To know it's all gone wrong night before 12 week scan?

[missymoon]

I've had such a good gut feeling this entire pregnancy. Now my 12 week scan is tomorrow and I feel so numb because I just know the baby's dead. I know it's gone wrong. I can just sense it. All the threads I've read about mmc say that they just knew and that's exactly how I feel. The day before my scan. What a sick joke :( can these feelings ever be wrong? Sorry I know it doesn't belong here but posting for traffic I need answers or I'm going to do nothing other than cry all night. This can't be happening.

I cried at my first scan with DS2 for this reason, I just couldn't believe he was alive! The sonographer had to convince me. Just to warn you I did have postnatal MH problems so please see a GP if you continue to have intrusive thoughts.

All the best for tomorrow OP

I went along to my 6th pregnancy scan (3 children, 2 MMCs) convinced it was another MMC - I was 14 weeks and had been bleeding on and off. Nearly 16 y/o DS sitting next to me. Keeping my fingers crossed for you OP.

Oh op, I really hope everything’s okay.

Just rang my mum so hysterical that she thought I was saying I'd miscarried, when I said no I just think I have she laughed and said oh that's fine then, everyone feels like that. DH is away at a work conference and is meeting me at the hospital for the scan so my mums coming to keep me company for the night. Haven't rang my mum crying since I was a teenager - what is wrong with me! So hope you are all right and I am wrong. Thank you so much for the replies.

Good Luck for tomorrow OP.
I did kick counting with two pregnancies and ended up going in to hospital and clinic on two occasions (one per baby) for them to find a heartbeat for me as anxiety was through the roof... in fairness both times they could not have been nicer and despite probably having time constraints not only reassured me by doing a doppler but took the time to handhold and say I could return any time I had similar concerns.
So I understand your anxiety and wish you all the best x

I would say the fact pregnancy hormones are affecting you such is a very good sign all is well op!!

Could it be that you are sensing a change that tends to come at around 12 weeks - as you enter the second trimester ?

Any change feels worrying if you have had previous MC and if you are feeling a bit more sensitive than usual (due to an increasing cocktail of hormones)

I hope that you can sleep and that all will be well. Babies are amazingly tough little things.

I hope we are all correct too and that you are wrong ]cake] Glad your mum's there - we all need our mum sometimes no matter how old you are. Hope you feel better tomorrow xx

even !

I can’t promise you everything will be ok, but I can understand why you feel so anxious. You miscarried in the past and until you see that little heart beating on the hospital monitor, it just doesn’t feel real.

Calm down, a lot of us have been there, panicking will not change anything.

I hope tomorrow you get to see a lovely scan picture of your baby, that will help make it seem all the more real, but until you know different, please don’t assume the worst just yet.

I woke up one night at 9 months pregnant, convinced my pregnancy was all just a dream, even putting on my hands on my bump did nothing to alleviate my fear that it was all too good to be true, I’m sure that’s all you are feeling.

Good luck with your pregnancy. Come back tomorrow and let us know how wonderful your scan was.

feelings are very deceptive OP - you can’t rely on them to be accurate. I’m wishing you all the best

Yes I lost all my pregnancy symptoms just before scan... and i was due to go to London for scan. I rang 101 to ask if i could get scan locally as baby was dead. They referred me to nurse who laughed at me (which i still think is unproffessional) but must be v common. She was right, I was wrong, DD is 11.

I remember feeling exactly the same, both times. I wouldn’t even look at the scan screen.

I was wrong, both times. This is so common, I promise. I’m glad your mum is coming to stay with you x

Good luck tomorrow, try to put everything in to perspective tonight I know it’s hard but chances are you’ll be fine.

Ah Missymoon, that's lovely that your mum is coming to stay. Hope you get some sleep, and that you can post here tomorrow to say all is well.

I felt this way too! And cried going in for the scan! Was so anxious, but think that can be normal! Good luck op!

Your mum sounds utterly lovely and I feel sure you will be an utterly lovely mum too. Well done on dealing with these feelings and good luck for tomorrow.

Do you know anyone that might have a fetal Doppler you can borrow for tonight? Might put your mind at rest. The hospital wouldn't do anything about a feeling I'm afraid, and they probably wouldn't be able to scan you tonight anyway.

I 100% felt like this. I was absolutely convinced. I was wrong, and my DD is now 8. Hope all goes well for you.

Thinking of you OP and wishing you and your baby well for tomorrow.

I’ve had two mmc, one found at 12 week scan and one at 10 weeks and had not a clue before hand.

With this pregnancy I had a bleed at 9 weeks and was convinced we’d lost it, just completely adamant. I was so shocked when we had a scan the next day at the EPU and it was in there with a strong hb I couldn’t say a word! All is going well.

As a lot of people have said, feelings are just feelings. Crossing everything for you!

my friend felt the same.

Her son is three now

I've been there. I had that feeling. I had 2 mmc and my 3rd pregnancy the bleeding started a week 4. Each scan was too early to tell. By week 12 I was convinced id lose again. I just had that feeling. That feeling was wrong very wrong. DC is almost 3. Try not to fret. That a easier said then done, I know but if you worry you'll just put more pressure on yourself.

Do you know anyone that might have a fetal Doppler you can borrow for tonight?
Don’t do this. Even an experienced sonographer can struggle to find the heartbeat this early on and if you can’t find it you will feel worse.

OP, this is just the mind playing cruel tricks on you. Try to get some sleep and best of luck for tomorrow.

Physical illness such as HG can have a very real impact on our emotions as well as our bodies, @missymoon - so it is perfectly possible that you are feeling this sense of something being very wrong because of the HG, not because there is a problem with the pregnancy.

I hope that you can put your worries aside tonight, and that you get good news tomorrow. I will be thinking of you.

For what it’s worth, when I was in labour with ds3, I was suddenly overcome with the fear - the certainty - that there was something wrong with him. He was born fit and well, turned 21 last year, and is a strappingly healthy young man. Our minds can and do play horrible tricks on us!

I'm sure everything is fine, I hope your feelings turn out to be unfounded