To think there is so much bollocks advice on MN?

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Some of the "advice" offered up on this website is just ridiculous at best and actually damaging at worst. If you are having huge issues for e.g with your child's
behaviour, fgs go to your gp or some kind of professional if possible. Same applies to many problems people put on here. Yes there is some good advice, but honestly it's often drowned out by complete and utter shite. Yes I'm sure I'll get a kicking for this but it just amazes me what people say to other, sometimes desperate, people on here.

According to mumsnet breathing is a “red flag”and if he looks at you funny or dares to disagree with you you deffo should ltb. Everyone also needs an ambulance NOW.

I’d have left my husband years ago and would have had more trips to a+e than I don’t know what if I ever shared my problems here.

You just have to remember mumsnet is predominantly just random people advising other random people on the internet. Some stuff might be helpful and good advise, but equally you’ll read some utter bollocks that is less than helpful.

Its been a while since ive seen the spa day solution.

It always concerns me when posters say stuff like

• I am a GP and therefore...
• I am a midwife and think you should...
• I am a psychiatrist and you need...
• I am a solicitor and my advice is...

How do you know they are who they say they are?
Anyone can pretend to be a member of whatever profession they like, and some of the advice given is scarily inaccurate.

There always crap advice here. But that's not mn, it's just life. Some people give shit advice.

The legal advice is really bad here. Especially around divorce/separation. So much 'lock him out' or 'throw him out' when talking about home that is in both names. And 'take him to court you will get to live in the house until the kids are 18' etc.

Some really like the sound of their own voice and get quite narked if their not agreed with

agree legal advice is dicy,please go to a proffesional

As a solicitor and a landlord (sorry, couldn't resist ) the advice around L+T issues is generally very bad and far too fuelled by vitriol.

One of my parents advised me to do the old "chuck his clothes outside on the lawn and change the locks" routine to deal with my increasingly aggressive ex while I was a bag of nerves

Don't get your undies in a bundle about it. Remember that friends and family members IRL can give shit advice whether you want it or not, too. That's the thing with advice. You don't have to act on it. Sometimes it's stupid or wrong. But the wider the range of advice you get, the more likely it is that some of it will be useful.

"Take in ironing" for all and any financial woes.

Some of the advice ive seen is so bad, i can only presume it is done deliberately and maliciously and they are actively trying to make things worse

If you are having huge issues for e.g with your child's
behaviour, fgs go to your gp or some kind of professional if possible.

Yawn.

1. GPs are not child behavioural experts.
2. the GP may not be very good and ignored yiur concerns (my friend had to go back 3 times before they would refer her child for an autism assessment (the child was later diagnosed with autism)
3. referrals take fucking ages. If you can’t afford to go private you could be waiting years to have your child seen by someone. 4)the GP is one person. MN is hundreds of thousands of people. Many of which are parents, some of which are child behavioural experts or professionals. They have experience with children with behavioural difficulties and can share what worked for them. They can recommend where is best to go for help, techniques you can try and books to read. While you’re waiting for the professionals to get down the list to your child’s name.

My fav is posters being told, 'Get him to a GP' about an adult. You can't force an adult to go to the GP.

I don’t know why I read mumsnet sometimes because half the posts are ridiculous. There is so much terrible advice.

I'm a GP and some of the medical advice threads make me shudder. They can be clinically quite dangerous, about equally over- or under-reactive and often have little conception of how the 'system' works.
'Demanding' something or (my personal favourite) 'refusing to leave until...' doesn't change what is or isn't available or the current timescales.
That said, I can totally see why people seek advice here. I'm not sure what the solution is, aside from proper public health education and a sufficiently funded, reorganised NHS of course...

So what’s the solution, OP? Everyone stops giving their opinion, on an opinion/discussion site, in case they get it wrong? That would certainly cut back on membership numbers. 😁

Ok, I’m sure many of us have given advice/opinion that turns out to be incorrect, but we learn as we go along. It’s called discussion, for a reason and I for one like to read the different advice/opinion. That’s why I come here.

You actually sound very self righteous and arrogant, with your judgment of other posters, but my opinion may be wrong on that. 😁

There's a lot of bad advice from people who get very very irate that things are different outside of their world. Eg refusing to believe that what is a council issue in England is actually a health service matter in N Ireland. Or that Ofsted don't cover Scotland. Some posters get so angry when a poster won't take their advice even when the advice is completely inappropriate to where the person lives.

It's the 80:20 rule.
80% of people give bad advice and 20% give good advice.

FFS wtf did people do before this magical 101?

Unless it's to 'log' a non-crime you probably mean 111. Unless someone has keeled over clutching their chest, I don't think that phoning 111 when you're concerned about a baby being unwell is bad advice. They at least have a bit more accountability than a random poster on Mumsnet.

There's terrible advice, and very good one. Adults should have a minimum of intelligence to take everything with a pinch of salt and check and double check every advice they want to follow.

It's still very interesting to read various opinion and get directed towards something you would never have thought about.

You might recent excellent advice, but you disagree with that, which is fair enough. There's not one way to parent or do anything, so you might disagree with a poster. It doesn't make them wrong.

The worst ones are threads with pretty much unanimous advice, completely wrong and illegal but the one lonely poster who comes up with the legal and right answer gets absolutely slaughtered because the idiots in the majority on that thread don't like it. The amount of answers does not make them correct. Some people seem to forget that.

Whenever I attempt to explain anything about speech and language development or linguistics, I'm usually ignored. It is quite frustrating.

I know derxa. If it's anything more subtle and complicated (and interesting) than a yes/no black/white simple stereotype, people just refuse to understand it. Then they have the cheek to get offended if you then further explain, in good faith, what you were on about.

and they wonder how Trump got elected

80% of people give bad advice and 20% give good advice

Sounds about right, but weirdly, the good advice often gets ignored, while the OP thanks the posters of factually incorrect advice for their help .

My favourite advice is for any woman struggling to work and juggle childcare and the household; “you need to start your own business or work from home”. Like why didn’t I think of that? I’d never need to get up at 5am to catch the train into London for work, pay a childminder for wrap around care, miss a school assembly again! Am I an idiot or what?!

Calling 111 about a health issue is far more sensible than asking random posters on Mumsnet but not half as attention-seeking interesting.

Child been given a reading book you consider wrong? Demand to see the teacher, write to Ofsted copying in the chairman of governors...