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Phone bugged

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Beingspiedon · 13/01/2019 07:43

(Posting for traffic) I would really appreciate any help or advice anyone can give me as I don’t even know where to start right now.

Have a very bad relationship with PIL. Found out a few years ago they hired a private investigator on me. I found out because I overheard a conversation between PIL when they were drunk but they don’t know I’ve heard them.

Over the years since our relationship deteriorated, I’ve had a few cases where they’ve said things they shouldn’t know. I’ve always put it down to coincidence but recently my fil has word for word quoted two of my telephone conversations with my sister and he should have absolutely have no way of knowing any of it. He also got warning “looks” from mil when he said these things.

I can’t speak to anyone IRL about this in case I am being paranoid or I look crazy. If my phone is bugged then a lot of things that have happened over the last few years make sense. Is there anything I can do to find out if someone has access to
Personal information on my phone? Can anyone give me advice on this?

OP posts:
thebabysmellsofpooagain · 14/01/2019 20:52

@Beingspiedon glad to hear from you and know you are ok.

Please get this sorted ASAP! Xx

Cauliflowersqueeze · 14/01/2019 20:52

How horrible.

Any sting I did would be set up to really upset PIL.

“Yes I know, but MIL doesn’t want to tell him at the moment. Yes....yes... I know it’s so sad...and it’s spread too.... well they weren’t exact - around 6-9 months?.....yes well what can I do about it? No she was so adamant that it was to be kept totally confidential....”

BubblestarUK · 14/01/2019 20:59

What a terrifying time OP, I really hope you are ok.

Superheroessidekick · 14/01/2019 21:01

The visit sounds like way too much of a coincidence. Maybe they know you are onto them and want to remove the bug?

kezzy13 · 14/01/2019 21:21

If they've got loads of money ask if you can borrow some to pay someone to check your home cause you have reason to believe a psycho is stalking you!

Florries · 14/01/2019 21:23

Does anyone know if there is actually a law on this?

JiltedJohnsJulie · 14/01/2019 21:37

Also if someone genuinely does have mental health problems probably not a good idea to attack them - you don’t know what’s going on in that persons rl.

Exactly Thanks

Sb74 · 14/01/2019 21:40

Read some of the thread. Can’t you ask the police to check your home? I wouldn’t hesitate if you think your privacy is being compromised. It’s against the law to do what they’re doing.

Wallywobbles · 14/01/2019 21:46

I think you need to set up a way of working out if it's the phone or house. Do outside of house phone Australian embassy about moving.

Inside house away from phone have conversations about moving to Singapore.

Battytwatty · 14/01/2019 22:22

READ THE FUCKING THREAD FFS!!

all your ‘original ‘ suggestions have been mentioned ages ago

MonkeyPieMama · 14/01/2019 22:23

Omg this is just awful. Hope you get to the bottom of it OP. Flowers

Foslady · 14/01/2019 22:50

Another one wondering about them coming to change batteries as well as removal of a device.
If they call round, ensure you are both there, try to ensure they are never left alone

Cauliflowersqueeze · 14/01/2019 22:52

This snooping around and prying - it’s practically an illness

Kate0902900908 · 14/01/2019 23:18

Search your home for a small black box - it has a SIM card in it and they can ring it and hear everything your saying / doing
Go room by room moving furniture check every corner.
This has happened to me, sisters ex husband bugged our home after she left him, he knew everything ... we found box duct taped to under the sofa!!

Cauliflowersqueeze · 14/01/2019 23:28

You’re JOKING!!! 😦

TheSandgroper · 14/01/2019 23:42

I am sorry to contribute but I have just read this and think it may be more food for thought mobile.abc.net.au/news/2018-10-01/drones-used-to-stalk-women-in-new-age-of-harassment/10297906

Canary123 · 14/01/2019 23:48

Please keep us updated op, you must feel terrible,I hope you get to the bottom of this.its scary, can happen to anyone.

He1pme · 14/01/2019 23:49

Hi, your situation sounds dreadful... I've been here with my fil it's aggressive behaviour but in away that makes you feel like your going mad... Look at gifts given to you from them as it could be hidden in one the device will need power so gadgets, lamps ECT a device can be very small so look closely at any item given that uses mains power. It will be a tiny dot, but when spotted will be out of place. This really can be the only way if they are not regular visitors to your home. Is there a room your in when conversations have been heard as This is the room you need to check. As for mobile go into apps and downloads delete any you don't know or disabled them. Then put advast or another security app on your phone to protect yourself. Your not crazy just stay strong... just check all gifts to you and children from them.... crazy does happen it's just hard to believe....

123deepbreath · 15/01/2019 00:30

They sound slightly unhinged in all honesty even if they haven't bugged your house or phone due to their past behaviour!

Dillydallyer · 15/01/2019 05:20

Wow, they sound absolutely awful. Even without the potential bugging they sound like awful people. I’m glad your DH is willing to have it all looked into. And definitely agree total NC is the way to go

BlueLuna · 15/01/2019 06:12

Have you checked the dog she made??

GrandmaSteglitszch · 15/01/2019 07:24

Only speak about it when you are in the open, away from the house and car, and without your phone so there's less chance of them knowing that you suspect.

If they haven't realised, the Feb visit could be to remove something or to plant something new.

I hope the security search sorts things out for you.

BadAsMe · 15/01/2019 07:28

This article on how to sweep for bugs from Wired magazine is interesting. www.wired.com/story/how-to-sweep-for-bugs/.

If I were you, and if it was affordable, I'd hire an expert to come and do a sweep.

GrandmaSteglitszch · 15/01/2019 07:29

You think SiL knows because She practically jumped out of her skin left the conversation she was in and said what do you mean followed tell me all about it absolutely everything I need to hear this.

But do you think she may actually wonder if she is being spied on, given her parents' previous behaviour?

Alittlefiercebutsassy · 15/01/2019 07:37

@beingspiedon about 8 years ago sil had some kind of bug that was ordered off line, all you had to do is put it somewhere and phone a unique number and it activated it and you could hear what was getting said where it was. Maybe they have put something like this in your house? Also
Last year husband went missing (mental health) police wouldn’t access his phone till he had been missing for 12 hours, sil bf husband is a PI all he needed was his phone number to find out the last time he used his phone and where he was.
Definitely get your house swept, hope you get it sorted soon. 💐

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