To ask about the worst wedding you’ve been too

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I’m planning mine and I could just ask for tips but instead I’m going to procrastinate and read stories.
Please share your stories !

@smallhorse don’t be daft. Food yes, but all drinks all night I would never expect

God loads of people on this thread just sound like greedy pigs who only go to weddings to scoff their fill of free food!

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From reading this it sounds like the British need to stand up for themselves. I agree many wedding are ill thought through and rubbish - particularly hanging around after the ceremony and then being fed rubbish.
Why are ‘we’ all going along with it?

Smallhorse

Weddings have become so tacky, like a cheap child’s birthday party. Tat on tables and chairs to try and disguise the fact the venue isn’t very nice to start with, games and time fillers because it’s BORING, one drink each (somebody counts???!) and buses provided... seriously?

Come on, if you start thinking along the lines of “what shall we give them to do for three hours...” you’ve gone wrong with the planning.

Quality not quantity.

Spend the same money, have a personalised meal by a great chef in a wonderful location with a dozen people. Make it a day/night that none of that 12 would ever forget rather than one that 200 people snigger about for the next few months.

Castle venue in Scotland in between Christmas and new year, difficult to find, had to borrow a car as no public transport or local taxi. Went on my own as DH stayed with DD who was 2 at the time.

Venue cold, think big draughty hall. Table in a U shape and I was sitting in between 2 couples who chatted to themselves throughout the meal, I couldn't wait to leave. Had about 5 mins chat with the bride then headed off.

Woke up to food poisoning at 3am then again the next day.

We got married in summer and it was a lovely warm day. For the part between day and night do our hotel set up an outside bar and we had bought loads of giant garden games, naughts and crosses, Jenga, chess etc. They went down a storm! Nobody wanted to come inside for the night do so they brought all the games inside too!

cricketmum84 Sorry that’s my idea of hell!

Don't get your seven-year-old sister to play Ave Maria very badly on the clarinet. That is all.

cricketmum84 Sorry that’s my idea of hell!

I think it sounds fun!!

@Planetmn haha nobody was forced to play any games!! They were just out on the grass for anyone who wanted to play. And most did...

Make it a day/night that none of that 12 would ever forget rather than one that 200 people snigger about for the next few months.

You clearly know some not very nice people if that’s how you think people typically behave in that situation.

Don't get your seven-year-old sister to play Ave Maria very badly on the clarinet. That is all.

Unless it went on for an hour or so you are being very mean spirited here. I'd love to see somebody's seven year old sister being included in the service!

God loads of people on this thread just sound like greedy pigs who only go to weddings to scoff their fill of free food! confused

God, yes, such greedy pigs, expecting a bit of food to an event they've been invited to that's over a meal time that they've travelled to, bought a gift for. These twats! They should just be grateful the bride and groom deigned to allow them to witness their Wedding of All Weddings and cough up some cash in gratitude.

can spot the bridezillas on this thread getting twitchy

Early thirsties .** Apt on many levels.

aethelgifu

I just can't believe the amount of people who seemingly can't go more than a few hours without being fed.
Or those who find the gap between the ceremony & the meal so terrible that they feel the need to mercilessly slag off the bride/groom (who are presumably their friends or family) about it. Horrible.

marylou - of course people can go for a few hours without eating, but let's consider a timeline, such as the one I experienced.
1.Ceremony is at 12.30, everyone seated by 12. To get there in time and find somewhere to park, leave home at 10. Get ready about 9.30, so breakfast latest about 9.

1. Ceremony finishes about 1.30. Photographs outside the Church for a bit. B&G leave for reception first, everyone else leaves about 2.15.
2. Arrive at Reception venue about 2.45. Champagne, canapes etc. B&G are off into the grounds with the photographer until about 5.30

4.6pm sit down for meal.

I didn't want to eat in the car, for fear of making a mess in my lovely suit.
I would have had some crisps or something while waiting for the photos, but nobody knew how long it was going to take. I kept thinking ' they'll be in shortly, surely'
So yeah. Making guests wait for food is rude. Taking food with you would also be rude (but next time, I will)

It's one day, you're not going to die of starvation.
It wouldn't ruin my day, I'd be more interested in enjoying myself & celebrating a happy occasion than obsessing over what I was getting to eat & when.

It's one day, you're not going to die of starvation

When you are using leisure time and leisure money you could use to go out for dinner or have a trip to the theatre or, for destination weddings, take a three day city break, not dying of starvation seems a rather low threshold of pleasure.

LOL! We can well tell the bridezillas here. It's all about the b&g, if guest are uncomfortable, fuck 'em, they're just greedy (but hand over a gift).

Lemoneeza Yep!

Maybe I am being a bit mercenary but 1 glass of orange juice for a wedding that lasted 75 minutes from start to finish isn't exactly a celebration.

Especially as I had spent £25 on my share of a present and my weekly wage was only £50.

B&G had sold it as a big do in a very posh country club.

When you are being asked to leave at 10.45am by members of staff because they needed to set the table for lunch time and the most that anyone had was 2 canapes and 1 glass of bubbly you feel pretty cheated.

Nah, you should never invite people to any big celebratoin and have it cost them a fortune in bar bills. .
Your party, you pay

Ha well I'm clearly in the minority here!

Each to their own. If you want to attend a wedding & completely rip each detail of it to shreds whilst sitting at the table banging your knife & fork braying "why are we waiting", I hope you have a lovely time.

I'm not a 'bridezilla', I'm married but we didn't actually have a wedding (the absolute height of bad manners, I'm sure). Because we knew we'd never please everyone, & apparently for the bride & groom to please themselves in any way is disgusting behaviour. I'm so glad we didn't bother because it seems the majority of people are just horrible when it comes to weddings.