To think DHs sister is a bridezilla?

[ReginaGeorge2nd]

If I’m honest...we have never got on. As a matter of fact, I have never got on with his entire family but that’s a thread in itself.

She is getting married in April and has requested me to:

1. Not to wear a wig (my hair is super thin and balding and makes me super uncomfortable so I tend to wear proper, human hair wigs in public/to occasions- I’m talking a decent one, not a green Mohawk from the joke shop)
2. Wear a dress of her choosing (not a bridesmaid or part of the wedding party in any form) because she doesn’t like my “fashion sense”. I don’t dress like a cheap hooker, but I’m not a fussy old fashioned type either

As DH has insisted I’m part of the wedding photos she feels she has a right to demand these things

AIBU?

or you can say you wont wear the wig and wear extensions instead! She didn't say anything about them.

Go NC but before that go to the wedding wearing your wig and whatever you choose as an outfit. Do not engage in further discussion about what anyone will be wearing. This will be a parting kick in the teeth to this absolute cunt.

Are you serious?? I always wonder if these posts are made up or exaggerated -are there actually people who do things like this?

It's just plain cruel to tell you not to wear a wig and ridiculous to tell you what to wear. I'd be tempted to tell her fuck off but if that will rock to
boat too much perhaps just make up a reason not to go..?

Oh my f@£&zing god! Yes! She is a total bridezilla and a complete twat! I wouldn’t go

_7salmonswimming

I’d go as Marie Antoinette

Do this!

Tell her to get fucked OP. She sounds like a twat.

I was a bit of a bridezilla and said to people they darent wear white on my wedding day. My DH's cousin wore white 🙃 did I care on the actual day? Absolutely not.

She needs to get a grip.

Tell her to F. off, she can stuff her wedding.

No way should you agree to this. What a cruel and shallow woman.

Tell her to fuck off!!!

These people are total bastards. Cruel, unkind and thick as shit.

However, this stuck out doesn’t want to tarnish their view of me further etc

The fact that DH thinks you standing up to your SIL after a batshit request like this would "tarnish their view" in any valid way is a problem.

I hope he means it and he will side with you because you do not deserve any of this.

Tell her you don't feel comfortable at an important event like this without your wig -- she is awful for being so insensitive about that, and it's none of her business anyway. And ask her what kind of dress she would like you to wear. Maybe she thinks you will choose something in a style that doesn't fit with the other family members' look. Just say you are looking for a dress and what parameters does she want to suggest regarding colour and length.

I was a little hurt by what both of my SILs wore to my wedding (my brothers' sisters) I thought they were both wildly underdressed for a "dinner jackets optional" wedding. One wore black trousers and a black turtleneck jumper. The other wore a calf length straight grey skirt with a lighter grey silk shirt on top, untucked. It looked like office garb. I was (still am!) fond of both of them, and it hurt that they appeared not to have thought about what they were wearing until they packed their suitcases to come. I was certainly being oversensitive, because people read all kinds of things into how other people treat their wedding, and like me, they overreact to any perceived slight. So it sounds like your SIL is trying to head off something that might piss her off every time she looks at the family photo. So I would try to comply with her dress wishes if they are reasonable, i.e. if she asks you to wear the same length and colour family as other women in the family.

brothers' wives!

What about your pubes? Does she want you Brazilian or Hollywood? Tell her to get to fuck, either way.

I would compromise by finding several dress options you like and allowing the bride to decide which dress she would prefer. Beyond that she can shove it.

I wonder what sort of outfit she’s thinking to pick for you! Don’t think it’d be anything hideous - you’ll be in her photos?!
Cheeky cow.

Turn up in white, that'll shake things up

Tell her to go forth and multiple!! I could have not cared a tinkers cuse what anyone wore a my wedding as long as they tried there best and but there best self forward that was good enough for me. And to be truthfully they all scrubbed up rather well in there own way!!

She’s just fucking RUDE.

As someone who suffers with Alopecia Areata, I can only style my hair certain ways to cover the bald patches when I have them. If someone told me I had to have my hair a certain way (for a wedding I was only a guest for) that meant I felt uncomfortable and upset for the day then I just wouldn’t go to their wedding. Nobody has the right to make me feel that way.

And choosing your dress because she doesn’t like your fashion sense? What??? She only gets to choose outfits of those in the bridal party. Otherwise she can fuck off!

If I was in your shoes I just wouldn’t be going. And your DH should be telling her what a rude cow she is and that she has no business telling you what to wear to her wedding unless there is a specific dress code.

Do you really need to obey?

What would happen if you come wearing a wig and in a dress you choose?

Won't she let you be in family photos? Will she risk to turn you down? I doubt.

Just turn up looking your best for the sake of yourself and your family.

I wouldn't give a sh.t about her redicuous demands.

I would be getting a terrible headache that day.

I think l’ve heard it all now! Do you really want to be there, op? I’d be tempted to give it a miss totally. If she’s offering to buy you a dress I suppose you could take up that offer but wear your hair however you wish. It’s nobody’s business but yours.

Just wear what you like, don't be in the photo's and get your own family shoot done for yourselves.

Wow

I would give the middle finger by not going to her wedding AT ALL .
What a demanding cow.

I'm really sorry OP if this is real I really feel for you but I can't stop laughing reading that. I can't imagine a group of people where this kind of suggestion would even be entertained.

She is not a bridezilla. She is just a hideous person. Who does she think she is to tell you what to wear?

Either:

1. Don't go.
2. Go and wear whatever wig and outfit you want to wear.
3. Wear a bright green wig, bikini and hiking boots.