than with his new buyers. Would that count?

I can't sleep for worrying about this. I'm in tears at thought of being trapped in our current home.

Help!

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PerryPerryThePlatypus · 27/01/2019 08:37

Gosh so many issues and drama. The house is not yours to get back. Its someone else's now so quit your tantrum. Rent or don't rent. You have 6 figure savings so you have the options that most people can only dream of.
However bringing another child into a marriage where your issues descend into screaming at each other is ridiculous.

crunchie12 · 27/01/2019 08:39

OP I sympathise. We had our house on the market for over a year, sold three times, twice people pulled out and lost a house of our dreams (so we thought). Third time we sold and had to go into rented as our bastard buyers threatened to pull out if we didn't. Moving into a beautiful house with an excellent school round the corner - we move in in a few days. It has made us ill with stress but have escaped a leasehold house by a busy A road. The new house is the house of our dreams and so much better than the one we nearly bought. Things happen for a reason - I would try find another house ASAP Thanks

RLABC · 27/01/2019 08:40

I have no doubt about that either - a long-standing poster would know exactly what reaction this thread and their petulant, snippy responses would get. Which I guess was the whole point I'm rather surprised that more posters haven't picked up on the blase we'll ttc anyway comment but I suppose it is still early in the day.....

RLABC · 27/01/2019 08:41

Haha, a couple have taken the bait!

londonrach · 27/01/2019 08:41

Renting is not dead money!!! Ive rented before buying for years. If renting means you can move to the area where you want, save some money and jump chain free onto a house you want you may not get and might get cheaper as you can move quickly. Op....dont go back to that house. It be rude. Its sold. No seller trust you. That house has gone for you. Id sell (if you hate the house that much) move to rented and be very proactive re houses you want visiting agent agents daily, polite letter through door of interested houses.

Houseonahill · 27/01/2019 08:42

there is nothing on that estate we can afford

A) So you're trying to buy a house in a one square mile area? Broaden your horizons a bit?

B) you said you earn a 6 figure salary find it very hard to believe you can't find a house you can afford for that. Again broaden your horizons a bit?

C) you are not the victim here, you chose to live on a main road with "fighting smackheads" and you also chose to pull out of this purchase. I think you need to stop being woe is me and start being pragmatic. If you can't find what you want then you need to change what you are looking for.

MrsMoastyToasty · 27/01/2019 08:42

If the kitchen has been ripped out the property will probably be unmortageable anyway...

Toddlerteaplease · 27/01/2019 08:43

Why didn't you negotiate that he paid for any repairs? I would ignore the offer if I was the seller. Besides, it'll still have the issues you pulled out over.

DameSquashalot · 27/01/2019 08:43

None of what you're saying makes any sense. That's why you sound like a troll.

FiveShelties · 27/01/2019 08:44

RLABC sometimes it is just fun to watch a thread develop😂

BookwormMe2 · 27/01/2019 08:45

I'm starting to wonder if "ripping out the kitchen" means removing the cooker, dishwasher etc, rather than actual cupboards. Seriously, who takes fitted carcasses with them?? Hmm

RitaConnors · 27/01/2019 08:46

Why has it taken you five years to persuade your dh to move if you are in such a bad area?

I think you are right. You are screwed and trapped. But only due to your own decisions. If I was in this situation I wouldn’t be trapped as I’d rent. You and your dh won’t rent. You have fucked up the buying of the only house on a magical estate. There are no other houses.

SheCameFromGreeceSheHadaThirst · 27/01/2019 08:46

If the kitchen has been ripped out the property will probably be unmortageable anyway...

Yet bizarrely he managed to replace the kitchen, rebuild the floor, clean up all the shit, and acquire another buyer in the blink of an eye.

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trapped2019 · 27/01/2019 08:47

@LemonGirl

Now that makes sense.

You're probably right- Christ nows what state it would've been in by the time we would've moved it.

Biscuit For the troll hunters. Just because a situation is beyond your experience, doesn't mean it's not true. Try reading a book- at least you won't have the bad karma of laughing at someone else's misfortune.

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trapped2019 · 27/01/2019 08:49

@RLABC

Don't worry, I've reported you for troll hunting. Save you the bother 😎

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RLABC · 27/01/2019 08:50

In that case OP, please can you answer PPs questions when they have taken their time to post and, hope to, help?

Dollymixture22 · 27/01/2019 08:50

This doesn’t really make Denise. You didn’t buy the house - you outin an offer it was accepted. Then the vendor removed the kitchen and you pulled out. He was then able to secure a new offer on the house - but it’s srill not sold yet. You want to now see if you can gazump this new offer.

If you really want this house (I’m not sure why) contact the estate agent and see if they are still accepting offers.

You don’t seem entirely rational about it all though. Maybe this is just panic.

SheCameFromGreeceSheHadaThirst · 27/01/2019 08:51

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Dollymixture22 · 27/01/2019 08:52

Sense not Denise!!???

RLABC · 27/01/2019 08:52

I'm not though, Ive already said twice that I think you need to sleep and maybe see things in a different light after you've rested.

By the way, I didn't report you as a troll, just as a GF Halo

ChesterGreySideboard · 27/01/2019 08:53

I think you got lucky not buying that house. Imagine moving in only to find the floor collapsing!

As it is your DH is being a pig-headed arse by refusing to rent.
He will let some misguided principle get in the way of moving his family to somewhere safer for 6 months.

DameSquashalot · 27/01/2019 08:54

Why did it take you five years to convince DH to move if the area is so bad?

How many DC do you currently have?

Why do you suddenly want to buy the dog shitty house with no kitchen?

If that was the only house you can buy, why did you pull out?

RLABC · 27/01/2019 08:56

SheCameFromGreeceSheHadaThirst What have I missed? Not listening to a word anyone else (bar one) has to say Grin

GoGoGadgetGin · 27/01/2019 08:57

dolly 😁 at 'denise'! OP why not take a wee break to get away from all this stress? Do you like ltaly? The Sistene Chapel would be perfect!

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