To know it's all gone wrong night before 12 week scan?

[missymoon]

I've had such a good gut feeling this entire pregnancy. Now my 12 week scan is tomorrow and I feel so numb because I just know the baby's dead. I know it's gone wrong. I can just sense it. All the threads I've read about mmc say that they just knew and that's exactly how I feel. The day before my scan. What a sick joke :( can these feelings ever be wrong? Sorry I know it doesn't belong here but posting for traffic I need answers or I'm going to do nothing other than cry all night. This can't be happening.

I've had this feeling 5X. And 5X I was wrong! Thinking of you tomorrow x

Dsis was utterly convinced of the same.

It was twins

Good luck

I was slightly mental during both of my pregnancies due to the hormone fluctuations. DH was nice enough not to call me out on it, but in retrospect I was like "what was I thinking?"

Things are very likely fine.

night before my 12 week scan I was suddenly convinced something terrible happened. DD is now 22 yrs old, everything was fine

end of first trimester the nausea etc lessens and you don't really feel pregnant or have any sign til the kicking starts - nI bet that contributes to anxiety

I love seeing all these "yep hes/shes such and such an age now"
big hugs op.and you are never ever wrong for needing your mum.no matter what age.xx

So glad your mum is going to keep you company. Sometimes only mum will do!
Looking forward to your update tomorrow that all is well. Try to relax and have a restful night.

Perfectly normal to be a big ball of anxiety and nerves before any big event, 12 week scan is no exception. Hope it all goes well tomorrow OP.

I had absolutely no idea. No feelings. No intuition.
Baby had remained inside me for five weeks and I had no clue until the 12 week scan.
With my healthy pregnancies I prepared myself for the worst and got good news.

My DD is a grown up woman now, but prior to her I had an ectopic pregnancy and a couple of MC, along with periods of infertility. When I finally got pregnant with her the whole pregnancy was fraught with anxiety. I was in a constant state of worry and convinced that I would MC my baby. If she didn't move for a couple of hours, I would give her a prod to make sure everything was ok. Not helped that she wasn't a particularly wriggly baby.

As I have already mentioned I did even give birth to the best DD ever (IMO!).

I think you are describing is perfectly normal but it is very hard to keep in control. I hope everything goes well and you manage to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and deliver a healthy baby.

I do remember the feeling of envy though when friends and acquaitances flew through pregnancy without a worry or hiccup.

I had exactly this; she's thirty-four now and I've just been skyping her. She's real and alive and gorgeous.
Good luck OP.

Ah pet, you only have less than 24 hours to wait. I know when you desperately want something, you can feel so terrified of losing it, that it almost feels like a sign. I hope everything is perfect tomorrow!

There's probably a subconscious self preservation going on. If you manage to convince yourself that the worse outcome is true, should that outcome happen, you are prepared somewhat.

It's awful when the mind does these things to us. Try and get some sleep.

I had this too on my 1st at 8 weeks. I went to the gp and she listened and allowed me hear her heart. She is 10yo now.
I had a few more of those thoughts until I got bigger and was reassured by movement.
Good Luck tomorrow? Try not to worry to much

My ex boss told me she thought her baby had died. He was fine. He'll be about 10 years old now. Fingers crossed everything will be fine for you tomorrow

I think it's normal. I've had 2 losses one was a mmc, I had a very strong feeling something had happened and I was right when I got to 12 week scan at 14 weeks baby had died around 9-10. I'm currently 23 weeks pregnant and had the same feeling before 12 week scan and baby was healthy and fine and again before 20 week scan I was petrified and positive something would be wrong with the baby. I can feel her wriggling inside me atm. Goodluck OP xx

The night before my 12 week scan I was so convinced I’d had a mmc I got up at 2am and had a large glass of wine and a cigarette.

My daughter is now 9.....

Good luck for tomorrow xx

I was absolutely certain that they'd find no baby at the scan. So certain that I kept saying sorry to the staff because I was so embarrassed at wasting their time. He's 5 now so I was clearly wrong.

When you really really want something, and especially when you’ve had losses before, your brain can play terrible games on you. Add to that all the hormones of pregnancy and it’s not surprising that the sort of thoughts are very normal. I’m sure everything is fine and I’m the meantime these are for you

I really hope you are wrong, and thought I'd share my experience so you have ones from both sides.

I've had one mc, and I was convinced when pregnant again I'd misscarry. I googled all of it, molar pregnancies, mmc and was certain all was not well. I had a scan at 6 weeks but still felt this way until after 12 week scan I was looking at percentages of successful pregnancies at the amount of weeks and all sorts.

When all was well I became convinced I was going to have HIV when I had my bloods done, for no reason but I'd never been tested before (and pregnancy made me insane) I had no particular reason to be concerned but was awake all night racked with worry for a week or so

I had the same frets until my 20 week scan, it was only after this I believed I was actually going to be allowed to have a healthy baby.

I now have a 10 month old son.

Fingers absolutely crossed for you, and I hope all is well tomorrow.

Oh missy I am sure everything will be fine, glad your mum is coming to keep you company. Lots of love, I hope tomorrow goes well

I felt like this with dc1 and they are 30 years old. All the best for tomorrow

Good luck for tomorrow