To ask about the worst wedding you’ve been too

[Whereisthecoffee]

I’m planning mine and I could just ask for tips but instead I’m going to procrastinate and read stories.
Please share your stories !

It's one day, you're not going to die of starvation.

I don't want the lasting memory of a wedding to be "Well, at least I didn't die of starvation".

I'd rather that be my lasting memory than "Remember that wedding day of my (so-called) friends where the food wasn't served quickly enough for my liking so my day was ruined, & therefore I'll bitch about their utter rudeness forevermore".

Remember that wedding day of my (so-called) friends where the food wasn't served quickly enough for my liking so my day was ruined, & therefore I'll bitch about their utter rudeness forevermore

At least there was food.

The local pub was full after with people (including family of B&G) from the wedding.

You know that the 2 canapes weren't enough when the MOB (poshly spoken woman dressed in an outfit that probably cost more than the wedding) couldn't wait for cutlery and was tucking into a ploughman's and chips with her fingers.

It's one day, you're not going to die of starvation.

lol surely people have higher standards for their wedding than not having their guests die of starvation? OP might want to actually give her guests a chance of enjoying her wedding. Few people will enjoy a wedding if they're starving hungry while their hosts spend two hours having a photo shoot.

Each to their own. If you want to attend a wedding & completely rip each detail of it to shreds whilst sitting at the table banging your knife & fork braying "why are we waiting", I hope you have a lovely time.

Come on! I doubt anyone would complain if the meal was served at 1:30 instead of 1. What is incredibly annoying though is when you ask a hundred odd people to go to some stately home in the middle of nowhere and only provide a tiny canapé to last them until 4pm. It just gives the impression you just want the guests there to act as extras in your film set wedding. Surely you should consider your guests a bit when making your plans and realise that they will need to eat.

What is incredibly annoying though is when you ask a hundred odd people to go to some stately home in the middle of nowhere and only provide a tiny canapé to last them until 4pm. It just gives the impression you just want the guests there to act as extras in your film set wedding

Actually having been an extra in a film set I can say you get fed really well

I went to a wedding recently where everything was in the hotel so it was fab all the guests stayed in the hotel
We had breakfast in the hotel then went out to the beach for a few hours for a walk then back to our room for a sneaky nap
Then back for the ceremony pretty much straight after ceremony was pictures and then dinner
Food was amazing a carvery with loads of choice
Bar was not expensive and plenty of free wine and bottled water on each table

@TopicalUseOnly three great points

At the majority of weddings you get a meal, is it so hard to just WAIT until it's ready? Without bitching about how long it's taking? Try enjoying yourselves instead, that might take your minds off your starving hungry stomachs for an hour or 2.

At the majority of weddings you get a meal, is it so hard to just WAIT until it's ready? Without bitching about how long it's taking?

Because it's a bit miserable to wait for hours with nothing to do when you're starving. Is it really that difficult to actually feed your guests? Almost anyone will not mind waiting a reasonable amount of time for their lunch they understand things go wrong catering for so many but I've been to weddings where it was actually planned that way. Wedding was at 11pm in a kind of castle type place (nowhere to even buy food). There was literally no food provided until 4pm which was then delayed and came out about 5pm. It was a buffet type thing (external caterers) and really not enough for the number of people there (despite the fact a few had already left to find food - at least half an hour drive away). Nothing else provided for the rest of the night. The reception was meant to go until late but most people left early.

No one said anything to the bride and groom but it did mean people didn't have a nice time at the wedding. OP specifically asked about weddings people went to and didn't enjoy so people have given examples of weddings they didn't enjoy. Would you prefer people lied and pretended they had a lovely time?

Sorry was meant to write wedding planned for 11am.

Should also mention at that wedding after the actual ceremony there was literally hours of no entertainment - every one waiting around while various people were called to have their photo taken at various location around the grounds. Everyone else was just waiting around - no music, no drinks set up yet (there was a water cooler in the venue but that was it).

IMO it is the absolute height of fucking bad manners for the B&G to piss off for hours for a poncy photo shoot. If you invite people to a function you are holding ie. your wedding, then it is incumbent upon you as hosts to actually give some thought to said guests comfort and enjoyment. Why is it seemingly so difficult for these bride and groomzillas to understand this?

ghostyslovesheets and I clearly went to the same wedding!! Tee total Christians with no alcohol and pot luck food. I was fuming as we had booked a hotel and could have driven home, stone cold sober!

HaveNoSocks good grief, sounds like a waiting room at the dentists!

If you invite people to a function you are holding i.e. your wedding, then it is incumbent upon you as hosts to actually give some thought to said guests comfort and enjoyment.
I think that this is a problem because the rules have changed. It used to be that bride's parents were the hosts and B&G were guests of honour. The parents could be strict over timings/guest lists/etc, where necessary. Now the B&G are trying to be simultaneous hosts and guests of honour and it doesn't really work.

Just don't go to weddings if you hate brides & grooms so much. Stay at home, you can eat all the food you like there. Although granted, it's not free. Can be shovelled in as frequently & quickly as you like though, at least.

It isn’t free to be a guest at a wedding.

Don't go then

That's such a strange attitude! The main priority for me was delicious food and great wine, so I kept my list to 40 people. It was so much fun because I got to properly interact with people and enjoyed their company all day and night. All I wanted was to have people I love around me on an important day and for them to enjoy themselves.

I think it's a cultural thing. It seems a very English peculiarity to make your own guests suffer at your wedding.

One where I knew nobody, my partner wasn't invited and I wasn't told we had to travel somewhere between venues for photographs. I didn't drive so had to ask some random people I didn't know if I could have a lift with them
Reception was a toddler party style buffet and 2 bottles of wine per table of 20 guests
It was all over by 5.30 so I met a friend and went out and got very drunk!!

! Tee total Christians with no alcohol and pot luck food. I was fuming as we had booked a hotel and could have driven home, stone cold sober!

Quite taken aback by the amount of people who simply cannot function at a social event without getting drunk.

I haven't been to any bad weddings but there was one where there was no chemistry between bride and groom so it ended in a year.
There was another one held at the brides home somewhere rural and i underestimated the drive there. We were camping in the garden but there was no shower som had to go home after a crappy strip wash following a long hot day.
There was anothwr one but due to an ambiguous invite we and most of the other people found that there was a bit in the middle missing where only the B and G families had a meal, leaving us in our posh clothes to amuse ourselfs in a provincial town for a few hours.

I think it was really just a case as pp havr said of inexperience in event organizing rather than ego.

@MaryLouFreebush

I could equally say to you don't have a wedding if you don't care about your guests and whether or not they have a nice time. Just go and elope then you won't have to feed anyone at all. If you invite people to an event which lasts all day you have to feed them. Surely you realise that most people won't have a nice time if they're starving hungry.

I haven't been to any bad weddings but there was one where there was no chemistry between bride and groom so it ended in a year

I have been to weddings where the marriage hasn’t survived the honeymoon so a year isn’t bad.

One guy took his briefcase on honeymoon and worked each day.

Everyone in the office thought he was mad as he didn’t need to work as everything ran smoothly without him anyway.

His wife flew back after 5 days and filed for divorce.

Everyone had warned her he would do this.