To feel sad for the guy in the paternity fraud case

[moanymoaner]

Was watching it on GMB this morning and he was teary , I feel sad for him . I can't imagine finding out when the kids were older that they weren't yours! I get that the boys are standing with their mum but surely they must be feeling cross with her lies :( all such a mess for them :(

[Sonneedshelp]

@MulticolourMophead where did you read about her using contraception with he "affair"?

[Ali1cedowntherabbithole]

Channels Mrs Merton.

I wonder why the wife didn't divorce her (allegedly) terrible and infertile, Millionaire Husband?

[floribunda18]

There are also a number of misogynistic posts. Mothers should all be subjected to paternity testing etc.

[DioneTheDiabolist]

I had previously said had he known the boys weren't his, he could have walked away and had another family. A poster responded saying that he couldn't as he was infertile. I was pointing out that sometimes the tests results aren't that accurate.

[floribunda18]

I wonder why the wife didn't divorce her (allegedly) terrible and infertile, Millionaire Husband?

Presumably he accrued most of his fortune after they were married, which is why she was awarded a substantial amount in the divorce settlement.

[floribunda18]

he could have walked away and had another family.

I can't imagine if my DDs had been swapped at birth, and I found out that I wasn't their biological mum, that I'd turn around and say "See ya!" then.

[midsomermurderess]

Mandatory DNA testing for all births is such a gross invasion of individuals' privacy that the proposition is astonishing. Do people ever think through the things they so casually throw out, like this?

[Butchyrestingface]

I wonder why the wife didn't divorce her (allegedly) terrible and infertile, Millionaire Husband?

She didn't know he was infertile.

I was thinking something similar though, along the lines of "had the roles been reserved, so that husband was some penniless forklift driver and the real baby daddy was a multi-squillionare, would the wife have been quite so happy to pass the offspring off as the children of the marriage or would her fog as to the paternity have lifted that bit quicker?"

Answers on a postcard, please.

[PlumpSyrianHamster]

I agree, OP, and with Soup, but on MN a man is supposed to be grateful and the bigger person and should have just carried on with open arms because biology doesn't matter.

[Butchyrestingface]

There are also a number of misogynistic posts. Mothers should all be subjected to paternity testing etc.

I agree. No need for that. All you need is some form of redress for men who find themselves in this situation. And it is an extreme example, this woman did it not once but three times.

[floribunda18]

There already is a form of redress. He is pursuing it.

[floribunda18]

gold-digging gash

You're lovely aren't you?

[Butchyrestingface]

There already is a form of redress. He is pursuing it.

So no need for mandatory DNA testing.

Will be interesting to see if he gets anywhere.

[DeltaG]

I think it's an apt description of her.

[DeltaG]

Possibly over-generous, in fact.

[Butchyrestingface]

gold-digging gash

You're lovely aren't you?

I did wonder if that last word had another meaning I wasn't familiar with. Looks like the answer is no.

[blueshoes]

I am divided on this. Good points on both sides. That said, he is on his third wife. Not quite the poster boy for a successful relationship.

[DeltaG]

It's a disgusting term, so therefore accurately used here to describe a disgusting creature.

[Butchyrestingface]

I am divided on this. Good points on both sides. That said, he is on his third wife. Not quite the poster boy for a successful relationship.

What's that got to do with him being deceived in such a terrible way?

[OopsInamechangedagain]

How many people put up with toxic parents/relations when they shouldn't for no other reason that they feel obligated because of blood ties? Of course biology matters - the tie is very strong.

[ChariotsofFish]

DeltaG, is there any reason you’ve come to a female dominated space to spout your misogynist bullshit? There are plenty of male spaces on the internet for you to gain validation.

[Butchyrestingface]

It's a disgusting term, so therefore accurately used here to describe a disgusting creature.

So, if a black person, or a gay person, did something horrible, would it be okay for people to start using vile racist/homophobic epithets to describe them?

[saffkey1]

@MyDcAreMarvel I totally agree with you ,its the boys i feel sorry for,surely not biologically related doesn't stop his feelings?!
I had a friend who has a teen daughter,there was always dome speculation quietly but nothing ever said and he helped to co parent
He married when the girl was 7/8 and had another child,the new wife got wind of these 'rumours' and demanded a DNA,she could understand however when he said that even if she wasn't 'his' he wouldn't be dropping her.He loved her.Shes his daughter...turned out she actually WAS his daughter and the marriage went tits up,not sure all the reasons but that contributed.After all those years im hoping he still feels an emotional attachment/obligation to his kids.

[Auramigraine]

**Anyone defending/attempting to justify her behaviour is little better than she is. Utterly, utterly vile.

This.

I am in shock at anyone trying to justify this woman’s actions, I don’t care who he is or how he acts, to make him think he fathered 3 children for all these years is disgusting.