To know it's all gone wrong night before 12 week scan?

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I've had such a good gut feeling this entire pregnancy. Now my 12 week scan is tomorrow and I feel so numb because I just know the baby's dead. I know it's gone wrong. I can just sense it. All the threads I've read about mmc say that they just knew and that's exactly how I feel. The day before my scan. What a sick joke :( can these feelings ever be wrong? Sorry I know it doesn't belong here but posting for traffic I need answers or I'm going to do nothing other than cry all night. This can't be happening.

Another one who was convinced it had all gone wrong (I had miscarried the year before). He's 14 now and moaning about his physics homework.
Good luck tomorrow

Good luck for tomorrow, try get some rest

I felt absolutely no feelings like this with my first - he was gravely ill and was born at 27 weeks (luckily now a healthy almost 6 year old!).

After 4 mcs and 3 year of TTC, i had bleeding and pain all the way through the first trimester with my second. I was so convinced he was dead I paid for 2 private scans before my dating scan. He was as healthy and robust as can be and came along at 39+6 after a 5 hour dream labour. Feelings cannot be relied on!!

I felt like that, she's now 20. I hope it is all OK for you.

I just knew that mine were girls (slightly different, but still), really strong feelings, both times. Both times I was wrong. Like everyone else is saying, feelings aren't facts.
Hope all goes well tomorrow.

I felt like this. Baby was absolutely fine.

We got a Doppler, could you try that? We used ours a lot, it was good to have that reassurance.

None of us can know how tomorrow will go but it's very likely that this is nerves and anxiety kicking in. It's so common.

Please try to get some rest and good luck for tomorrow.

Yes you can be wrong. I'd even been for a scan at 7 weeks and still by my 12 week scan had convinced myself that the baby was no longer alive. She's 6 months old next week.

I was convinced there was no baby all along as one of my tests had been negative. I had a deal with my friend if I had been wrong and there was no baby at the scan we weren’t going home we were going straight to the airport. There was a baby.

Look after yourself tonight, try and get some sleep and good luck.

Your feelings are very normal op

Try and have a good nights sleep, read or something or watch something funny before you go to bed.

If it helps I have had a missed miscarriage and had no idea I felt totally pregnant still so a feeling is no barometer really so try to keep calm. It then took another 3 years to fall pregnant again but now I have a beautiful strapping 2.5 year old and am 11+5 with number 2 after another 18 months of trying so stay positive

I was convinced I was having a mmc and really felt like I 'knew'. I cried all the way to the scan and was inconsolable. I'm due to give birth next week, baby is very much alive and well and kicking me in the ribs as I type this!

So glad to hear your mum is there to support you. Do something lovely and distracting- I suggest watching something funny and comforting and plenty of tea and chocolate. I will be thinking of you tomorrow OP and sending you the very best of luck!

Good luck for tomorrow

I managed to convince myself that I had imagined the whole thing and they would tell me I was crazy and not pregnant! That imaginary baby is refusing to go to sleep now

Good luck for tomorrow, please come back with an update

DH had to do a scary manoeuvre in the car and I was sure the shock had killed the baby. She's currently playing volleyball…. I agree with a PP that it is self preservation. I really hope all is okay and I'll be thinking of you tomorrow even though I won't be able to come on line to check on you until later tomorrow.

same foxfox I was convinced that the tests were wrong and there would be nothing there. I even pictured in my head them telling me that

She definitely was there and is now nearly 10

You’ll be fine OP. Pregnancy makes us feel all sorts of anxieties. I’m sure your baby is just fine.

I was convinced I was going to get tragic news at my 12 week scan. I had had some bleeding and just had this awful feeling in the pit of my stomach. He's now 9 months old x

Talk to your midwife when you can as this sounds like anxiety and may well worsen. Better to get help now.

I knew something was wrong with my 1st pregnancy, i felt similar with my 2nd. 1st was a mmc, 2nd a healthy baby. Anxiety was awful in pregnancy and worst postnatal.

Hope you're mum is helpingbyou feel a bit more relaxed and that all goes well tomorrow

had a scare at 9 weeks. After 3 weeks of horrific morning sickness, it suddenly stopped and I was convinced something had gone wrong, especially as I have an underactive thyroid.

All was fine until 24 weeks when I started bleeding...

14year old DD is currently sprawled across the sofa with her kitten watching Corrie

Our minds play horrid tricks on us.
You have no way of knowing until the scan.
Hope you and your baby have a healthy pregnancy. Good luck for tomorrow.

Anxiety can make your worst fear seem completely real. It isn't just another word for worried. It can be so completely consuming that it's all you can think about and it whispers to you that your worst fear is actually happening. This is understandable after what happened last time. But just because it happened last time doesn't mean it will now. You must tell your midwife how you are feeling.

No words other than I hope you're wrong, lots of thoughts with you.

Fingers crossed 🤞 for good news tomorrow.

Best of luck tomorrow xxx
I went for my very first scan so happy and full of excitement to see my first baby and came away in tears as I'd had a missed miss carriage, next time round was convinced it had happened again (and for 90% of the pregnancy) n I've just shouted up to an eleven year old rainbow baby to stop dicking about n get to sleep xxxx feelings can be wrong xxxx

Sure it's just nerves

Anxiety I reckon. It's a sucker!

Hope your mum's company will help x