Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8

Original poster

To ask if I'm the only one who didn't .....

193 replies

HildaZelda · 21/01/2019 18:16

..... have a hen when I got married? Back in the noughties so they were definitely a 'thing' at the time.
It was a combination of things really, different groups of friends, some who didn't get on with others, some that I knew would be last minute cancellations, my mother (before going NC) would have tutted at everything and sat there with a cat's bum face.

I don't for one moment regret not having one. Never did, and if I was ever getting married again, I still wouldn't.

Anyone else?

OP posts:

lljkk · 23/01/2019 03:32

Hen party = Bachelorette party, Pashal2.
We just don't have the same tradition, though.
Hen Party is meant to be wild & crazy.

lljkk · 23/01/2019 03:34

ps Like hen = bride to be, stag = groom to be, so stag party = Bachelor Party. Again, can be a whole weekend away behaving out of control. Start drinking at 9am before they get on the plane to Amsterdam train to Edinburgh, or somesuch.

ASundayWellSpent · 23/01/2019 03:49

Nope! I had my two best friends around to my as yet unfurnished new apartment and we ate pizza drank wine and had a laugh, was fine by me!!

Nunya · 23/01/2019 04:36

I didn’t have one either. My husband and I eloped.

DuploRelatedInjury · 23/01/2019 07:07

I did but it wasn't a big thing - I don't have many friends and the ones I do were scattered around the country. I went to Go Ape. Brilliant fun. Then had a meal on the evening. I didn't want a boozy one because my 13 year old cousin was a bridesmaid and I wanted something she could join in with too.

AdoreTheBeach · 23/01/2019 08:34

I didn't have one and would have loved one. But I moved to Uk to marry my husband and didn’t know anyone. Had a family dinner night before with my family that came over for the wedding(which was also very small as a) I didn’t know people and b) mil didn’t really want people to know we were getting married (I wasn’t her choice for my DH) so DH couldn’t invite any friends. Venue (registry office in MIL town) and date were her choice as otherwise she wouldn’t come. She did grow to love me and we had the best relationship we could (she was not a very friendly person) until she died.

morningconstitutional2017 · 23/01/2019 10:32

I didn't either, mainly because I'm not a party person.

So glad I'm not the only unsociable person in existence.

ToeToToe · 23/01/2019 10:41

I didn't either, and DH didn't have a stag. I've been on a few painful and expensive hen nights, and after some of the stag nights DH had been forced to attend, I was pretty glad about that we just decided not to do it tbh. We had a v low key wedding.

The night before our wedding, DH stayed elsewhere and my sisters came over - we had some wine, and a bit of a pampering. It was really nice.

Tommy · 23/01/2019 10:41

I had a house party - mum and ma-in-law did the food, we added the drinks onto our wedding drinks shop. I had about 60 friends, family and colleagues and we all did karaoke. Great night!

33goingon64 · 23/01/2019 10:49

Mine was a weekend in a cottage in the countryside - we went for a long walk and then had a murder mystery dinner party, pub lunch the next day for anyone who wanted, then home. Was about 8 of us, a couple knew each other, the others didn't. It was a nice way for them to get to know each other before the wedding (and a few couldn't come to the wedding so nice to celebrate with them in a different way).

Not a classic hen do, no-one even got that drunk, but it was really nice and what I wanted. Not all hen dos involve staggering through city streets carrying inflatable penises. All the same, you do what you want. No obligation to have one at all if it doesn't feel right.

ralfeesmum · 23/01/2019 11:16

Hen and Stag do's are fairly vulgar and definitely belong in the "Lad & Ladette" category.

Plus, in these days of hi-tech iPhones goodness knows what could end up on Facebook going viral!

marymarkle · 23/01/2019 11:22

I am vulgar then

cyclecamper · 23/01/2019 12:30

I had afternoon tea in a treehouse at a local eccentric farm shop. Not a traditional 'hen party'.

Do what suits you.

echt · 23/01/2019 12:32

I got married in the mid-90s. Never occurred to me to have a hen night. Not sure if this was connected to getting married overseas and on our own.

Pashal2 · 23/01/2019 14:17

Thank you so much for educating me on what a hen party is. You're right. Men are expected to be in more wild and crazy at their bachelor party. And women are more conservative at their bachaloret parties. Lately, however, women have been adding strippers and boozwmebrnhjj

Deadpoet · 23/01/2019 14:51

I didn’t have a hen do as such but 3 of my closest friends surprised me with a trip to London to see Saturday Night Fever way back in 1999. We all had a great time.

Shewhomustbeobeyed1 · 23/01/2019 22:21

I did. Wished I hadn’t. Total disaster

MsTSwift · 23/01/2019 22:25

Mine was great. Had glam night out in central London was living there so easy for work friends and uni friends school friends came up for the weekend. A good time had by all dinner then dancing about 25 of us. Am I the only one that enjoys hens?

Flip

1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8