To know it's all gone wrong night before 12 week scan?

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I've had such a good gut feeling this entire pregnancy. Now my 12 week scan is tomorrow and I feel so numb because I just know the baby's dead. I know it's gone wrong. I can just sense it. All the threads I've read about mmc say that they just knew and that's exactly how I feel. The day before my scan. What a sick joke :( can these feelings ever be wrong? Sorry I know it doesn't belong here but posting for traffic I need answers or I'm going to do nothing other than cry all night. This can't be happening.

I had a very large bleed at this stage and just 'knew' for certain I had lost her, she's 22yrs now :)

Your brain is tricking you, trying to prepare you for the worst outcome. However your brain does not know that this is a fact.
Do something to distract you tonight, maybe watch a film? All the best for tomorrow !

Just sending all luck - i can only agree that this is all in your head at the moment, please be gentle with yourself, and hopefully all will be fine in the morning.

I had a MC and knew when the pregnancy was no longer viable. My doctor told me a lot of women can tell. With the next pregnancy I felt the same way, and the bleeding didn't help. A scan showed his heart beating and I was shocked. I was convinced he was dead and didn't want to look at the monitor. "There's the heart beat" my MW told me. "Who's, mine?" Said I. "No, your baby's" said she. It still makes me tear up and he's 30 years old now. I still love him as much as the first time I saw him.

You really can't tell unless you are cramping and gushing blood, which I assume not. I have had many scans and even after slight bleeding my dd was ok.

I felt exactly the same. Little girl is now 2.5 Have faith and I wish you the best tomorrow

I have 5 mc (have 2 children).

I hope you are just worried and it is not the case.

If you have HG which I have had in both my healthy pregnancies. Have you stopped being sick?

Many times through my second pregnancy I felt this way. I'd had all sorts of bleeding early on and when I went for the 12 week scan I was convinced there would be nothing there. He was a little bugger all through that pregnancy, he threatened to arrive at 24 weeks and they prepared a NICU bed for him. Then he changed his mind. Then he was breach and had to be turned. Then when he did arrive he came so fast my DH abandoned the car with the hazards on outside the delivery ward and didn't even get his coat off! Lots of love and good luck for tomorrow xx

I felt like this before my 12 week scan and everything was fine, hang in there OP

You poor thing- anxiety is so bloody awful. I’ll be thinking of you tomorrow morning. You’ve had such lovely responses from people who have felt the same way as you. It’s really interesting and reassuring to see others perspectives- I suffer terribly with anxiety so I totally get how you’re feeling.

Thank you all so much, feeling so much better, just got to get through the night. MN has its lovely moments doesn't it xx

It may be your brain trying to prepare yourself so if the worst happened it isn't such a shock - you're worried about it and it manifests as a feeling that something is wrong. I think it's very common and doesn't always mean anything. At this stage morning sickness can wear off, you've suddenly got more energy and feeling better but the baby is still tiny so you can't feel any movement and you've not put on any weight etc...you just don't feel pregnant any more even if things are fine. Just a few more hours to go until your scan. Good luck

I've felt so nervous before all off my scans. Had 2 because I was bleeding. Paid for a 3rd because I was panicking. And had my 12 week scan on the 31st. Everything was fine. I know that doesn't mean things will continue to be but for now I feel better.

All my pregnancy symptoms stopped dead at 12 weeks (I was 13 weeks on the day of my 12 week scan). Was terrified it meant something was wrong. I'd been very sick and suddenly felt fine.

I was utterly convinced DD was gone before the 12 week scan. I’d had a 6 week one because of a previous mc and I was convinced it had happened again. She’s was fine and is now 16 and taking her mocks. Hang in there and good luck for tomorrow

I had a big bleed at 10 weeks. Had to wait nearly a week for a scan. I just knew - currently snuggling him right now (he's nearly 5 months).

It's scary. We understand - good luck for tomorrow

Hopefully all of us will have reassured you.
I felt like it with all three of mine, many many women do.

I hope tomorrow goes well and you can come back and give us a happy update. Sure that will be the case 💐

Ah pregnancy hormones. Aren't they grand? I swear they are a form of madness. It was right around 12 weeks that I stopped feeling pregnant. My boobs calmed down. I didn't yet have a bump and I was convinced he was gone. I wouldn't look at the screen while they did the scan I was so convinced. He's 6 and reading me his reading book. Hang in there. 💐

Best of luck for the scan and please keep us posted!
I know it's not the same, but when pregnant with my eldest, I had THE strongest feeling that she was a boy. I even dreamt that she was.
You could have knocked me for six when she popped out
Feelings can be wrong. Try to stay calm.

Please stay calm OP. I felt odd in my fourth pregnancy, I just had a feeling I would have bad news. The baby ws such a surprise, it hadn't really sunk in. I had had no bleeding ( and I had had light bleeding in other pregnancies and they turned out fine too). But I just had this feeling of dread.
I felt sick at the scan due to nerves, but he was in there and I was actually a week further than I thought. I felt anxious that whole pregnancy, but there was no need for it, he is a healthy happy 16 month old. I hope all goes well tomorrow.

It’s such an awful feeling but as you’ve read here so many of us ‘knew’ something was wrong and in most cases it turned out just fine.
I’m glad your mum is with you.

Is it not human nature to always expect the worst and then things can only improve? Everytime I sit in a plane I can 'see' the news reports and pictures of the wreckage. When we were moving I expected every phone call to be the one saying it had all gone wrong.
I do hope everything goes well tomorrow, try to get a good night's sleep.

I was convinced too. Absolutely knew that it had happened. Went into the scan and told the radiographer that I knew it was bad news. That baby is now 24 years old!

Anxiety is terrible but try not to worry about things that haven't happened. Feelings aren't facts.

With my first child I had pains and bleeding at 6 weeks, they thought I had an ectopic pregnancy, I was scanned at 6 weeks and then again at 8weeks. Even having seen all was fine at 8 weeks I remember having lunch with my husband in the park before my scan feeling sheer dread, I couldn’t eat. I kept saying to my husband “what if there’s nothing in there now?”. I’m not a worrier so it was totally not like me to think like that, I think I had made myself think the worst so if it did happen it’d somehow be easier to deal with.

She turned 3 the other day and was perfectly healthy! I think it’s completely normal to have feeling like you do before the 12 week scan. Even with my second I felt very nervous, not as bad as the first, but I still held my breath until they turned the monitor around and said “there is your baby”.

Good luck, try not to worry yourself too much xx

I knew when my baby had died. I just deep down knew. Fortunately I’m an idiot. He’ll be 2 in a few weeks and is currently trying to persuade the dog to eat dog biscuits from his tea set when he should be in bed.

Please don’t get a Doppler. Even midwives can’t find a heartbeat with one this early and it won’t help you. Even in later pregnancy they are a bad idea if you aren’t specially trained to use one.

Bless you. Good luck for tomorrow, you'll be fine xx