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Do your teenager's bedrooms look like this?

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thingersandfumbs · 14/01/2019 17:44

Just that really. My teenage DD lives in an utter shit pit.

So, aibu to care? For context, DP encountered our dog with a used sanitary towel in his mouth a few weeks ago, from DD's shit tip.

I'm no clean and tidy queen, I promise you that, but to me this is unacceptable. Aibu?

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practicallyperfectmummy · 14/01/2019 18:06

Wow that's not just mess and if she's leaving sanitary pads about then it's very unclean and a germ pit. Totally unacceptable and she needs to step it up, everyone expects a bit of mess and disorder but that looks disgusting and she is showing the household no respect.

Dimsumlosesum · 14/01/2019 18:06

Heave.

Who the fuck does she think she is? She's treating your house like a shit pit. She needs that training out of her sharpish.

Chinks123 · 14/01/2019 18:07

Imagine if she had friends round was referring to your dd, I’m guessing she doesn’t bring people back? How would they even find somewhere to sit in there.

summersoonplease · 14/01/2019 18:07

I clean for a family , I have to admit when I first saw the picture I thought it was the house I clean at 😂😂. It's each to there own I guess , my dd is a teenager and she has moments of this , I have a fit, throw a bin bag on her bed chuck the hoover in there and slam the door and say clear your shit up! Usually works , I've told her when she has her own place I'm going to have a shower leave blobs of conditioner down the tiles , suck the taps with toothpaste in my mouth, have a poo and not flush before her boss arrives, kick my muddy shoes off in the hall way and drop my bag so she can break her neck then I'll have a bath with fake tan and not rinse it afterwards 😂😂 bloody nightmare!!

UterusUterusGhali · 14/01/2019 18:08

My daughter's wasn't far off for a while.
It's much better recently since she's been at college (and got a boyf).
I bought her a nice desk which has inspired her to keep it nice.

Heratnumber7 · 14/01/2019 18:08

Normal here. I shut the door on the mess. Until I run out of plates/forks/mugs/whatever then I go in with a bin bag.

helpmum2003 · 14/01/2019 18:09

Unused STs are unacceptable.

We ban food and drink upstairs other than water.

Younger teens I have helped tidy if they request.

If the room isn't acceptable to you change WiFi code until it is.

O4FS · 14/01/2019 18:09

Not normal. Does she need space to study? I’d be worried about what’s going on in her head for her to not mind living in that mess. She’s probably just stopped seeing it though.

If it were me, i’d go in and sort it,
Insisting she helps. I think it’s gone too far for her to do it on her own, and she’s half a chance of keeping on top of it if you give her a head start.

chaplin1409 · 14/01/2019 18:09

Wow that is a mess. I have 4 teens 3 girls in one room so very limited space and it's never ever looked like that. My son eats in his room but again it does not look like that.

DialsMavis · 14/01/2019 18:10

No my DS is much tidier than me... Not cleaner but tidier. He doesn't dust voluntarily and need a prompt to change his sheets . But he doesn't leave his stuff everywhere and looks after his clothes etc

Janleverton · 14/01/2019 18:10

No - my dd has generally got a pretty tidy room. Sometimes a few clothes on a chair waiting to be washed. Even ds1 (13) keeps on top of the rubbish/plates/cups etc. Sod that - even ds2 (9) does.

ShortandSweet96 · 14/01/2019 18:10

Mine did, intact worse than that, it was shin deep in absolute shit, occasionally find food rotting and cups moulding. Would also have called my mother a moaning bitch. Im 22 and I've moved out now and have no-one to clean my house for me if I leave it long enough (which was my way of thinking when I was a teen at home). I'm now MUCH tidier. In fact I cannot stand mess anymore, especially downstairs. I occasionally get a build up of dirty clothes or clothes left on the vainty desk in my bedroom but we're talking pyjamas and a jumper/pair of jeans from the day before. Not my entire wardrobe!

She will either grow out of it. Or you have to put up with this until she buys her own house!

PivotPivotPivottt · 14/01/2019 18:11

My room was like this it was disgusting. I couldn't have friends or my boyfriend round. It spiralled out of control and I used to stay out of the house to avoid it as I didn't know where to start with cleaning it. I moved out at 19 and my parents were left to clean it they were disgusted. I'm absolutely mortified about it and ashamed of myself for leaving them to deal with it. I changed my ways as soon as I moved out and can't believe I used to live like this.

MrDarcyWillBeMine · 14/01/2019 18:11

Sorry I should have been more constructive - it’s just it doesn’t look like your DD has very much floor space and everything is a bit ‘cramped’ - most likely due to the amount of funtiture in a small ish room!

Fair enough that’s the situation but I think the mess looks significantly worse because of this! In my humble opinion you need to cut some slack for that! If you put this level of mess into a room twice the size it wouldn’t look anywhere near as bad!

O4FS · 14/01/2019 18:11

I’ll never understand why they eat in their rooms. My DS does it. Weird.

fleshmarketclose · 14/01/2019 18:12

No I wouldn't allow that in my house tbh. Yes it's occasionally messy but dd gets told to tidy it up. I clean in there once a week and if it's not tidy enough for me to clean then she has to lean it herself to my standards immediately. She ensures it is tidy to avoid having to clean tbh.

13Crows · 14/01/2019 18:13

I'm ashamed to say my bedroom was like that when I was a teenager. I now have a 15 year old son who is much tidier than I was.

Bezalelle · 14/01/2019 18:13

Horrific. Looks like a photo I once saw of a hoarder's house before it was gutted!

Jenb2104 · 14/01/2019 18:14

No way would I allow a room to be in that state in my house. Disgusting and not 'normal'.

malovitt · 14/01/2019 18:14

I really wouldn't stand for that. I would go in and clean/tidy it myself. Absolutely no food allowed in bedrooms in my house as well.

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OneForTheRoadThen · 14/01/2019 18:15

Mine looked like this (minus the sanitary towels which is truly vile) 🙈

Omzlas · 14/01/2019 18:15

YANBU

That's minging Envy

ShortandSweet96 · 14/01/2019 18:15

OP. I know it sounds harsh but when my room did look like this at home.
On a couple of occasions I can home and and my room was spotless.. but I could t find anything.

My mum had binned whatever was on my floor, whether it was clothes, shoes, bags. She binned it all. Gone. I did learn y2k less and kept it tidy for a much longer time and then not half as messy after that.

Bin her things and teach her if she treats her room like a bin you'll take it all to the tip.

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thingersandfumbs · 14/01/2019 18:18

I'm not sure in what world a 12 x 8 bedroom is small. I live in a perfectly average post war semi. It's a perfectly average room. If she had one twice the size it would almost certainly be twice as messy.

Thanks everyone. I'll be getting this removed shortly.

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