Do your teenager's bedrooms look like this?

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Just that really. My teenage DD lives in an utter shit pit.

So, aibu to care? For context, DP encountered our dog with a used sanitary towel in his mouth a few weeks ago, from DD's shit tip.

I'm no clean and tidy queen, I promise you that, but to me this is unacceptable. Aibu?

that's what my daughters side table looks like annoys the hell out of me

My DD's room is not quite as bad as that OP, but it is fairly disgusting.

I insist that food items and mugs are removed on a daily basis and if she were to leave used period stuff out that would have to be removed too (thankfully she never has) - as I can justify all of that both on health grounds and also the selfishness of hoarding mugs in her room. Other than that I allow her to wallow in her own squalor. It is her room and if that is how she wants her space to be, then that's her decision. Other than that she is polite, has good manners, does all her school work etc, so I don't see her skanky room as anything to worry about.

I was really messy as a teenager and my room in halls of residence was legendary for it's mess and now I'm absurdly tidy and organised. Not sure how, why or when that happened!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

For the most part I was always a great believer in shutting the door. However when things got to an impasse and said teen refused to clear it, I have been known to bin bag everything and more or less confiscate it. I had a friend who threw it out of the window into the garden. There are limits of slatternly living that are a bit too much

My room was unbelievably disgusting when I was a teenager. Clothes all over the floor, never cleaned. Just grim.

Now I am in my thirties I am a total neat freak and hate any kind of mess and clutter.

So I grew out of it.

This is utterly vile. It’s one thing to be messy but this is just unhygienic. Throw a bin bag at her and some disinfectant spray and tell her to get on with it

My mum would never have allowed this, way too house proud.
I was a little more laid back & yes, my teenagers rooms were like this ( minus the sanitary thing ) I’d go in every so often and give it a good clean & tidy up.

I did lose it with sons, nothing like this, but a floordrobe. I put everything in bin bags, opened the bedroom windows and threw out the bags. I then wiped, dusted, hoovered and changed the bed.

I do think they have so many clothes. I get them to go through their wardrobes as I do and say Keep/charity/bin. Last effort filled two bin bags for charity shop. They were clean when I took them.

I'm really sorry but who the hell is saying this is normal. Bin bag everything up, chuck it in the garage/garden/in proximity to the bin. You and her clean it top to toe. Get her to sort the bin bags one by one. She can't rummage to find what she needs ie. make up, phone, other essential teenage item.
Wifi off until it's done.
Sorry but you've allowed this ........ good luck OP!

At 18 I would have thought she should have some level of respect for her own space (and hygiene for that matter) by now. My dd is 14 & can be a bit lazy when it comes to tidying her bedroom but it's never got near this (wouldn't allow food or drinks upstairs anyway). Is she scared of spiders? Tell her if she doesn't clear up, she's creating a welcome haven for them!

That is disgusting.

Actually id be giving her 3 or 4 hours to get it sorted and anything keft.on floor etc would be going in the bin. And id follow it through

I can't believe anyone has allowed it to get in that state..
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Playing devils advocate. I see some drawers, but no wardrobe space in this room.

Teenagers rooms evolve, they need new/more storage. So many extra hangars. Perhaps empty the room, then shopping for a hanging space, boxes etc. You can both go to Aldi, Home Bargains, B&m or whatever you have in your area for inexpensive storage.

If when you have decluttered there is nowhere to put the stuff you are back to square one in no time.

Justasking111 I said upthread, she has a double wardrobe. She has enough storage to store everything she owns. She just doesn't use it.

Op:
I mean this in the nicest possible way, are you generally untidy yourself?

Reminds me of my teenage bedroom

Actually after looking at the rest of the pics it's 10x worse than my bedroom as a teenager

Bag it all up a d chuck it ALL in the bin..
She won't do it again.

I blame Primark etc. they come home with a carrier bag of crap, which they wear and discard.

That is putrid!!!!! Honestly, me and my friends were all messy but honestly, Jesus Christ not that bad at all!!!! There must be stuff growing 🤮

I was (by far) the messiest person I knew as a teen and it was maybe, maybe 1/4th of this and certainly not a health hazard with food and used sanitary products! That’s beyond vile.

My sister (early 20s) lives with my folks and you can’t see the floor. It’s literally not been hovered in years. The house has a damp problem anyway, and there’s no way for the air to circulate so there’s a mould problem. How she still has functional lungs between that and the dust mites I don’t know.

God that’s disgusting. The mess is one thing, but the lack of cleanliness (used sanitary towels and old food) on top is something else. Ive seen mess but never to that level in me, siblings or friends when we were teenagers. Sorry I’ve no suggestions, I’d be at my wits end too. Am following thread in anticipation of teenage years.

I think I’d tell her I was booking a cleaner to do a one off deep clean of her room (at her cost). Anything that hasn’t been put away before the cleaner came would be binned.

Give her bin bag and tell her to sort it or else everything on the floor is going in the bin.